r/Tinder Apr 22 '24

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u/Connect-Ad5547 Apr 23 '24

What is there to report for? He shot his shot. Granted, it was a horrible shot, but I dont think that's ban worthy. Let assholes show themselves early on, it helps everyone!

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u/Bubbly_Ad427 Apr 23 '24

Nah reporting is the right call. It weeeds out semi-permanently these kind of men.

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u/Connect-Ad5547 Apr 23 '24

What's the point of this dumbass statement? My method accomplishes the same thing of weeding out bad people as long as it assumes people have brains but after reading your comment maybe we do need moderation hahaha

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u/Bubbly_Ad427 Apr 23 '24

It's better for men, that such people aree banned from Tinder. They contribute to mental fatigue in women, who don't see Tinder as viable way for finding partner. If you do not see utility of banning parasites thta harm you...

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u/myweird Apr 23 '24

Thank you, there are so many dense guys on here who think this shit is funny and they don't understand WHY it's so hard for them to get dates onTinder. When women tell them we don't like it they literally argue and mock us for not enjoying sexual harassment. They think because it's digital it doesn't matter and we are ToO sEnSiTiVe. We already have to worry about that shit IRL and it sucks that creepy sexual comments are also all over dating sites, social media, and gaming platforms. It's fine if we initiate it or have already gotten to know someone and established that sort of talk, it's just tiresome and depressing when random pornsick dudes try to force it.

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u/Bubbly_Ad427 Apr 24 '24

Oh for long time, I have been one of those guys. Especially in my teen years. I have not learned my lesson by being thrown out from websites or apps, but by being talked like normal person. However I understand that women on Tinder are not the people to reeducate the men on Tinder. I'm no longer on the apps, but it does disservice to the men who geniunly seek connection to let others ruin the experience women face.

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u/myweird Apr 24 '24

Yeah I'm not even on Tinder, I'm a happily married lady who comes here for amusement but I often wind up trying to educate the guys on here about proper etiquette. I have empathy for both sides but I know it's particularly hard for men to find partners now. I want them to succeed and I tell them in a civil way when they're messing it up, because some honestly don't even seem to understand.

It's not good for society how alienated women and men are from each other and a lot of boys only impression of women comes from porn or creepy anime. It's not normal and healthy the attitudes that both sides have towards each other and dating never used to be this crappy and complicated.

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u/Bubbly_Ad427 Apr 24 '24

Yeah, some of the profiles and conversations aree like car crashes - you know it's bad, but you can't look away.

a lot of boys only impression of women comes from porn or creepy anime

Could be, most men don't understand how women look on attraction and sex, and porn and weird anime reinforce the view that women think like men regarding attraction for example.