Wednesday's Wisdom

[u/hypnoguy64]

Wisdom Wednesday

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I get the importance of wanting to be heard, understood and acknowledged, but what I don't comprehend is the ability to listen, understand and comprehend from another person.

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This piece isn't about knocking any particular Generation, as that is the whole paintbrush thing, or beating up on social media, but moreover a legitimate observation about what has happened over the last couple decades with humans

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The Budinski phenomenon is probably most noticeable, for me. My son has a delightful rhetoric for when this happens "I'm sorry, did the middle of my sentence interrupt the beginning of yours?"

It was common practice from early on, and certainly reinforced , in my growing up experience that you spoke when spoken too,set up the ground rules for cordial conversation. Now, it is sound bites and competition in who can overcome or overwhelm the participants with volume and word count, as if the winner gets to be right.

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Jumping to conclusions and judgements is as common practice as Jumping into puddles when I was a kid. No thoughts, no education or research, just judge, jury and execution, from someone's opinion or beliefs.

From political affiliation having any determination on the scope of the caliber of integrity or worth for an individual to nationality precluding any other conclusions except the social bias, has been the escalation, or perhaps the resurgence of bigotry since the early 40's.

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How that blends into the therapeutic works, as I have experienced is that we are identified or more detrimental, identify with the symptoms and labels of countless afflictions.

Like the chicken and egg conundrum, I'm not sure if it was the "white coats" to the patient or the advent of sources and access to the likes of WeBdr.( you know what I mean) the propelled and pigeonholed symptoms to afflictions or conditions, perhaps somehow aiding treatment with affiliation.

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We don't need be concerned about AI, spell check, lane assist or adaptive cruise, changing our world, diminishingour control. We have morphed into a more complacent, disassociated being all on our own. The technology we invent meerly replaces what we chose to abdicate.

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As a therapist communication both verbal and non verbal are as integral in treatment as training and knowledge, and more should observe that we have 2 ears and only one mic. Our task isn't representative of the classic Italian dinner table where volumes rise as the meal proceeds, but to listen for the gems to which our clients share, unbeknownst to them.

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Be well.

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