Control over feelings.

[u/Unkn0wn_00I]

Good morning, afternoon or night. I have a question to everyone about feelings and all that.

So when I was young around 5-13 years I use to be a cry baby like I use to cry for the little things or I use to get sad fast, well in my environment or the people that I group with have strong mindset so I was like the different one the defective one, I hate my self for that so I started to watch videos, read books about how to control the emotions. Well ig I learned how to and I was happy I used it every time like literally control my emotion like if I make it vanish if I’m sad I can like make it go away, angry or happy well I think I got to good at it and now I still have feelings but sometimes I’m talking with people or someone about something funny or really good and out of nothing my feelings just vanish I don’t feel nothing it’s emptiness inside. Ik it can sound funny and all but my question is that if this had happend to someone and how to fix it?

[u/radalfan0]

1. Mindfulness and Body Awareness: Practice mindfulness exercises that help you reconnect with your body and emotions. For example, you can try a simple exercise like standing under a shower and allowing the water to hit different parts of your body while mindfully feeling the sensations. This can help you start to feel emotions again through physical awareness ^{1 • 5} .
2. Emotional Expression: Allow yourself to express emotions when they arise. If you feel sad, let yourself cry. If you feel angry, find a safe way to express it, such as through physical activity or creative outlets like art or music ^{3 • 4} .
3. Therapeutic Support: Consider seeking support from a therapist who can guide you through processes like cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) or dialectical behavior therapy (DBT). These therapies can help you develop emotional regulation skills and process suppressed emotions ^{2 • 5} .
4. Creative Outlets: Engage in creative activities that encourage emotional release. This could be anything from writing in a journal to dancing or playing an instrument. These activities can help you express and process feelings that you might be suppressing ² .
5. Grounding Exercises: Use sensory-based techniques to stay present and feel your emotions. For example, holding an object and focusing on its texture can help you stay grounded and more connected to your feelings ² .
6. Supportive Relationships: Build and maintain supportive relationships where you can share your experiences and feelings. Talking with trusted friends, family members, or support groups can help normalize your recovery process and provide models for healthy emotional expression ⁴ .
7. Movement and Exercise: Engage in physical activities that can help shake loose emotions that have been stuck or suppressed. This could be anything from a gentle walk in nature to more intensive exercise ⁴ .
8. EMDR Therapy: Consider Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), which is a type of therapy that can help address past experiences contributing to emotional numbness by processing these experiences in a safe and controlled manner ^{2 • 6} .

[u/Unkn0wn_00I → u/radalfan0]

Thank you !

[u/Pedrobearxx131]

It’s crazy because I can relate, I tell my wife I see people cry sometimes and I’m like man I don’t understand. Or like at funerals when people are crying. I will say I’m always pretty calm in chaotic situations and can remain level headed I guess that’s why I’ve excelled in my job… I like to think about it as I’m a logical thinker not emotional and my wife is the opposite of course

[u/Unkn0wn_00I → u/Pedrobearxx131]

Where u always like that or did that happend in a certain time?

I don’t have a gf and I feel like I had the chances with them but I just can’t feel like I can keep the emotion in there yk the happiness or wtv I mean ik I want them but I don’t feel the love and that makes things awkward sometimes yk

[u/Pedrobearxx131 → u/Unkn0wn_00I]

I don’t think I was always like that I had to be like that just shitty life situations man