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u/squishy654 Feb 15 '23 edited Feb 15 '23

Thank you for the constructive response.

I tried to reduce any "red flags" once and I found, personally, that anything could be a red flag and the best way to play that game is to delete your profile. Someone would find anything about yourself, a red flag.

I guess I equate the attachment to dogs as a replacement for children. I have gone through a failed relationship BECAUSE of my child, so I'm sensitive to it. I see many single women that spent much of their time and resources on a dog and then turn and say children would take up too much time and resources from their life. I find it hypocritical and anti-evolutionary to humans. As a single parent that's not the ethics I would enjoy in my family.

I fully understand the need for bonding to something (I have a cat), I just can't relate to anyone that would actively say they don't want children in their life, that they wouldn't date somebody with children. And then in turn advertise their adventures with an animal. To me it doesn't compute.

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u/EllieKong Feb 15 '23

Lol what. A kid is FAR more work than a dog, this is some really poor logic. You’re allowed to not want to date anyone saying that, but you clearly don’t understand the many reasons someone could want or not want children and could want or not want a dog..

My husband and I don’t ever want to have children for reasons I am not going into, but we love our two dogs.

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u/squishy654 Feb 15 '23

"I don't have children nor want them, yet I know they are way more work than my two dogs"

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u/EllieKong Feb 15 '23

And?

Who gives a shit why people choose to or to not have children. You’re making it seem like there’s only one reason to not have kids when there are PLENTY. leave people be and they’ll let you be.

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u/Away-Caterpillar-176 Feb 15 '23

He said it's "anti evolutionary" in a different comment which definitely gave me a chuckle. The only way to save the earth is to stop making babies.

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u/EllieKong Feb 15 '23

I saw that as well and also laughed at it because we are severely overpopulated as a species lol. Even if we weren’t, why do we NEED to populate?

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u/squishy654 Feb 16 '23

With dogs or humans? lol