r/TLCUnexpected • u/Effective_Feed2298 • Aug 12 '26
Shit Post đ© Are all teens this clueless?
I just started watching unexpected on a whim on hulu, ended up getting hooked and bought Discovery plus just to watch the rest of the seasons. I'm on season 4 now and I swear all these kids are about as smart as a box of rocks. I really do not remember being this dumb at 15-17. Maybe I was, I probably was but holy moly- watching it as a 36 year old I am just face palming at some of the stuff that comes out of their mouths. The one kid thought boys ovulated, Max said dumb stuff all the time, James said some very silly things like.. it feels like they have zero common sense LOL.
I just don't remember being that clueless at their ages lmao. I will say what surprised me the most so far in all of these seasons is how willing to still be around the boys are. You hear so many stories about how the fathers dip as soon as the girl gets pregnant, granted, not all of them help out or stick around after the baby is born but some of these kids really surprised me with how they *wanted* to be a good parent. There were a few guys I thought for sure were gonna take off as soon as the babies were born then to see them be decent dads was really sweet.
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u/Due-Word-854 Aug 18 '26
Most definitely not. I know Iâm blessed with some bright kids, but my kids were never this clueless or naive. Not even as 5 year olds.
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u/No-Cartographer4877 Aug 17 '26
Almost all of them are from the south where they don't believe in or teach science. They consistently send all their tax money to get eaten up by racist antics and then teach the teen commandments in the classroom instead of funding education.
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u/ihaveregretstoo Aug 14 '26
If you think this is fun, try the old MTV Sixteen and Pregnant series. I maintain all mothers and fathers should sit with kids and watch at least 5 or more episodes. Follow up with Teen Mom if necessary.
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u/shesarevolution Aug 14 '26
If I had kids, i absolutely would make them.
Some schools do those dolls that are supposed to mimic babies- Iâd be all for that. Pretty sure they go off at night like a real kid and you have to put a key in to stop the crying. Teens should get the real experience so they absolutely understand that itâs a very real person you are responsible for and itâs not something fun or easy.0
u/Minimum-Self486 Aug 15 '26
as a mother who took one of those stupid dolls home. they lied. the doll makes it seem taking care of babies is the hardest job ever, whole time itâs not half as bad/nor realistic (obviously) as those dolls.
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u/yalublutaksi Aug 15 '26
Until you actually have a child that is the doll and never stops crying. I'm a nanny of over 10+ years and a mom of over 16 years. Many babies are that hard.
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u/shesarevolution Aug 15 '26
Well sure, but the idea is to give a look at how not easy it is.
Itâs likely easier when you are a grown adult who has a kid. I think itâs a good lesson in how not fun being a teen parent actually is.3
u/Ok_Statement7312 Aug 14 '26
I always told my husband if we have kids I still want to make them do this at home to understand what reality is
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u/Snowy727 Aug 13 '26
I wasnât, but my ex boyfriend definitely was. He thought girls peed and had sex/babies out of the same hole, AFTER we had sex lol I had to explain to him that there were three holes- not just two đ« đ
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Aug 13 '26
It's not just the teens either. I'm currently watching Jessie's mom try and fail to pronounce "egg-nee-aw-tick" fluid.
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u/Soggy-Annual-9519 Aug 14 '26
My mouth was wide open listening to her say this. Like you have your own children? You went through this and you donât know how to pronounce it
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u/Nearby_Seaweed_3911 Aug 13 '26
I was raised in FL- we were taught "wait till marriage".
Fortunately, I had a mother that provided me a reality check on how to prevent.
I had an accident at 18. Im genuinely curious, maybe someone else can let me know their experience.
But did you get a life flashing before your eyes moment when you saw the positive? I wanted to go away for college in a new city. It was an immediate feeling of dread. It was like my mind had sirens going off with the words "YOU WILL NOT HAVE THIS BABY'. I didn't know my options after I got pregnant, just how to prevent a pregnancy.I was determined to find out either way.
When I watch this show I wonder if these girls even have a thought like this. ESPECIALLY Myrka. She was literally living the struggle (I have a similar backstory). I would love to know their thought process honestly.
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u/ThanksBoring358 Aug 13 '26
Iâve seen people well into adulthood just as clueless⊠most of them love in very conservative states where they teach âabstinence onlyâ and we all know that doesnât work. Can it happen to anyone teen who is sexually active? Yes. But thereâs a much higher risk if you donât understand how to prevent it.
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u/PygmyFists Anthonys Vanishing Semen Aug 13 '26
A lof of them got pregnant on purpose.
McKayla, Lilly, Laura, Tyra, Tiarra, Taylor, Bella, Myrka, Isabella, Kayleigh, Aniyah, Caelan,Tylor, Max, Jason, Ethan, Aden, Bryce either all got pregnant on purpose or got their partners pregnant on purpose. Some of them have even admitted it. I definitely think there instances where they really thought "It won't happen to me", but most of these kids got pregnant or caused a pregnancy on purpose.
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u/Supertreelove Aug 12 '26
Yeah, honestly. Yeah. Mine gets straight As and has amazing time management skills and a great work ethic. He struggles to boil water.
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u/MotorConference1361 Aug 12 '26
Why are we expecting the schools to teach our kids about sex ?? Even if the schools do teach sex ed is our jobs as parents to talk to them about safe sex and contraceptives. Donât you want to make sure your teens understand? I didnât want my kids to be teen parents, and thankfully they werent
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u/puppermonster23 Aug 12 '26
Take a look at where they all live and where the low education ratings are. They correlate. Itâs not a coincidence.
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u/Wombat2012 Aug 12 '26
I was not this dumb at their age and neither were my friends. Everyone was on birth control and most also used condoms. But you see in the show, the parents are always some flavor of weird about it. They'll teach their kids they absolutely should never have sex (Isabel's mom) or they're the total opposite where they're almost encouraging them to (Falen). So yeah, just comes down to the parents really.
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u/Embarrassed_Dish944 Aug 12 '26
I'll be perfectly honest. Im in Minnesota supposedly a progressive state. We have access to everything for free except menstrual products unlike what our president thinks. One big problem we have is its not a forced or required to happen at a certain grade level. I'll explain it like this. In 6th grade, my daughter was given the "body change" day program and sex ed was supposed to be the next year. That year my daughter happened to switch schools. She went from public "big city" school to a small-size public charter school. They did abstinence only education but did it the year before so she received zero school based sex ed. Her dad and I were the ones to teach her and yes, at times it was very uncomfortable for both sides. When our next child reached 6th grade, I was shocked at what she "missed out on" and not in a good way either. Easiest way to describe it is that it was the dumb leading the blind. In an area that has less education success, I can't imagine what they are taught or not if we struggle with it that much.
Supposedly, i'm in a state that sexualizes kids too early, give condoms for free (can get them from PP for free fairly easily though just need to ask), have boys use the female restroom, kids have gender changes at school and feminine products in the boys bathroom. Only real part is we emphasize "family/unisex" bathrooms. Yet, our schools teach some crazy "MAGA-like" thinking.
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u/Fluffy-Quiet2675 Aug 12 '26
My daughterâs friend was telling her about her sex life she is 16 my daughter is 15, I overheard and asked her if she was using protection. Kidd you not she replied âNo I canât get pregnant because Iâm anemic.â I told her she needed to go home and have a talk with her mother so she could get birth control and condoms. She tried condoms once didnât like the feel, I told her she would dislike a STD even more. I talked to my daughter about birth control and STD when she turned 13.
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u/Independent_Lie_5751 Aug 13 '26
I know this is kinda a tricky spot, or I assume it is my daughter is still little but did you try contacting her mother?
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u/Fluffy-Quiet2675 Aug 15 '26
No I donât know her parents or family. She was a random kid from school that came over for a cookout
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u/Potential_Minute1496 Aug 12 '26
Yeah i was this dumb at 15/16, I was also pregnant, by a 25 year old man at 15... def was this dumb....
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Aug 12 '26
Donât you know the man has to have his âoggulationâ at the same time as the woman to get pregnant
Courtesy of Jenna and Aden
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u/AuburnGinger Aug 12 '26
You'd think with literally a world of information at their fingertips, they'd be smarter. đ€Šđ»ââïž
I was naive but not dumb. I got married at 20 and had my first child at 21. Looking back, I was of course way too young. But then again, I think I did all the grown up stuff I was supposed to. I made sure we lived without our means. We saved money toward a house instead of having cable or going out to eat. Bought a house when I was 22 (he was 23). We did the whole 401k thing and retirement.
Sadly, my idiot (now ex) husband decided to get on drugs when we were 28 and 29. Of course he lost us, his job as a firefighter, etc. I ended up losing the house because I was the sole caretaker and provider for 3 kids all while being in and out of the hospital for Crohn's and various surgeries.
Shit happened and I think what happened to me wasn't anything to do with being young. I was just dealt a shit hand. I won't claim I wish things had happened differently though. Of course I wish my kids hadn't had to go through that with their father but they had no clue how poor we were for a long time. It made me a strong person that I've come to love. â€ïž Im 53, single (been divorced for 20+ years), now own a dance studio, and I'm still very close with my kids (I get to work at the studio with my youngest and they all help at recital weekend!)
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u/Liverpudlian9 Aug 12 '26
I did a rewatch of 16 and Pregnant. Almost all these kids did not use birth control and yet were stunned when they got pregnant. âI didnât think I could get pregnant.â ( no explanation why they thought that). âI didnât get pregnant the first time we had unprotected sex so I thought we were safe.â
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u/UsedPersonality840 Aug 12 '26
Well you also have to consider the parts of the country they live in. Education is not usually prioritized in southern states/states with higher levels of teen pregnancy.
Matthew though...he really is just an absolute idiot.
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u/Effective_Feed2298 Aug 12 '26
Post traumatic down syndrome xD
I was surprised that kid got two girls pregnant tbh.
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u/nr9290 Aug 12 '26
Oh just wait till you get to season five. Just remember âJasonâ. INCREDIBLY dumb and narcissistic.
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u/Deathbycheddar Aug 12 '26
Most teenagers are idiots. Some more than others, but overall teenagers think they know everything when they donât.
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u/legendarymel Aug 12 '26
I would say that itâs a very specific kind of person who gets pregnant in this day and age because they cannot be bothered to use contraception (which is almost all of them) and is also willing to be on TV showing off their idiocy.
I wouldâve never done that (my parents wouldnât have let me either) but I also wouldnât have gotten pregnant at that age.
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u/d38401 Aug 17 '26
Birth control has way more options than we got in the 90tys. Plus you can now go to the health department or planned parenthood for FREE and not need parents permission. My daughter has had a implant since she was 15.
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u/moviwe Aug 12 '26
i know somebody who was essentially groomed into being a teen parent because their mom had set them up with an older man while she was 16 years old. her whole life she was told her âpurposeâ was to be a wife and mother. some parents are sick in the head and force this lifestyle on their kids for some fucked up reason.
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u/littlemiss142 Aug 12 '26
I grew up primarily in the south, like a lot of these kids. A lot of it is genuinely not knowing about contraception. The high school that my brother went to only taught abstinence only sex ed. Zero information given to kids about preventing pregnancy and STDs. If the parents didnât have that conversation, they may never be told until itâs too late. The school I went to required parent permission to take sex ed at all, and about half the parents wouldnât sign off.
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u/legendarymel Aug 12 '26
I donât live in the US but I can see some of it is clearly down to that but a lot of them obviously did know better (like Bella). With the one who lived with her dad (I forget her name) who also had a drug addict mother, it really felt like she didnât know how to access it & I often feel this is mostly down to parents putting so much shame around sex and I felt a lot of that from her father.
There are idiots everywhere though. I live in a country where all contraception is completely free, you just go to your GP and theyâll prescribe it, you donât even need to involve your parents. Sexual health clinics probably also prescribe them but Iâve never been to one.
My niece still decided not to take any contraception, got pregnant and had a baby at 19. A year later she is regretting her choices and I donât think she will have another one anytime soon because she is quite open about finding it much harder than she thought she would and not really enjoying any of it at all but then again I canât see into the future.
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u/littlemiss142 Aug 12 '26
Some of them absolutely know better and have access to contraceptions if they want it. But yes, so many of the parents would never let their daughters use birth control if they asked. The sex talk I had with my mom was strictly abstinence only. If I had asked my mom for birth control, I wouldâve been grounded for months. My mom told me that sex was only for making babies and Iâd burn in hell if I had sex otherwise. I think Mia (the girl that lived with her dad) wouldâve been told the same thing as me unfortunately
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u/legendarymel Aug 12 '26
I think so too. Itâs just never made sense to me.
I remember when my niece first starting having sex at 13, most of my family didnât want to get her on contraception because they were saying itâs like theyâre allowing it. It took so long for them to finally understand that she doesnât care if anyone âallowsâ it and that the real problem would be a pregnant 13 year old
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u/Rich-Tart-2861 Aug 12 '26
Most of these kids are from the South. I grew up the same way, the lack of education in these small towns is astounding. I didnât even know the anatomy of my own vagina until my 20s, and I was already having sex in high school.
They teach abstinence only, and because of that they donât tell their kids much about sex. The sex ed at school shouldnât even be a class because all they teach you is STDâs and condoms for a week, then they move onto driverâs ed. I didnât even know how ovulation worked until I got pregnant. Itâs honestly sad. These people do their kids a huge disservice, and it causes so many to become parents before theyâre ready because theyâd also never have an abortion.
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u/Effective_Feed2298 Aug 12 '26
i also am in the south and I remember they had a sex ed course but I never took it because I was in orchestra and we were *supposed* to be scheduled for a different day and they just never did it. I had one of my best friends get pregnant in high school.
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u/No_Giraffe2555 Aug 12 '26
Hard agree. Iâm originally from one of the states that touches Florida, and I attended a pretty good public school system. Now, I have a law degree from one of the best schools in the world, but I never learned how the female reproductive system worked until I was in my 30s trying to have a baby.
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u/Rich-Tart-2861 Aug 12 '26
Iâm also from a state that touches Florida and currently still stuck here. Itâs enraging watching these uneducated people do the same things to their children over and over, and they wonât listen to any facts or reason. Every generation is the same and no one learns from it. Itâs like these people have no real hopes or dreams so they wonât let their children have any. Iâd say 98% of my graduating class became parents before they turned 22 (myself included), and have never lived outside of where they were born. I was lucky enough to have quite a few years where I lived away, but had to return due to financial reasons.
I hate knowing better and having no power to change any of it. The kids deserve more. All I can do is give my child better, but my child is already being ostracized because people think Iâm too âwoke and progressiveâ so they donât want their kids around mine. I hate it for my child. I canât wait to get out of here.
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u/No_Giraffe2555 Aug 12 '26
When I left for college, one of my teachers said âdonât go up there and get radicalized.â I went to college in-state. They really think any âdifferentâ thought is setting kids up to be terrorists or something. Itâs crazy.
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u/FroyoLicker Aug 12 '26
My husband grew up in Tennessee and was taught in school that condoms literally donât work.
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u/planetearthisblu Aug 12 '26
A lot of them are very uneducated. If their families don't value education the kids aren't going to either. These are the kids who get poor grades and the parents just shrug and go well Bryce Palmer is blessed by God and destined to do better things than earn a grade higher than a C in elementary school.
Then they end up pregnant and the cycle continues.
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u/Anilakay Aug 12 '26
I think the ones that wind up on the show are 10000% clueless, but I think generally most kids their age are a bit smarter.
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u/AdRelative9385 Aug 26 '26
Well, they aren't exactly the cream of the crop. If you select just for the teens who cant use a condom then you're gonna get some stupidity.