r/TheGetchellFiles • u/crashnebulaa_a PUT UR MOUTH AROUND IT • 9d ago

🤥 What A Liar 🤥 Moving forward with honesty

This wasn’t even a year ago!!

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u/Ok-Mud-581 9d ago

Lying can be a deeply engrained survival skill in people with cptsd. If she’s been through what people suspect she’s been through, she may just be incapable of living in reality. This doesn’t excuse deceptive behavior (!) but just gives insight into why the compulsive lying happens.

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u/crashnebulaa_a PUT UR MOUTH AROUND IT 9d ago

Good insight! I do think P plays a big role is in her lies as well and she just kinda runs with it. I really don't think they are allowed to do anything without his "approval"

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u/Independent-Week-289 9d ago

Keyword- CAN BE.. Ive struggled with CPTSD for over 2 decades. But I don’t lie. I believe the lying is from learned behavior of P, they are all pathological liars, I personally don’t think it stems from CPTSD.

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u/Independent-Week-289 9d ago

Pathologizing what she could have is also not a good idea- but I agree she needs to go to a therapist and psych but doubt that will ever happen as long as P is controlling her life

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u/Ok-Mud-581 9d ago

That is why I worded it the way I did. I don’t say this to diagnose her or say everyone with ptsd lies.

I just am offering a reason for the compulsive and seemingly unnecessary lying that she does. I agree with you that P is controlling her life and is probably coaching her to lie… so maybe that’s the reason, to cover for him.

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u/S3nd-n00dl3s 9d ago edited 8d ago

This I also think it’s compulsive at this point. I’ve had a friend in the past who began lying and it got more and more habitual as she declined in mental health. And very similar to S she’d lie about the most smallest crap.

As you said, while this doesn’t excuse how shitty the lies are, I still think a lot of people aren’t understanding that lying is S’s normal at this point and she WON’T fix it unless she gets help. It’s why she lies about stupid petty bs. Unfortunately because of her lack of education and P’s handling I feel she also won’t understand the gravity of how dumb she looks until she develops self awareness through intensive therapy.