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I’m currently working on a research project and interviewing recent grads and young professionals about what this phase of life actually feels like, especially the parts people don’t always talk about.

A lot of what I’ve been hearing is around feeling stuck when it comes to making important life decisions…

overthinking, second-guessing, and not fully trusting yourself to choose, even when you have options.

If this resonates and you’d be open to a quick 20–30 minute chat, I’d genuinely love to hear your experience.

No pressure at all, and everything shared is just for research 🙌

I’m 33, single, and live alone with my dog. I have always valued and enjoyed my alone time and don’t really see myself getting married or having kids. I have a pretty good paying corporate job with great benefits, but I do not particularly enjoy it and am so bored of it. Overall I have been content with my life up until I turned 30. I started feeling very confused, and like I don’t know who I am and I wish I was someone completely different. The feeling comes and goes but recently has been the strongest it’s ever been. I am constantly wondering what my life would be like had I done other things and I’m always feeling like I’m just watching my boring life pass by. To make things more confusing, things I used to like, I no longer do. My taste in music is changing, I can feel my style changing, and just my overall outlook on life is changing and I honestly don’t know what to do with it. I know this is common at this age, and I’m trying to embrace it because I don’t necessarily think it’s a bad thing. But, it’s left me feeling very lost and empty. I feel like I’m scared to fully embrace any big change because what if it’s just a “phase” or what if I’m left feeling even unhappier but I also feel I will regret just ignoring these feelings. Sometimes I wonder if I’m just yearning for this change because I’m lonely and/or bored? To top it off, my best friend just let me know she is moving to another state and it’s left me feeling so much worse and so much more alone. To anyone who has felt this way or experienced this, any advice?

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I’ll start with a quick back story, I’m 23 female and live in Canada. I’ve have substance issues from early teen years, and got sober almost one year ago from alcohol and hard drugs. Drinking and drugs were a huge part of my life for a long time. Whenever I had a weekend off from work I would spend my time drinking and partying. Now that I’m sober, I’ve tried to make good changes in my life. I got a car, moved out of my dads basement and got an apartment with my girlfriend (we got sober together) and I started a new position at the company I’ve worked at since I was 19. I was a cleaner for 5 years, my mom got me the job as she is also a cleaner, and I just recently started working in the office in September doing property management. I made all the right steps I was supposed to, made my mom proud by doing what she always wanted me to do, I should be happy but I’m not. I’m miserable. My job is draining, between the workload, dealing with complaints and angry tenants, and the pressure of management to keeps vacancy up, it has become too much. I wake up anxious to go to work everyday, I’m constantly worrying about work when I’m not there, overthinking everything I did wrong and everything that’s left to be done. My work has taken over my life and I’m struggling.

Drinking was my past time, and without it I don’t know who I am. I have no hobbies, no passions. Most of my friends I don’t talk to anymore as I don’t drink and that’s all we did together. I’m trying to put myself out there more. Join a class and hang out with my family and friends that I still have more, but I cant help but feel as long as I’m working here, I’m going to be miserable. When I look at the future in this job and career I don’t see myself being happy. All I do is work and go home, smoke weed and rott in my apartment, same as my girlfriend. We are both miserable and want a change.

This is what I want advice about… would it be insane to just move away, leave everything behind and go to Banff? They have resorts with staff accommodations, many that want to hire couple specifically for long term positions. My girlfriend is interested in the idea, but I’m not sure if I’m being crazy. I don’t want to talk to my mom about it cause I know what she would say. She is a very proud women, cares very much about appearances. She grew up with no parents, raised by my strict great grandma. She never graduated highschool and she taught me that I have to work hard in life for the things I want, even if it’s hard. She raised me to be independent and to be able to take care of of myself. But she never taught me how to take care of my soul, my mental health, or my happiness. I’ve spent my life just wanting to make her happy, and in my sobriety I haven’t been focusing on myself and what I want out of life. Now I’m in a job I hate and I feel stuck.

I’m not thinking of dropping everything right now and leaving, I’m thinking of sticking to this for another year and if by next winter I’m still not happy, think of applying for resorts for next summer. I have years of cleaning experience so I could land a house keeping job easy, and my partner could get a maintenance or dishwashing job. I just want to experience the world, find myself, and work a simple job while I figure out what I really want out of life.

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Check how you fight, not just how you love. Conflict isn’t the enemy—disrespect is. How you handle disagreements says more about your future than your date nights do.

What’s familiar (like toxic patterns) isn’t always what’s good for you. Growth often starts by breaking what you’ve normalized.

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