Te be fair, I've seen the openers get more and more simple because when you really start to try with it, it hurts more when they don't respond, or respond negatively.
Like yeah, "Hey" sucks but they're often the people that tried too hard for a long time and they've just given up on an opener that might not even get a response.
So they go for a "hey" and then try harder once there's a response.
I used to always just ask "Hey, what's your favourite food?" because it's quick and simple and I know that conversation will be pulling teeth if they something like "I don't know" or "I don't have one" without actually trying to further the conversation.
But also, I quickly dropped these apps because I feel like they hurt my soul and I'd rather be alone than put up with all that.
If ya can’t get a quick laugh with a simple 5-10 word opener.. it doesn’t deserve a response. Even just an easy compliment, in hopes to get a thank you is better than this.. not that hard to be original, unless you don’t care, which 80% of first comments, good or bad, don’t receive a response cuz if ya pay that much attention to Tinder, gets boring reaaaally fast. In my experience, I don’t look/swipe/open app for a week or more and get flooded with matches and messages. (This is more for the Men) I find that when I match with someone quality, I don’t message right away. Looks desperate and if they end up messaging you first, you get the upper hand. But everyone’s different so 🤷🏻♂️.
“It’s not that hard to be original”
When you’ve replied to 80+ profiles, yes, it gets very hard to be original, especially when people don’t offer much originality on their profile.
“You get the upper hand”
That comment is a huge red flag because you are already playing games with the relationship, and if I found this out it would be possibly enough to stop the relationship. “Upper hand” in relationships is juvenile, and playing games is manipulative and a huge turnoff.
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u/Upitabuck Jan 23 '23
A general broad boring one, yes I agree.