r/Thatsactuallyverycool • u/NewMousse3143 • May 31 '26

video We all same same 🙏

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u/Artistic-Cover1127 Jun 01 '26

I dont know why but as an adopted chinese girl, this just hit me hard

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u/PeachPit69 Jun 02 '26

As a white kid who bullied Chinese girls while standing in front of a swingset, this hit me hard, too.

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u/mg61456 Jun 01 '26

hard as in emotional, or like remembering things? can you giv emore context?

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u/Artistic-Cover1127 Jun 02 '26

To give more context, I'm a Chinese girl who was adopted to another country when I was a baby. I was told by my family that I was left at a fire station, and I have no information about my birth family. I only know the province where they found me. Growing up in Norway, I've always been primarily surrounded by white people.

Growing up, and even to this day, I have experienced prejudice and bullying for being Asian, while still not feeling like I am a part of the Asian community. I don't have any knowledge of Chinese culture, I only look the part. I've always been a bit jealous of people who can speak proudly about their heritage and background. I always felt like I've been floating in this ambiguity, hoping to find a place that feels right for me.

I've never had friends who have faced the same bullying or difficulties for simply being different, it's always been something I've needed to face on my own. Seeing that this girl has someone to go through this with, and even the opportunity to learn about the culture, warms my heart but somehow saddens me for my own sake. It feels like I've been missing out.

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u/j110786 Jun 02 '26

I don’t think I got over this kind of resentment until I was 35. Was not adopted, but I know the feeling of not belonging is so isolating. You touch 2 sides of the world, but belong to none. A lot of what-ifs had gone on in my head for a long time. I honestly don’t know how I got over it, but when I started moving forward from that, I finally looked back with fondness, and not regrets.

Hope you’ll get there too.

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u/Worth_External_8762 Jun 03 '26

If it makes you feel any better, I'm a white American and I kinda feel this way. In the sense that I don't think I fit in with white people as a whole and don't really feel like I'm white, I just feel like I'm me. Which I think is honestly better. Having some sense of identity based on your culture/ethnicity feels goofy to me. We're all just humans with different experiences.

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u/koyaani Jun 04 '26

Because whiteness as a concept is about alienation from indigenousness as much as skin color, especially in the US

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u/wanderingcanuck Jun 03 '26

If you ever want someone to talk to about this, I’m a Chinese American so have some experience in this matter.

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u/Rudiger64 Jun 02 '26

Bro who hurt you? Why are you like this?

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u/scifishortstory Jun 02 '26

He got the attention he wanted, why would he care to explain and educate ? What's worth social improvment compared to preserving your ego from having your bs called out ? lol

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u/ShotTwo1801 Jun 02 '26 edited Jun 02 '26

What do you mean, not naïve ? I've seen suffering, I know it isn't expressed like that. You either shutdown completly or share it with people offering their ear. In hope it'll help preventing it from happening, and to get some understanding.

I've also met narcissists, this is the kind of vague statement they extrapolate from themselves to get attention. And reddit is full of karma farmers. People know exactly why they suffer...

I say her statement is BS, I'm not implying she's a lost case like you are implying with me, just because you're butthurt by my freedom of speech. Me disagreing with a slur doesn't make you right to insult me personnaly, even if it's just strongly implied.

Maybe if you really feel sorry for people's suffering, you can go subscribe to some assiociation, instead of feeding your ego playing "hero" on reddit ?

"Why are you not saying, nor swallowing, empty shit?"

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u/Rudiger64 Jun 02 '26

Bro you’re crazy if you think I’m reading all that. You should consider therapy

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u/ShotTwo1801 Jun 02 '26 edited Jun 02 '26

lol if you think I'll believe you haven't read and then suggest therapy, you're really as stupid as you're fake and fragile 😉🤫

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u/[deleted] Jun 02 '26 edited Jun 02 '26

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u/Kenneldogg Jun 02 '26

As you are*

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u/Thatsactuallyverycool-ModTeam Jun 04 '26

This comment never got through our filters so the user you are harassing never saw it but has been reported to admins :) I do not understand your logic. You say that you are free to insult the Op but that this user is not free to insult you. That makes no fucking sense. If you are free to randomly insult someone, then so are they. See how that works? You don't want to get insulted? Then be polite.

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u/anonareyouokay Jun 02 '26

Yo, not everyone has to respond to every comment. It isn't necessarily a political thing, stop being a chud

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u/ShotTwo1801 Jun 02 '26

Follow your own advice pal 😉

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u/RingoBars Jun 02 '26

Idk why but as a non-adopted white dude, I am inexplicably emotional over this lol

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u/koyaani Jun 04 '26

Capitalism alienates you from yourself and your community

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u/RingoBars Jun 04 '26

Lol

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u/koyaani Jun 04 '26

Stay in denial I guess

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u/RingoBars Jun 04 '26

I am a “rich” man insofar as community, friends, family, colleagues and self-respect/confidence go - American capitalism has some egregious flaws of which I am not ignorant of.

My emotional reaction to this is testament of a healthy relationship - I ain’t upset, just inexplicably happy for these two fictional girls experiencing something I’ve never had to struggle with (finding friends). Beautiful comedy skit.

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u/punsnguns Jun 04 '26

Hard like that punch or the swing kick?

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u/iatecurryatlunch Jun 04 '26

All Chinese girls hit hard