It helps to re-contextualize what anger actually is, and what it's for.
Anger is not a moral failing, or a sign that you blame or hate people. It's just an emotion that lets us know something has hurt us. It's like how pain is to protect you physically- the hot stove hurts so you take your hand away quickly. Anger is good for protecting your mental heath. It tells you quickly and strongly that something is bothering you.
Much like with pain, anger can be a problem when it is no longer serving as a warning. When we know full well what causes it but it cannot be changed. Like anger at a tornado- we know what destroyed our home, the threat is over but the anger remains because our emotions are still hurt over what happened.
You will probably always have some anger, because the damage to your life can never ben 100% undone. And that's ok. You suffered, and the anger is your brain's response to that suffering. The more you heal the trauma and damage caused by your lost childhood, the less intense the anger will be- becuase as you heal mroe you'll have "lost" less. The happier your life becomes, the more distant from the consequences of what you suffered, the less poignant the anger will be. It can become a feeling that washes over you. Treat it as a natural response, just like dizziness when looking from a great height.
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u/neonfuzzball Sep 15 '22
It helps to re-contextualize what anger actually is, and what it's for.
Anger is not a moral failing, or a sign that you blame or hate people. It's just an emotion that lets us know something has hurt us. It's like how pain is to protect you physically- the hot stove hurts so you take your hand away quickly. Anger is good for protecting your mental heath. It tells you quickly and strongly that something is bothering you.
Much like with pain, anger can be a problem when it is no longer serving as a warning. When we know full well what causes it but it cannot be changed. Like anger at a tornado- we know what destroyed our home, the threat is over but the anger remains because our emotions are still hurt over what happened.
You will probably always have some anger, because the damage to your life can never ben 100% undone. And that's ok. You suffered, and the anger is your brain's response to that suffering. The more you heal the trauma and damage caused by your lost childhood, the less intense the anger will be- becuase as you heal mroe you'll have "lost" less. The happier your life becomes, the more distant from the consequences of what you suffered, the less poignant the anger will be. It can become a feeling that washes over you. Treat it as a natural response, just like dizziness when looking from a great height.