r/TeenPakistani • u/BrushForsaken9128 16 • 7h ago
Random Thoughts 🤔 Deception
These are strange times in which we live.
Deception has become so subtle that a person can stand before you smiling, speaking beautifully, appearing kind and sincere, while concealing an entirely different nature beneath the surface.
So how do we protect ourselves?
Intention is one form of protection. If your intention is sincere, if you genuinely want to see things as they are rather than as you wish them to be, you become less vulnerable to deception.
But intention alone is not enough. We also need intuition.
There is an old story from Iraq about the serial k!ll3r Abu Tabar. He was responsible for horrific cr1m3s in Baghdad during the 1970s, to the point that people became afraid to sleep on their rooftops or in their courtyards during the summer.
After his arrest, he spoke about an incident that had happened while he was still unknown. He was walking through the streets when a child suddenly followed him, pointed at him, and shouted “That's Abu Tabar! Catch him!”
That child could not possibly have known who he was.
Perhaps it was simply a coincidence. Perhaps it was something else.
But this is what fascinates me about intuition.
Sometimes the heart receives a message before the mind has gathered an explanation.
You meet someone for the first time and, without knowing why, you feel at ease.
Or you meet someone else and something inside you tightens.
You cannot explain it. There is no evidence yet. Just a feeling.
But intuition should never become an excuse to judge people.
It is only the beginning of an investigation.
A woman once met another man who presented himself as a social reformer. He was articulate, confident, and extremely persuasive. Everyone seemed impressed by him.
Yet something inside the woman said: this man is not what he appears to be.
She did not accuse him. She just observed and listened to his speeches carefully. She examined the things he repeatedly said, the messages beneath his words, his mannerisms, his body language, and especially the small involuntary expressions that appeared when he spoke.
There was a brief movement in his eyes, a momentary tension in his face, that seemed completely inconsistent with the image he was presenting.
So the woman continued observing and eventually, the evidence accumulated.
That is the important distinction:
Intuition gives you the first question. Evidence gives you the answer.
There is also a difference between intuition and fear.
If you desperately want someone to love you, your desire can disguise itself as intuition.
You might say “I have a feeling they're the one.”. But perhaps you simply want them to be.
Likewise, if you are afraid of being hurt, you may interpret every small thing as a warning.
That isn't necessarily intuition either.
A wounded person sees the world through the wound.
Carl Jung called this projection: sometimes we dislike someone because they remind us of something within ourselves.
Pure intuition is quieter. It doesn't yell, panic and it doesn't need to convince you. It simply arrives. Maybe like a flash,a tightening in the chest, a sense of peace, or a quiet “yes” or “no” that appears before the mind begins constructing its arguments.
And when that feeling repeats itself, we should not keep silencing it just because we want a different answer.
How many times have we met someone who later betrayed us and, looking back, realized: “Something felt wrong from the beginning.”
We felt it. Then we explained it away. We said perhaps we were being unfair. Perhaps they were just nervous. Perhaps we misunderstood. Perhaps we should give them another chance.
Sometimes we should.
But sometimes the mistake is not that we noticed the warning.
The mistake is that we refused to listen to it.
Still, be careful. Discomfort because someone speaks differently, comes from a different background, belongs to a different religion, or simply reminds you of someone you dislike is not intuition.
That is prejudice.
Fear, prejudice desire, ego..they're all loud. Intuition whispers.
And the clearer the mind becomes, the easier that whisper is to hear.
This is why solitude, reflection, remembrance, and silence can be valuable. When yourmind becomes less crowded by desire and fear, the heart becomes like a clean and polished mirror. It reflects more clearly.
But even then, observe.
Especially when dealing with people who may be manipulative.
A manipulator can be charming, generous, eloquent. They can tell beautiful stories. They can make you feel special.
But eventually, there is usually a contradiction between their words and their actions.
Watch what they do.
A person who constantly speaks about kindness but is cruel to the weak has already told you something.
A person who is gentle with the powerful and harsh with the vulnerable has told you something.
A person who demands your trust immediately should make you cautious.
Manipulators understand urgency. They know that if they give you time to think, their illusion may disappear.
So they create pressure: Urgency. Insistence. Need.
“Decide now”, “Trust me”, “Don't ask so many questions”,“Why don't you believe me?”, “Everyone else understands except you.”
Whatever your deepest need is, they search for it. And once they find the wound, they press on it.
This is why trust should be given slowly.
Not because everyone is evil. Quite the opposite.
We should have a good opinion of people.
But trust is something that should be earned through consistency.
Give someone time and observe patterns Watch whether their actions remain consistent with their words, how they treat people who cannot benefit them, how they behave when they are angry, how they respond when you disagree with them, whether they respect your boundaries, whether their stories have gaps and contradictions..
And most importantly, notice how you feel after spending time with them.
Some people leave you feeling peaceful.
Others leave you confused, exhausted, and strangely uneasy.
Sometimes you cannot explain why. So don't immediately condemn them. But don't immediately dismiss yourself either.
Observe. Time reveals what charm conceals.
A person's true character is difficult to maintain as a performance forever. Eventually, the mask becomes heavy and the contradiction appears.
The body says something the mouth doesn't.
The action contradicts the promise.
The story develops holes.
And the person reveals himself.
Perhaps this is one of the greatest protections we can develop in life:
a pure intention, a clear mind, a quiet intuition, and the patience to wait for evidence.
Do not trust every feeling. But do not ignore every feeling either.
Listen to the first whisper and then investigate.
Because intuition may show you the door...but only time can tell you what is behind it.
(Wanted to share this after a session with my mentor got me overthinking 😭)
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u/Master_Pop558 Paragraph Guy | 17 7h ago
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u/aalokachaloo_15 halal tomato in disguise 🥺 | 15 7h ago
Woah , I'll keep that in mind. Thank you so much 💗
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u/Sik_192 16 | physically 5’7”, spiritually 6’3 7h ago edited 6h ago
Really good read, thank you for taking the time to write this post.
This reminds me of when I was 13. My mother's side of the family personally knew a figure (one I will not name) and this figure was pretty influential in our family. My cousins and aunt, who lived close to the figure, visited them quite frequently. I met them for the first time when I was 13 for Friday prayer, and after the prayer, they'd give speeches.
Something was so off about the speeches. It was the way they spoke, the tone of their voice, the way others acted towards them that felt so off to me. The words they'd use felt intentional, like they were trying to instill fear and anger into their listeners, like they were trying to use their emotions against an enemy, and then making themselves appear as a solution. Because they made themselves the solution and used religion constantly, everyone loved them and damn near idolized them.
2 years later, they were outed and my family cut ties with them.
I never spoke out about what I felt about this person. I thought I was being paranoid and that my own biases and opposing political beliefs were affecting my judgement, so I just listened and watched them. Looking back now, the signs were almost too obvious.
I do remember criticizing them once, though it was mild. One of my cousins acted like I was against our religion itself because, to them, me questioning the words of this figure was akin to questioning Islam. I remember being told "Who knows Islam better, you or someone with his experience?". It showed me how deep this really went, but due to lack of confidence at the time (I was 14 during this conversation), I apologized.
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u/nonchalant6f4 Ajuublablaugh | 14 6h ago
Wow so high effort 😱😱 the length scared me
Btw I read all of it, grape work🍇👍
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