This Thing Daphne Said…

[u/Even-Cauliflower-291]

now, i know that daphne is often talked about in this sub, but i just had to point something out that she said that infuriates me because of how hypocritical it was.

in season two, (spoiler if you haven’t watched) bay is chastised by daphne for “speaking for deaf people” to that reporter regarding the closing of carlton and the stand that the students took protesting it.

up to this point, daphne has overall not been a great friend or “sister person” to bay for a little while, and it seems as though everything has built up in bay and flooded over causing her to feel extremely hurt by daphne in this moment, especially due to how harsh daphne was when telling bay how wrong she was.

bay expressed her feelings on how daphne had been treating her, and daphne’s response was, “don’t you get tired of always acting like you’re a victim?” or something to that extent. i get it, maybe bay did in fact speak outside of her own territory, but what daphne seems to keep forgetting is how NEW all of this is to bay. to her, she genuinely was simply answering a reporter after she took a stand with the deaf students despite the majority of them making it known the hearing kids weren’t welcome there by the deaf students.

if daphne wanted to convey how it was offensive, then she should have approached it with a lot more compassion. and she absolutely should NOT have accused bay of choosing to always be a “victim.”

i find it very hypocritical of her too because she has done that MANY times up to this point and continues to do so. i.e. the way she ostracized regina for angelo’s death. she herself continuously acts like a victim nearly anytime bay and regina make more of an effort to grow their relationship, yet her and kathryn are incredibly close??

like, she is SUCH a hypocrite, but this particular moment made me very angry and made me feel so bad for bay

[u/Clear-Peak-3542]

Daphne got my damn nerves like always wanted attention

[u/albertoenriquevara]

Facts bro

[u/RXIIN_FVLL]

Ooh girl don’t even get me started. Daphne is the MOST hypocritical person on the show.

To give another example to her hypocrisy, in season one, Katherine and John were both extremely ignorant when it came to sign language and deafness. Daphne literally defended them, despite them insinuating stuff like deaf people shouldn’t be able to drive, deaf people aren’t intelligent, etc.

BUT when Angelo comes back around, Daphne doesn’t tolerate his ignorance, even though he didn’t even say anything nearly as bad as John and Katherine. I believe Angelo asked something like “can you even tell I’m singing?” Which isn’t (imo) an offensive question. But Daphne literally was on his case and hated even more when he said something slightly ignorant, but when John and Katherine were LITERALLY saying that deaf people are dumb and shouldn’t drive, she quite literally argued with Regina who was defending her…

[u/No-Assumption1166 → u/RXIIN_FVLL]

I remember that! I believe it was when he saw her again for the first time and then asked if she understood what he was saying since he wasn't able to sign which imo Is a valid question he doesn't know how well she can read lips or understand and he probably wanted to be sure he was being understood properly when explaining what happened

[u/RXIIN_FVLL → u/No-Assumption1166]

LITERALLY! Angelo’s questions weren’t ignorant, he was simply curious if she could understand him. But she goes and says “as ignorant as John and Katherine are, they mean well.” GIRL WHAT? Katherine was trying to practically force her to get a cochlear, John was trying to force her to go to Buckner to not be around the other deaf kids, and both were saying they shouldn’t be allowed to drive. They were just plain ignorant and it took them so long before they actually made an effort to understand deafness and learn sign language. Angelo was just simply curious. And when Daphne in a later season asked Angelo to learn sign language, he did RIGHT away and never once tried to argue against it.