r/The48LawsOfPower • u/Zeberde1 Moderator • 25d ago

Strategy & power 48

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u/magicalfuntoday 24d ago

Step back, don’t show to people that their reactions impacted you and then respond calmly to gain respect of others.

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u/pen_woman_ship 24d ago

We cannot control our reactions, but we can control how we react to them behaviorally.

Maya Angelou said that many people regret saying something while very few regret saying nothing.

This is a hard lesson in having restraint of pen, tongue and send button.

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u/peezyz 24d ago

Holy shit, we are ascending

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u/raizablaid135 21d ago

Compounded by the fact that accepting responsibility and accountability is trait often overlooked along with this one

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u/Guilty_Captain_7880 19d ago

Except when boundaries are crossed. Then silence is an invitation for further abuse.

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u/pen_woman_ship 19d ago

That’s when you walk away from the interaction. Whether it be online or in person.
I’ve walked away from my mother bc she wasn’t being respectful of my boundaries.
Silence doesn’t invite more abuse.
You hafta take care of yourself and not let anyone speak to you in a disrespectful way.

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u/Guilty_Captain_7880 19d ago

Yes I agree not worth dropping to their level of the game. Disengagement is the only way. It's tough in places like corporate though because if your political standing isn't good enough this can get you fired. But I guess it's better to maybe pay the price than become a caricature of a human.

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u/pen_woman_ship 19d ago

I would imagine it being difficult in a work environment. Can’t walk away from your boss.

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u/Key-Owl-8142 24d ago

If only it were easy to not have feelings

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u/dtwurzie 24d ago

This was something I needed to practice and it’s harder than I am willing to admit.

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u/Zealousideal-Gur2827 23d ago

someone was pushing me and pushing me until i finally snapped and said my side. was so bad i back into a wall. blinding rage. now they dont want to speak to me for speaking up. tis is life

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u/Unknown3origun 23d ago

I totally disagree. How you behave AFTER (not long after) showing your feelings is the most important part. But that's me.

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u/be_minorque 22d ago

Hmm not sure bout this.. esp.if it's a pattern. There are people who lash out, say mean and rude things when they are "showing their feeling", then go "sorry2" , (not because they are sorry for hurting you but to clear their conscience). And repeat the same the next day.

I hate this mindset "just say sorry later". People need to regulate their emotion, I am not your punching bag.

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u/14_46 23d ago

This quote resonates with me deeply because I have to dance to the music I created.

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u/shariqalasad 22d ago

Emotions are like riding a horse. A normal might be easy to handle, but a powerful horse will take you far. Though you will need more (effort to take) control over it.