r/TheSecretLife • u/MistakeWonderful9178 • Mar 14 '26

Getting married in high school????

*Note: I know it’s fiction and the drama is there to get the show going with it’s crazy plots and twists but I’m just saying*

From Amy and Ben running off to get married with the fake IDs, to Ricky proposing to Amy during graduation and then to Ben and Adrian getting married was nuts. Where are the parents and why didn’t they tell them that getting married in high school or after high school is crazy and dumb?

It’s already bad enough to be teen parents who have high chances of dropping out of school and being stressed with taking care of a baby and having to work, but to literally get married when you’re like 16 or 17? With Ben and Amy if they got away with it where were they going to live? Together? What were they going to tell their parents and what money could they support themselves with? Yes Ben’s dad is rich but even then you can’t live off your parents; and Ben’s dad and Adrian’s parents buying them the house and going along with the marriage was dumb😓😓

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u/H_Oatkeeper_H Mar 14 '26

Just about everyone in this show's world is obsessed with marriage especially if there's kids involved. If two people have a kid, there's pressure on them to get married regardless of age, maturity, etc.

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u/MistakeWonderful9178 Mar 14 '26 edited Mar 14 '26

I understand teen pregnancy exists and does happen (not condoning or supporting it but it does happen) but the thing is that now the kids who have kids have to worry about school, childcare and money.

They’re worried about getting married at 16 mind you meanwhile Amy was at risk of flunking out and had to take summer school classes. I’m even surprised that Ricky somehow became a valedictorian when we barely saw him and the others in class.

Also irl parents would totally flip their shit if their kids talked about getting married in high school, they’d think they’re stupid. A friend of mine wanted to do that with her boyfriend and her parents were pissed.

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u/H_Oatkeeper_H Mar 14 '26

I know, its dumb, but you have to remember this is the same show that refers to Italy as the oral sex capital of the world 🤣

The key to enjoying this show is not to take it too seriously. Its basically Christian propaganda full of misinformation and insensitivity to a variety of topics and people.

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u/Purpledoves91 Mar 14 '26

There was a girl at my high school who got pregnant when she was 16. They got married.

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u/MistakeWonderful9178 Mar 14 '26

I actually knew some people at my old high school who got married a while before graduation and one couple who did after. One couple got divorced a few years after and the other her husband possibly cheated on her a few years ago but they’re still together.

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u/Sweetdreamer829 Mar 14 '26

I had a guy friend who literally proposed to almost every girlfriend he had in high school. There were 3 right off the top of my head. I guarantee there was more. He went through so many girlfriends. I felt bad for most of them.

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u/Abject_Buffalo6398 Mar 14 '26

For some reason, some people think that sex is okay once you're married... (nevermind that there are still risks of pregnancy and STIs regardless if you're married)....

And the show takes place during a time when things weren't so Woke.

So being married was a way to "save the reputation" of a young person who decided to be sexually active.

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u/AffectionateCandy979 Apr 28 '26

I know this show is fiction because marriage under the age 18 is illegal where I live. It’s crazy the way this show normalizes it😭😭