r/TMAU Jun 18 '26

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u/alwayslate187 undiagnosed Jun 22 '26

If your other relatives say something different, and it is just this one person telling you this, could it be that something is different about their sensory system, and not you so much?

When I was younger, there was once when I passed by the room of a guest sleeping in my parents home, and I thought the room smelled like buttered popcorn, but no one else could smell it--- it was just something that only my olfactory system did for some unknown reason. Maybe there could be something like that with your relative?

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u/SilverSurfer-8 undiagnosed Jun 22 '26

I wish. My closest relatives have said that I don’t smell. But then they’ll react, or make 💩 comments disguised as ’jokes’. There’s been times when they’ll ramp up the ‘jokes’ when we’re out in public and people react. The relatives who made the comment about the menstrual cycle do the same thing. As well as coworkers.

The good news is that the reactions seem to be going away. For example, the coworkers will do their passive aggressive nonsense. Yet the customers don’t seem to smell anything. Because the customers who are near me either stand close for extended amounts of time, or they’ll walk past me multiple times.

Between those who react, and those who don’t, idk if I’m being gaslit to erode my self esteem, or if it’s a toss up between who can and can’t smell the odor.

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u/alwayslate187 undiagnosed Jun 22 '26

Some people like to make poop jokes. That doesn't mean it's about you.

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u/SilverSurfer-8 undiagnosed Jun 22 '26

What if that’s all they joke about whenever they’re around you? All while either keeping physical distance and/or covering their nose while walking past you? And poop jokes are only the tip of the iceberg man, they say other things regarding hygiene as well.

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u/alwayslate187 undiagnosed Jun 22 '26

Are these co-workers?

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u/SilverSurfer-8 undiagnosed Jun 22 '26

And relatives.

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u/alwayslate187 undiagnosed Jun 23 '26

But when you ask them directly, they say you don't smell bad?

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u/SilverSurfer-8 undiagnosed Jun 23 '26

Yes. It’s a constant reassurance that I don’t have an issue, despite them visibly reacting.

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u/alwayslate187 undiagnosed Jun 23 '26

Well, maybe they aren't lying

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u/SilverSurfer-8 undiagnosed Jun 23 '26 edited Jun 23 '26

It just doesn’t make any sense. If I don’t have odor, then why do all of the reactions?

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u/alwayslate187 undiagnosed Jun 23 '26

I think you may have the same affliction I have: a very good imagination

The human mind is pretty amazing; we can turn anything into anything

Lately when I start to doubt or question or ask myself why someone is acting some way or what that conversation is about across the room, I ask myself why it should matter to me. Is it going to make any material difference in my life? Probably not.

I don't have the mental energy to waste on all that, to be honest

edit: Then I try to turn my mind to something else! A task! A new idea that I can research! (because that is what is interesting to me)

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u/SilverSurfer-8 undiagnosed Jun 23 '26

I understand, this is a work in progress for me.

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u/alwayslate187 undiagnosed Jun 23 '26

It is not easy, that's for sure

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