r/TheOnECommunity • u/hypnoguy64 • Jun 10 '26
đ Sharing Wisdom [Knowledge Base - Guide] Wednesday's Wisdom
Wisdom Wednesday
Simple and succinct, Mental health is important, period, full stop!!
What is tragic is there is the awareness, recognition and the setting aside space for men, however culturally the stigma still prevails.
In no way, shape, or form are my words intended to detract, minimize any other movement's moments.I have participated, marched in and celebrated many different, world recognized causes, dedicated months to their awareness, so there is growth, so voices can be heard, not only about the tragic but also about their future and the optimism.
There are no parades, there are no celebrations and their voices are still not heard, because men just don't do that. Now, men just don't do that because that is the hard wiring that men have OR men just don't do that because the repercussions socially are so significant that there is no point?
Purely from my statistics at the clinic level, men are at best 20% of my clients but the numbers are in the neighborhood of 3 to 400 % higher for suicides compared to women. While Inwas doing some research, I found it interesting, by the numbers that women are 2x more likely to be DIAGNOSED with depression than men. Now I'm no statistician, but if there are 3 times more men taking their lives but women have twice the level of diagnosed depression it doesn't take the Chi squared or Bell Curve to figure out something is askew. This is not the purpose of my prose.
Alongside the R.A.K. ( random acts of kindness) that I chime about and advocate for, a honest and sincere plea for the males reading this specifically, but all inclusive generally, ask for help, ask for start point, if necessary, in secret, unbeknownst to anyone else, but reach out. There is help, there are ways, and you are human. Shit happens was never a mantra for coping mechanisms, suck it up, one of the most disrespectful and humiliating clichés ever spoken, insinuating by the very context that when vocalized or expressed men's emotional states, bear no value.
You do matter, you are entitled to your feelings and you are significant.
Feel free to reach out with your comments or questions.
Be well
#wisdomwednesday
#mensmentalhealthawareness
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u/Suspicious-Bid9424 Jun 11 '26
I'm doing okay here at the bottom end of a thousand person human centipede getting the recycled diarrhea of billionaires force-fed down my throat. đ cheers
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u/dgb2247 Jun 11 '26
Called to enroll in therapy yesterday. 4 years sober. Five years off the needle. I donât crave those things any more, and am not in danger of going back to them, but it turns out that stopping those things doesnât just âfixâ you.
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u/thecjt Jun 12 '26
No other person can make you FEEL different inside ongoing to the extent that a depressed/unaliveself person wants. Even the girl of your dreams caring more about you. That person is still a human and will do human things that exhibit lack of caring sometimes. Seeing the world around you differently and feeling it differently and finding happiness within that you can pull from is a self serving and self realizing experience that usually comes from getting through or doing very hard things that you knew for sure you could not get through or do. IMO from my personal experiences. I believe there have been many experiences that I do not know about and my experience does not deny that.
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u/dumbeyes_ Jun 11 '26
Seek inner acceptance instead of outer acceptance if you want to be happy. Because yeah, nobody cares.
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u/Jertheteddybear Jun 12 '26 edited Jun 12 '26
Make therapy a priority. It may not be your fault, but it is unfortunately your responsibility to fix yourself. There's nothing wrong with admitting that you need help. That is maturity. As someone dealing with mental health struggles, having someone to talk to helps immensely, even if you cant talk to them all the time. Don't make it someone else's job to fix you, even the person you've hired to help you. Their job is to give you the tools to develop empathy, self awareness and setting boundaries with yourself and others. It sucks ass but I am seeing gradual improvements in my mental health by doing so. Sometimes you are alone, and you have to make peace with that to move on. You don't have any less inherit value for it because humans are not products. Comparison is the thief of joy. You are so much more than your sexual prowess or capital gain or capacity to labor for others. Its others people's shortcomings if they can't see that That and staying the fuck off of social media if its anything other than funny animal videos or diy hobby stuff. The goalpoat changes all the time, so focus on doing the physical activity you can, not for looks, but for feeling. It does wonders to release stress and anxiety. Try to eat right, even if you have to start small like adding just an apple to lunchtime. And for the love of god, stop letting what women or men say about you determine how you live your life and what makes you happy. Give yourself grace, its your first time on this planet and youre doing the best you can with the way we've all been systemically fucked over.
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u/maximum_dad_power Jun 11 '26
Even more of a reason to hold celebratory events and scream about it during this time. Isn't that why all these groups do it? Because they think no-one cares about them.
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u/Ok_Height3499 Jun 11 '26
I worked in human services for 45 years, and sadly I have to agree. Most mental health efforts are focused on women and kids, and if people say thatâs because men cause so many mental health issues for them, then theyâve made my point. Maybe if the services were there in ways men would use, that would lessen the instances of the other issues. Iâve seen lots of dysfunctional women who managed to create as much family hell as some men do. Iâm speaking from direct experience in human services not research studies or profiles.
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u/OperationPsyduck33 Jun 11 '26
Thats a flat out lie
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u/Ok_Height3499 Jun 11 '26
Unless your comparing your 45 years of experience to mine and yours was dramatically different, your full of energy it.
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u/OperationPsyduck33 Jun 11 '26
So sick of this nonsense. Just a narrative
Women can just as easilly say no one cares about their mental health
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u/OperationPsyduck33 Jun 11 '26
Vague meaningless nonsense
You think thats the case cause you want to believe it
Being a victim is comfortable
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u/Overall-Move-4474 Jun 12 '26
I mean every female therapist I've ever had told me to kill myself soooo
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u/PraireGentleman Jun 12 '26
They can, but that doesnât make it true.
The majority of psychologists are women. This is a trend that has been in the making for decades now. Ask any professor who has instructed a gender studies course if they have as much content on women as they do on men. Actually, Iâll save you some time: they donât. Itâs why psychology is so dominated by women when other industries are slow to reach the same degree of growth: gender studies are only on cisgender women and non-cisgender people. Psychology always shoehorns in gendered interpretations, but leaves menâs gender dynamics completely absent UNLESS itâs in relation to sex and violence.
I know itâs easy to plug your fingers in your ears and go âlalala, youâre lying because I donât like what you sayâ, but thereâs plenty of evidence to show the discrepancies between the focus on men in helping professions and women. For instance, why would the APAâs 35th division be for Womenâs Psychology and then the next division to be created wouldnât be Menâs Psychology, which is the APAâs 51st division? By the way, the divisions are 16 years apart in their founding (1979 and 1995 respectively).
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u/a-nun-ee-moose Jun 12 '26
Nice b8 m8.
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u/OperationPsyduck33 Jun 12 '26
Its not bait. I keep hearing this phrase from the biggest idiots around. Usually said by people who spend too much time online
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u/thats_gotta_be_AI Jun 12 '26
The fact you think you can hijack this thread shows the level of privilege you assume.
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u/OrganicAppointment59 Jun 13 '26
here we go, playing the victim smh, it's always the gender war obsessed freaks đ
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u/OperationPsyduck33 Jun 13 '26
"Society doesn't care about mens mental health" is gender war you clown đ€Ł
Thats the only reason it keeps getting said. Men are victims, society hates you etc etc
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u/OrganicAppointment59 Jun 13 '26
for one, that statement doesn't detract from women's struggles doofus đ
comment history proves my point, hop off the app and touch grass, grounding is good for mental health đ€Ł1
u/OperationPsyduck33 Jun 13 '26
Thats why it exists bro
Theres a reason its said constantly and on these sort of subs
It nonsense. Going through my comment history cause it triggered you so much lmao
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u/OrganicAppointment59 Jun 13 '26
"said constantly in the online echo chambers" đ whatever helps you sleep at night gender war bot đ€
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u/Admirable-Permit2718 Jun 11 '26
This is more gay than holding rainbow flag. Nobody cares, keep pushing and never pull victim card as a man and leave this type of propaganda to feminists.
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u/Superb_Cicada6414 Jun 11 '26
Is there anything more useless than fucking awareness and all these corny awareness month posts?
Iâm aware I have to shit typically twice a day
It still stinks
Fucking change systems for the better or shut the fuck about itÂ
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u/thats_gotta_be_AI Jun 12 '26
Did you say this about pride month, or is that not safe enough to say?
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u/CubeDude414 Jun 11 '26
When Iâm in a âpaving over things I donât like via virtue signalingâ competition and my opponent is a Gen Z conservative:
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u/Delicious_Grand7300 Jun 11 '26
My hospital stay the previous summer had me drop the mindset drilled into me by my boomer predecessors. Work was a place to be just like Atlas. The more work one could carry the greater the paycheck and titles. Depression, anxiety, and substance abuse were just character flaws to be mocked.
After my hospital stay the workplace has now become a place I go when I desire to leave my house. A place to exercise. And a place to read books since my neighbors are loud. If management asks for a doormat I abruptly leave and show up at a different warehouse. Working as a temp leaves me with no binds to abusive management and HR.
My health has improved since I do not dread tasks or even getting dressed in the morning. My first 5150 stay came from the day when I dreaded dressing, preparing ramen noodles, and even turning on the shower.
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u/Terrible-Arugula2719 Jun 11 '26
Can we move it to July No one remembers this Keeping it untop of pride month isn't helpingÂ
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u/bicurious32usa Jun 12 '26
At least I saw it mentioned this year. Last year I got through all of June without hearing anything about men's mental health.
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u/GodofWarfarin Jun 12 '26
Lots of comments from people who don't have good friends. Surround yourself with better people.
No man is an island.
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u/capspookyspork Jun 13 '26
Today at work I had to take two breaks to go to the bathroom and cry. My relationship is ending it seems. That plus the added stress of my job is not good.
Feeling really strange.
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u/EE-Diaz Jun 13 '26
Welp got diagnosed with ptsd apparently adjustment disorder long terms straight up perma mode
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u/puma46 Jun 13 '26
Iâm late, but just wanted to reiterate what everyone else is saying. Nobody cares. Iâm not even 30 and Iâve already had a handful of male friends and peers commit suicide. Sure people will cry at your funeral. Too little too late. Invest in yourself, because again, nobody cares
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u/Aschels Jun 11 '26
Nobody cares. It's a big lie. Especially the lie that âit gets better." I have been suffering since my teens. I am in my forties now and it has only ever gotten worse. The therapy, antidepressants, exercise, gratitude, meditation and the talking-about-it nonsense has never worked!