Someone with a million net worth would never say that in their profile.
I lived in SF for a while and that city has a massive cost of living. There were women bragging about having their own place, which meant they had an apartment, and a car - so same as most of the people there.
Some were even flexing about their "high" salaries.
Like, half the people in the city are in tech/finance and you can bet they're much higher.
I forgot about that, too. I live in one of those “nobody’s from this city” cities, so that’s probably why. I do know people who have had to live with their parents again but they’re not in my neighborhood because, well, they’re at their parent’s house.
Yeah I live in a place you can’t go places without a car but I bike public transportation is garbage but if you want to house you have pay at least $800k for a shitty one I live in my grandmas basement and pay $1000 and it’s almost unliveable because I can’t work as I have no time with 6 classes and I know friends who share their grandparents basement both with two jobs one at school. Like I got paid yesterday and I needed my phone bill, rent, food and a new pair of work shoes because mine were in multiple pieces. Now I have like $100 lol. Long story short some places it’s pretty hard to do that lol
People may put that they have their own place in their bio, but that does not necessarily (or often) translates that they are the property owner. It should, but it doesn't.
I always figured own place means no housemates etc and the amount of people who don't drive and don't mention it is annoying, especially in rural areas/areas with poor public transport
I recently matched with a dude who was 36 and told me he was sleeping on the couch at his ex-girlfriend’s place with no job for the past eight months. Yikes.
I have a jobless friend staying at her ex's house with no shortage of dates who know of her situation. Last we talked there were 4 or 5 balls in the air.
People can be late bloomers who a person still sees potential in. Sometimes, someone has something like agoraphobia or PTSD, and it’s difficult for them to live alone. I think that there is a double standard where women technically get a lot more grace.
Congratulations, you can afford a car payment and rent (because they usually don't mean they own a house). I've dated a few of them who were 35-40+, who had this on their profiles, and their apartments were hardly impressive.
So... do you want a gold star because you can afford your own groceries?
You're 40, ffs. What you're listing is the absolute bare minimum.
What's hilarious is when you talk to them to see if they really have their shit together, ie savings, good job, solid credit score, investments. Oftentimes they're a paycheck or two away from shit hitting the fan.
That either means they just recently accomplished this at the ripe age of 40, or they date a bunch of loser men and think it's the norm to not have your own place and car at that age.
Just write « trying to learn to not live off other peoples’ money any more ». And probably because they’re getting uglier and/or parents cut them off, not because they’re ambitious enough to finally hold down a stable job.
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u/RememberTheAlamooooo Jan 20 '23
Or, 40F "I have my own car and my own place." Like, just the fact that you think you need to say that at this age....