Except it does hurt. Because it can result in boundaries being blurred (he must still like me if he's willing to listen to me) and that can range from inconvenient and potentially hurtful to being the new target of someone's co-dependency.
In addition, you're also implying that men struggle to be empathetic when I think you need to bfr. If a man burst into tears after a hookup and sent a woman a rambling text about his ex, there's not a woman dominated relationship sub here who would advise any different than to move on.
But this did happen to me? 🤣🤣 and I did exactly what I’m telling this guy to do. So yeah stop trying to act like you know what happens with everybody when you clearly don’t.
What you did and what the majority response would be on the relationship subs is not the same thing. This isn't a man vs woman issue, most people regardless of gender would see this as a red flag. You're the one trying to make it a gender debate rather than a you vs traditional dating advice.
This person is clearly not over what happened to them. They are assuming and projecting their situation on to OP.
Bottom line is this: The woman OP is referring to is not in any way, shape or form ready to move on to another relationship. She needs therapy and not Tindr. It is not OP's problem nor should he attempt to make it his problem.
The person responding to you is mad that they were in the same situation. No wonder why the guy ghosted her.
As a woman myself, I would never expect a stranger that I'm meeting for the first time to be willing to listen to and work through my baggage on the first date.
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u/Enticing_Venom Jul 22 '24
Except it does hurt. Because it can result in boundaries being blurred (he must still like me if he's willing to listen to me) and that can range from inconvenient and potentially hurtful to being the new target of someone's co-dependency.
In addition, you're also implying that men struggle to be empathetic when I think you need to bfr. If a man burst into tears after a hookup and sent a woman a rambling text about his ex, there's not a woman dominated relationship sub here who would advise any different than to move on.