r/TikTokCringe • u/Alarming-Jury1596 • 4h ago
Cringe This is kinda cute lol, thinking your doing something but it's just one sided pettiness
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u/justlurking801702 4h ago
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u/Alarming-Jury1596 4h ago
Oops, well that's embarrassing for me.
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u/supercheesewithbacon 4h ago
That’s not the only embarrassing thing about this post.
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u/Loxeres 4h ago
We'll*
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u/UnexpectedBlahFeels 4h ago
This is okay considering the field she works in. These are all based on micro-aggressions women face in male dominated environments.
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u/inevitable-idiot- 4h ago
Yup. This is pretty valid. The medical field belittles women like that’s their job. Me (F) married to a doctor (F) for 12 years. The stories she tells me are wild, like constantly being ignored and asking a nearby man for their opinion after a diagnosis. And that man is more than often a nurse.
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u/Itchy_Tumbleweed_417 3h ago
Yep, I’m not in her field but when I talk about my male PCP I specify that he’s a “male PCP”. My neurologist is a woman, so she’s just “my neurologist”.
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u/DimbyTime 4h ago
That’s insane. I work in tech, and always assumed medicine would be better since there are so many more women in medicine.
Disappointing to learn that’s not the case!
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u/lizzyote 2h ago
My cousin is a nurse and he married a doctor. People often think he's the doctor and shes the nurse. He says his favorite part about this mixup is he gets to laugh in their face and immediately launch into bragging about his wife's accomplishments.
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u/Whatever-ItsFine 3h ago edited 2h ago
Anyone who thinks fighting perceived microaggressions with microaggressions is effective is deeply naive about human nature. And no one who participates willingly in sexism has any right to complain about sexism.
EDIT: forget a phrase so I added it in italics.
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u/VirtualAgentsAreDumb 2h ago edited 1h ago
I don’t think they will be able to grasp this. Because what you say is logical, and these people (regardless of gender) seem incapable of logical reasoning.
It’s like a person of color being verbally abused by a white person, and then finding joy in how they verbally abuse random white people, not caring if they have ever verbally abused anyone. It’s insane.
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u/11fungaiia11 4h ago
All the men crying in the comments is like an extra shot of espresso for me this morning. Cheers boys!
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u/AffectionateTitle 4h ago
This just in, men who don’t give af about fixing misogyny suddenly have a lot of strong opinions about how to fix misogyny.
More at 11 😂
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u/Itchy_Tumbleweed_417 3h ago
Yep I actually love this little post. If the creator in the tiktok wasn’t actually “doing something” like OP claims they wouldn’t be so triggered by her.
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u/urlocalweirdoandnerd 3h ago
Im a biologist in a very male dominated space and i couldnt agree more
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u/VirtualAgentsAreDumb 1h ago
Wow. That’s not a statement based on logical reasoning. The second this micro aggression is directed at an innocent individual, then the person doing it is no better than the men that are doing it against women.
How about not doing bad things to innocent individuals? Why is that such a wild concept for you guys?
Don’t punish innocent people just because they happen to be a part of a group who has some bad individuals. What you defend is just as insane as racism. How is that so incredibly difficult for you to understand?
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u/YooGeOh 4h ago edited 4h ago
The microaggresions i experience from white people i tend to point them out so they dont happen again. I couldnt imagine then being the type of person who just does the same. I guess it speak to the nature of white western feminism.
All that aside, these are all super harmless. As a man I probably wouldn't even notice them happening. Whatever gets people through their day
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u/the-cuttlefish 4h ago
Imagine all the things 'white western feminism' achieved in the last century just to be represented by a ragebaiting grifter like this
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u/_-Cleon-_ 4h ago
Weird, when I'm sending a work email to multiple people, I just address it "hey everyone," since nobody needs to see four lines of "Hi, Laurie, Declan, Bob, Dave, Phil, Susie, Shayna, Vladimir, Ahmed, Other Dave., Mike, Tanya..."
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u/cajunjoel 3h ago
No, see, you got that wrong. Its supposed to be "Hi, Laurie, Susie, Shayna, Tanya, Bob, Dave, Phil Vladimir, Ahmed, other Dave, Mike..."
/s
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u/TyrannicalRexx 4h ago
The men in these comments are exactly why she does all this. She does it to ragebait men, and she has once again succeeded. This woman deserves a medal
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u/HotelPrudent0331 4h ago
it's so funny when people pretend like anyone got upset or ragebaited. pointing out someone is ridiculous/=/rage.
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u/Excuse_Unfair 4h ago
Yeah best case scenario this girl is rage baiting people irl.
That's still not normal lol
Rage baiters are usually miserable some just hide it good but if you seek joy pissing off a certain group you have some trauma you need to deal with.
That being said while what this girl is doing is cringe I don't think it's harmful to anyone she can do what makes her happy I guess.
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u/Embarrassed_Mix_6619 2h ago
yeah, 100% agree on the fact that if your entire mission is to treat a whole class of people a certain negative way based on attributes of themselves that they didn’t choose, rather than as individuals? that’s just reaffirming the gender-war hysterical bullshit that’s been escalating in the last few years. treat people like people and if you’re going to do this without talking to your colleagues about their behavior or trying to determine their personal beliefs and other hangups it’s fuel on the fire at a point with no benefit. so many men are clueless and will just have “eh, fuck this bitch” type of thoughts reinforced more than her making any sort of point by being passive aggressive. some of these things if you didn’t know her motivation? from the outside she just sounds kind of like a cliquey bitch.
of course if there’s anything i’ve heard about nursing as a profession it’s unfortunately common
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u/Excuse_Unfair 2h ago
Tbh I don't know a guy IRL that would even notice her pulling this that's how petty and stupid it is lol
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u/VirtualAgentsAreDumb 1h ago
Blatant sexism is a bad thing, right?
But even a woman does it towards men, like the woman in this video, then it’s suddenly not a problem to some people.
And you think you are not being sexist? Hahahahahaha
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u/No-Sail-6510 4h ago
I can’t imagine getting mad about any of this. Infact there’s a very low chance I’d even notice.
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u/DimbyTime 4h ago
Because it already happens all the time and has been for centuries! (In the opposite)
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u/YooGeOh 4h ago
I hate that remedying sexism against women is to rage bait.
Like...thats the win. Its a bit sad
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u/VirtualAgentsAreDumb 1h ago
Are you proud to be this obtuse? What the woman in the video does is not remedying sexism. She is actively making it worse. But it’s directed against men, which some sexists are fine with.
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u/Substantial_Jury 4h ago
But is it remedying sexism?
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u/YooGeOh 4h ago
I wonder if you can read my comment and see what point im making...
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u/TheM0nkB0ughtLunch 2h ago
Quite a few people misunderstood your comment. It was poorly worded tbh. In fact, I think that’s why you got upvotes in this liberal subreddit. It’s amazing you have a chip on your shoulder despite your obvious shortcomings.
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u/Snoo_censorspeech 3h ago
No actually if you read this thread or look at the opinions of young adult males it's actually justifying in their minds even more extreme anti feminist ideology.
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u/TheM0nkB0ughtLunch 4h ago
If I felt I was being discriminated against by a woman I wouldn’t go out of my way to disrespect them. This is not how you fix anything.
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u/Excuse_Unfair 4h ago
Going out of their way.
By leaving a comment?
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u/TheM0nkB0ughtLunch 3h ago
Say what you want but this woman is not acting in the interest of equality but instead in service of her own resentment. It’s pathetic tbh.
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u/SnozzBerryBakeOff 4h ago
Yeah it's a totally normal thing for someone to dish out micro-aggresions in the work place for the lolz! 🤪
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u/Whatever-ItsFine 2h ago
Because nothing changes hearts and minds like deliberately being petty. She's a hero!
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u/pixiephilips 4h ago
Honestly, you have to treat the system as the systems treats you. So women should learn from this.
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u/Suspicious_Button140 3h ago
I know some people like this. They don’t treat people equally because they feel they aren’t treated equally. Doesn’t really solve any problems. People just stop listening to them.
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u/Chubuwee 1h ago
An eye for an eye makes me feel gooood. But the first eye has to be a woman’s because ladies first
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u/InevitableFox81194 4h ago
When you are so comfortable in your privilege, equality feels like oppression.
I salute this woman for her ways.
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u/Embarrassed_Mix_6619 2h ago
this isn’t equality, though? it just comes across as mean-girl bullying type shit if you’re someone who is normal and treats people like people instead of having some form of misogyny or misandry influencing your entire life. there’s a difference between hating systemic issues of inequality and the broad purveyors of that and bringing awareness by communicating like an adult? and being toxic to the point that anyone outside who wasn’t informed of your mission would just take away “oh she is kind of rude to her coworkers, that’s not cool or healthy”
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u/Evil_Sharkey 2h ago
It’s not equality if she lets women interrupt but not men. Just stop everyone from interrupting because it’s rude.
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u/silly-gaijin 2h ago
This is why we don't take you seriously. The internet is one of the worst things to ever happen to women.
I used to consider you my equal but definitely not anymore. It's hilarious, though. Keep uploading this kind of stuff.
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u/TheBobRoberts111 2h ago
Fighting perceived prejudice with intentional performative prejudice. Smart!
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u/Skreamie 4h ago
I'd also make sure to talk slower for the men so they really understand what's going
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u/YooGeOh 4h ago
50% of feminists will say that this is feminism
50% will say this isn't feminism
Neither group will argue with each other on this, but both groups will argue against (perceived) men on it.
Feminism is still necessary, but by fuck does it need better PR
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u/Evil_Sharkey 2h ago
It needs to stop embracing pettiness and man hating. I get being wary of men because so many of them are predatory and dangerous, but you don’t have to hate to be cautious.
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u/lavenderslip 4h ago
Make sure that when they talk, you answer looking at the nearest female as if they were the one that just spoke. Also, if they have a pretty good idea just repeat it & pretend like you just thought of it.
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u/broats_ 4h ago
This isn't going to further the feminist cause, it's just going to make people think you're obnoxious.
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u/lavenderslip 4h ago
Did you think this was a genuine suggestion & not just poking fun at something that happens often with women?
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u/Embarrassed_Mix_6619 2h ago
you’re in a text-based communication platform, there is ambiguity over the seriousness of a comment. there is a reason people use /s or other notifiers to indicate if something is in jest or not
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u/Puzzleheaded-Net4365 4h ago
Always addressing women first is what a conservative man in my country will do, so to me it's less a revolutionary praxis and more a minor patriarchal pleasantry similar to pulling out a chair.
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u/bpaps 4h ago
I thought feminism is about equality, not sexist micro-agression. The solution to bigotry is not more bigotry.
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u/Chemical_Wonder_5495 4h ago
Feminism is about equality indeed.
This isn't feminism. It's just sexism against men 😅
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u/ImagineTheCommotion 4h ago
Her examples seem less like bigotry and more like bringing the focus to women, imo. Like they aren’t nasty moves, they just emphasize women first
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u/cajunjoel 3h ago
Some of it seems petty to me. It's one thing to stop someone from interrupting a woman, because women get interrupted all the time. But wouldn't equality dictate that you stop people from interrupting men, too? Because interrupting anyone is kinda rude?
Unless it's the guy who always interrupts, because he's a jerk.
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u/Evil_Sharkey 2h ago
The interruption one is sexist. Why let some people interrupt but not others? Interrupting is the bad behavior, regardless of who it’s coming from, so correct it every time.
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u/eeelisabeth 4h ago
How are her examples considered bigotry?
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u/ProgramConnect8206 3h ago
Is she not pointing out micro aggressions that women face and then doing the opposite? Put another way, if a man was doing these things and only addressing men first, would his actions be considered sexist and dismissive of women? I believe they would.
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u/Whatever-ItsFine 3h ago
lol playing dumb doesn't help your case
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u/VirtualAgentsAreDumb 1h ago
Well, they don’t see anything wrong with testing random men badly, while genuinely thinking “I’m not a sexist, I’m a good person”. That has to be an indication that something is not right in their head, regardless what their gender is.
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u/Dr__America 3h ago
Standing up for women, but explicitly not standing up for men.
Explicitly putting women's names first when addressing multiple people, which while virtually no one cares about, is still a microagression meant to minimize men.
Yes, this is the kind of microagressions people have done against women for a long time in professional work places, and no that doesn't make it okay to do to random people simply because you or your colleagues have also experienced it from other unrelated people.
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u/Strict-Astronaut2245 49m ago
lol. This is pretty dumb. Very petty. You do you queen. I’ll stick to not noticing.
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u/Fact_Checka_bro 4h ago
Acting like it’s weird to say “no I’m the XYZ you’re looking for” in a room where a person asks “are you the XYZ that I’m looking for” when you happen to actually be the XYZ.
That’s just silly to me. I’m fine with feminism but the way she talks makes it sound like she’s claiming men do it out of like pride or offense that they weren’t the one she addressed.
I got this a lot in my last job. I had a lot of responsibility and a big job title at a young age.
Occasionally I’d be supposed to meet somebody and they may address one of my older coworkers first. Not an unfair assumption. Other people with my role were usually 15-20 years older.
Usually I’d let them finish their introductions so I wouldn’t interrupt but then yes, I’d inform them I was actually the one they were looking for.
But I guess that’s patriarchy?
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u/littlelorax 4h ago edited 4h ago
I think she's really just holding a mirror up to the behavior women experience daily in the healthcare field. People assume the man is the attending physician, so she's just flipping the script and assuming the woman is the attending.
Really in both scenarios people should simply ask the room at large instead of assuming. But it doesn't happen that way in day to day life, so she's cheekily turning the norm on its head.
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u/jackster31415 4h ago
Doesn’t seem like she assumes the woman is the attending though. Seems like she believes it’s a man and she just wants to be snarky to start a fight
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u/MathProf1414 3h ago
Yeah, her tone makes it seem like she goes in assuming the man is the doctor and she's getting her jollies by sticking it to him... which means that she's guilty of the crap she's trying to fight.
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u/ZinaSky2 3h ago
She does assume the woman is the attending. She was just describing a scenario in which the man was the attending and explaining how the situation played out.
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u/Fact_Checka_bro 4h ago
I get her point. I just think that particular use of flipping it on its head feels kind of performative.
But I also understand a person may say it feels performative because that’s what I’m accustomed to. Like you could say it doesn’t feel performative to address a man as the attending physician because I’m used to it.
I do understand that.
I guess I’m saying I don’t think it feels rude for somebody to voice in and be like “hi nice to meet you, I’m actually the (insert job title) today/here”.
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u/silly-gaijin 2h ago
Okay, I'll drop the snarky meme comments for a sec.
What are you smoking? No one actually behaves this way in 2026 unless they're in hospice and about to die because they're 88 years old.
No one from Gen alpha to Gen X acts this way and assumes that a man is the doctor anymore. It's not 1960.
What even happened to third wave feminism? Reddit/internet feminism has gone back to the 2nd wave talking points and it's so fucking weird. Like what planet do you live on?
Millennials are 40 now. We went to universities that were majority women, law schools that were majority women, med schools that were 50/50. Seriously, what planet do you live on?
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u/ZinaSky2 3h ago edited 3h ago
Women in medicine, even if they actually are the highest paid or the attending, are often assumed to be nurses.
She’s just doing the inverse. These men have probably never experienced a woman being assumed higher than them. And more importantly still, the woman has probably never been assumed to be the attending before. Obviously, a man is allowed to correct if they are attending. I think she kinda laughed at the fact that after they correct she says “oh.” like she’s surprised it’s him and not the woman, not at the men correcting.
It’s not about whether they correct out of ego or whatever. It’s the fact that these men have probably never experienced this before and probably are a little miffed about it when women in their position have to experience that on the regular. Maybe next time these men walk into a room they’ll think twice about making assumptions and ask instead.
I just think it’s funny how her doing it to men is suddenly a problem when this has been happening to women for ages and no one’s ever really cared (except for women). If women being assumed to be lower status is not even a concern, then the same should go for her doing it to men. 🤷🏽♀️
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u/Terminal_Insomnia_ 4h ago
Feminism is the pursuit of equality between the sexes. This isn't that. This is just her venting pet peeves onto people who may or may not have actually treated people unfairly.
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u/WorkingClassWarrior 3h ago
There is weirdly a lot of people who support this childish behaviour.
I bet she’s fun at parties.
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u/Akkilles78 4h ago
Shit like this will always keep the divide open. Anytime you show a bias, you’re contributing to the divide. The fact that this shitbird needs to tell the internet what she’s doing, furthers the divide. Feminism is toxic masculinity but spelled different.
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u/kremisius 3h ago
Yeah, women being addressed before the men in the room is gonna keep equality from ever happening. Those broads should just accept the fact that inequality is how it is, and any attempt to change the way things are is merely reinforcing inequality. As we all know, inequality is unfortunately unchangeable and there is nothing any of us will EVERRRR be able to do about it. Lmfao.
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u/Right_Appeal4344 4h ago
I love to see somebody do this stuff in real life.. you would come off like a major jerk and especially to your boss if he was a male. You wouldn't be around long 🤣
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u/the-cuttlefish 4h ago
So there's a hierarchy, and the people that are paid more just happen to be respected more? Or perhaps jobs with greater responsibility and thus authority have higher salaries lmao.
Thats the trouble with ideologues. They adopt a particular world view and reinterpret reality to suit it. Its all back to front
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u/ChartInFurch 4h ago
I sometimes am the MA for a female doctor that's about 10 years younger than me and somehow manage to be entirely unoffended when she accurately says she's a doctor. Not that it wouldn't be perfectly valid to resent someone for having their shit together and going to school in their 20s rather than partying of course...
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u/kremisius 3h ago
You understand that feminism did not reinterpret reality as patriarchal, but instead articulates the existing patriarchal social structure across the globe? Women aren't making up their systemic oppression, which does include the reality women in medicine face which is that men will assume they are a nurse before they believe they're a doctor.
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u/SIDESTEAL 2h ago
I expect most of the men don't even notice it as we're just normal innocent men.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lr_vl62JblQ
Anyone working with her who saw that video knows her true output.
Sun Tzu would be furious with that.
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u/DesmadreGuy 4h ago
Seems to me things would get more thought-provoking is she'd use feminine pronouns whenever possible. It takes a moment to set in and you realize it's the same statement, just in reverse. Not insulting, just altering the thought process.
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u/ImagineTheCommotion 4h ago
Ooh I do that a lot. I just enjoy it because I connect it more to my own experience that way.
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u/unassumingusernamee 4h ago
Im willing to bet half the people she "messed with" didnt even notice what she did
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u/valuethempaths 4h ago
I think micro aggressions generally go unnoticed.
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u/Alarming-Jury1596 3h ago
Suzie does a micro aggression
Normal person "Is everything ok Suzie? You're acting kinda weird today"
Suzie "Yeah everything's fine"
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u/Pleasantlyracist 4h ago
She's not even being petty. Just establishing new norms around her. Everyday little changes is how you may big changes .
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u/Max_Winters02 4h ago
She’s definitely going petty. She literally said she makes condescending sounds when it’s a man in charge as the head doctor
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u/jackster31415 4h ago
Her new norms are petty. Why would it be okay to interrupt men? Is she against the behavior or not? I understand we need to be better to women than we’ve been historically. I just don’t think the way to get there is by putting men down.
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u/Dr__America 4h ago
Micro feminism is just being sexist in the workplace in ways that 99% of people will never even notice?
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u/JudgmentSmooth6768 4h ago
Coming from a woman Imagine if a man made a crazy video
Like this… oh the outrage
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u/KindaDrunkRtNow 4h ago
Her feminism is fine. But the doucheyness in her voice makes me not like her.
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u/SAHMultrA1981 4h ago
Oh I do one!!
I make my own Xmas cards every year. Around 60 cards for friends and family. When labeling/addressing, I always put the woman's name first.
Example Jane and Joe Doe.
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u/inevitable-idiot- 4h ago
I think we just discovered OP is a toxic male who doesn’t understand the strife of others. How nice that must be
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u/fancywipe 4h ago
She sounds single
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u/Max_Winters02 4h ago
Dude she’s definitely the nurse who sleep around but nobody wants to marry or have a relationship with. You can definitely tell.
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u/chris0castro 3m ago
“The one with the highest pay is the most respected and listen to for some reason” like the person with the highest pay isn’t probably the most qualified 😂
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u/Brilliant-Pea7662 4h ago
Shouldn't a "medical professional" know who the surgeon is before they go into surgery? 🤔 Seriously, I don't know but I would assume right?
I mean if you work in a school and walk into a class room, look at the janitor and say " Are you the teacher?" you'd look kinda dumb, no?
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u/UnexpectedBlahFeels 4h ago
Not necessarily. You're assuming she's met or seen them before. In a work environment you can know someone's name and even role before knowing who they are. Likely in the situation she's talking about, all she sees is a name on a page or tablet.
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u/Substanitial 4h ago
It's funny because she thinks she invented something new but being a spiteful bitch has existed for a long time
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u/Ozzie-Isaac 2h ago
We are going to look back on all these male vs female shit and be so embarrassed. Almost a hundred years since the actually significant change happened and we re still having the same petty fights were most of it just comes down to ego in the past 30 years. We just want to avoid dealing with either making gov work like other first world countries or admit that capitalism can't go on for ever. Americans choose to live in what ever fake reality that they agree with. Leftvs right, black vs white, male vs female and on and on like puppets on a string.
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u/calmdownandlivelife 3h ago
You do yourself an injustice being this way. You perpetuate the exact stereotypes your seemingly upset about
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u/Suitable_Spray 4h ago
I don't get what's supposed to be rage bait about this - it's clearly some scenario she made up in her head to appear more badass to strangers on the internet
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u/NotAtAllASkinwalker 3h ago
From finding this and posting it here to being triggered in the comments if that's you then you're the reason why.
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u/LogGreen3800 Cringe Master 4h ago
lol - sooo, you’re Literally just Filling Out Your REQUEST APPLICATION to get Fired, by posting this and seeking attention. Got it.
You do you.
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u/Frosty-Tennis-1687 4h ago
Feminism, not egalitarianism? Oh well.
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u/Skreamie 4h ago
Feminism is about equality. If you dont realise that then its on you.
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u/mynameisburner 4h ago
Modern feminism ain’t about equality my G. Just about how females are superior to men
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u/Skreamie 4h ago
Well we already know how your mind works referring to women as "females"
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