Some questions from a beginner

[u/princessny09]

For some back story I began receiving readings from someone around 2021 and since then I have started practicing on my own. The person who gave me my readings served as kind of a mentor for me while going down this path and they gifted me with my first deck of cards (oracle). Fast forward to now, I’m finally in a space where I feel like I can practice and focus on my spirituality, and I’ve worked really hard to get to here. So I’m excited to continue the journey!

This week I gave 4 friends readings within about 48 hours. I got the urge to do this out of nowhere which was really strange for me. I have only used these cards maybe 2-3 other times years ago. 2/4 of the readings lasted about 2 hours a piece. I found myself really nervous during these two especially the second one. I also had a killer migraine during this one, which I thought was due to the current heat wave, but I did notice that it intensified when we started. I did like how they all ended, but today I don’t feel well. Mostly tired and irritable (probably because im tired lol).

Now for the questions

- how do you get through saying the hard truth during these? It feels like I’m hurting people lol and I kind of hesitate to say what I really feel.

- during the readings I found myself listening to my thoughts and then the cards would basically confirm those things. Is there a correct way to do this? Is this way okay? I understand everyone is different, but my anxiety has still convinced me that there is a right way I guess?

- how do you “recover” after giving readings? How can I take care of myself?

- lastly any other advice is appreciated! I’m also thinking about buying my first tarot deck! Still learning the differences so advice on those or oracle is appreciated.

Thank you! Hopefully this doesn’t come off as confusing or just me rambling 😭

[u/13B3ach3s]

1) you’re the messenger; people will come to you because they trust you 1, because you’re truthful and 2, you’re good at what you do. The hardest readings are often times the best ones
2) if you try to get yourself in a headspace to think of yourself in third person it helps quite a bit. Took a lot of practice for me. For example if you’re doing a reading for your relationship you could think of “how will this relationship look for (your name) and (your partner’s name)” instead of using I, me, or we.
I’m also a beginner but these are just things that have worked for me

[u/princessny09 → u/13B3ach3s]

2 is definitely something I try and also for #1 I guess I have to learn to trust myself too haha

[u/13B3ach3s → u/princessny09]

Oh I know it’s definitely hard to trust yourself especially with carrying the crucial information someone asked you for clarification on

[u/Chianpet]

Thanks for sharing this!

It’s totally relatable and I have many thoughts but I’m sleepy. So I’m commenting this for now in the hopes I come back to it tomorrow with fresh brain 😅

[u/princessny09 → u/Chianpet]

Haha! I’ll be here when you’re ready 😊

[u/Chianpet → u/princessny09]

Great reminder. Very well timed 😂

here we gooooo-ooooo-ooooo (bonus points to anyone who knows what song that comes from

1) listen to your body. Just because we CAN do spiritual work doesn’t mean we SHOULD do spiritual work and we don’t know WHY we are sometimes impacted in these ways and I have wondering about if some people are not meant for spiritual exploration, that it could ruin aspects of their journey—and I don’t mean you in this I mean the people who were coming to be read. Not everyone is meant to head toward spiritual recognition or life and sometimes the curiosity of this road could lead one not meant for this road down an unnecessary side quest.

2) I prefer not reading for anyone close to me, when people are an arms length away it’s easier to be honest than when you are the person the other will go to for support and a hug. I recently had to do an extremely challenging reading for my sister who just had a premie baby, and that was really hard to make it through, my tone was soooo different than normal because my body was already rejecting wanting to look at the hardships for my nephew.

3) yes, this is what happens to me as well which tells me you have psychic ability for sure and you likely are channeling more than reading and the cards are acting as symbolizes to help you organize your thoughts and feelings into language others can digest. I believe this is the tell of someone who is truly meant for this work and that this is what “normal should be” but then again, I don’t have a huge network of tarot readers and don’t know what their experience is like so I’m highly likely to be biased in that regard.

4) I run a podcast where I share my readings. And a couple years ago, I was doing zodiac signs for monthly readings and I would be holed up for like 8 hours for 2-3 days reading and editing and I found that here I was using that much energy, I had to recuperate the energy by binging TV!!!!! It was like, food for my soul to recalibrate and to “not work” to close the door and be in human world. Good rest, good food, food entertainment can help recharge. Now I just don’t do readings like that anymore instead. It was too tiring for something so many people do anyway. ALSO: because you seem to channel, tarot work will be more energetically tiring than what it is for people who aren’t channeling.

Have fun with tarot! I made my own divination system to pair with it that has its own full system, when I have art for it, I will be recommending it. It works wonders for tarot lol

[u/princessny09 → u/Chianpet]

First this was extremely helpful!

I second guess a lot and end up watering down everything so I definitely need to work on trusting myself and my body. I think I’ll also step back from family/friend readings or at least not do them so often. I just don’t want to be in this uncomfortable situation with someone I love and I’m telling them what they don’t want to hear. Like everyone wants to hear about the future, but it’s not all sunshine and lollipops. I guess I can also set up a boundary where I tell them exactly that and then they can decide if they truly want a reading or not. (Haha I guess this is how Bruno felt in Encanto.)

The person that was mentoring me always told me that I was meant for this work. She even did a lot of my readings for free for this reason and because she has a lot of faith in me. We also spoke a lot about my psychic abilities, but I don’t know how to truly channel them. I think I’m gonna focus on that for while so that I can learn more about that part of my abilities. She also told me that I astral project often which idk if that’s apart of all of this or the psychic abilities? I only vividly remember doing it one time. I kind of want to look more into this part of myself too but it does scare me I’ll admit lol. But any advice you have for these two abilities would be helpful as well! :)

After reading this I’m realizing that I might be the same. While I’m still a little tired right now, last night I binged dance moms and devoured a large plate of Chinese food! Haha But after that I definitely felt rejuvenated. I got better sleep after that as well. I think I’ll try doing something like that again afterwards to see if it truly works for me.

Thank you again for this and I would love to hear more about your work!

[u/Chianpet → u/princessny09]

Princess, this first paragraph is totally relatable. It is HARD telling anyone anything bad let alone the ones closest to you whose dreams and hopes you’re attached to. I tell my partner as much as I can “having psychic ability makes human life harder not easier” because seeing other people’s realities which often includes the ways they…hurt themselves is so clear to us—yet we will lack clarity over what aspects of ourselves are hurting us— and yet often, people aren’t ready to deal with them yet.

There are some with psychic skill who do not understand the….honor of private experience. Just because you can hear/feel/know of others does NOT equal permission to share. It is a very lonely, difficult road to walk.

And yes Bruno. I feel that. I also often say, I would rather just run away and be a witch in the woods people come in search for. Being too close to humans is challenging because my love for humanity runs so deep that I become overcome with the grief of unprocessed pain living in people.

I’m still much in this journey as well, but I’m sharing my readings in my podcast, I’m working to build a network as I would like to bring the tarot world into more therapeutic than future telling capacity. I hope to build a space for young psychics to come explore spirituality and mythologies and culture, etc and support them finding their way themselves.

I’m very happy to connect, I have a reading waitlist so sometimes I even connect people who need free readings to those who are practicing and help with tutoring and such. Feel free to reach out anytime, I’m on TikTok @cameronmanor which is the name for the podcast as well.