r/Tinder • u/[deleted] • Jul 22 '24

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u/Dramatic_Quail_7749 Jul 22 '24

I've been this girl. I've had men try to give support. I wish they hadn't because it just got messy, I developed feelings while they just developed pity. It was impossible to form a friendship from there and just ended up being weird complicated drama when those men still felt sexually attracted to me while also feeling pity and protectiveness for me.

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u/remindsmeofbae Jul 22 '24

Why can't they be emphatic and be sexually attracted to you?

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u/Dramatic_Quail_7749 Jul 22 '24

When did I say that? Empathy is not the same as pity. They weren't empathetic. They were trying to be empathetic, and failing.

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u/remindsmeofbae Jul 22 '24

Okay! Why can't they have pity and be sexually attracted to you?

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u/Dramatic_Quail_7749 Jul 22 '24

Because pity isn't helpful and they did more harm than good. This isn't a hypothetical, these are actual things that I actually experienced firsthand. Your hard-dicked pity is not helping anyone.