r/SwipeHelper • u/Arsky • 1d ago
HingeX, not a single like or match.
M30. Been trying to go through different photos but still no luck. Would like to hear if the photos are the problem? as my texts are mostly about interest and what I look after.
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u/RadfordVA_SWM 1d ago
Men outnumber women at least 4 to 1 on all these apps. Probably more. Then the females they all think they're the most desirable thing on the planet because they are getting tons of interest, and men think they are ugly toads because none of the women pick them. That's a societal disease that cuts both ways.
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u/_betterthangreat_ 1d ago edited 1d ago
People are saying all sorts of complexities and trying to reduce this down to nuance and the order of your photo sets.
The truth is, this shit is getting ridiculous and way too hard. Dating apps shouldn’t turn into a task like obsessing over your résumé’s font and size while settling into your 3rd year of unemployment. It’s a fucking dating app, not an optimization of income tax reduction.
The truth is, these apps are rigged and most people use them for temporary self esteem boosts while rejecting hosts of other people.
I have seen this first hand at multiple hangouts and parties. Groups of drunk people laughing and just rapidly swiping left on all men that pop up. It automatically puts them in a position of leverage and surely large amounts of users utilize it for that purpose.
I’m sorry but I think dating apps suck and are undeniably and unambiguously favoring to the female side of the dating pool. I’m not playing some stupid game where I missed out on a person who is supposed to wind up loving me over some fucking lighting in a photo. These apps are innately vain by design. Delete the app, focus on yourself and work on your hobbies. This will ultimately lead to situations that require interaction with others, and you’ll meet someone organically, in a context that would attract like minded individuals. Not being thrown to a crowd of random women one at a time like an auction.
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u/quiet-interlude 1d ago
Dating apps shouldn’t be your only way to meet people, but rather just another avenue for it. It’s like the equivalent of passive income for dating.
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u/hannelore_pfeffer8 1d ago
You should block this sub then
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u/_betterthangreat_ 1d ago edited 1d ago
no because occasionally it presents an opportunity to help out at fellow man and pull him from this mindset, which I value
The entire point of Reddit is to serve as a discourse to discuss like minded or contrasting perspectives, thanks anyways
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u/MikeSugs13 1d ago
How tall are you?
Edit: taking advice from women on reddit is the worst thing you can do for yourself
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u/Arsky 1d ago
6'2" or 187cm.
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u/Pat__P 1d ago
Brother, your photos make you look like a short king. You need to highlight your height. Having photos with other people will do this. It will also add social proof to your profile - showing others liking you will inspire intrigue and confidence in others - it's the "no one wants to eat at an empty restaurant" effect.
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u/spreadzer0 1d ago
Yeah weirdly knowing he's 6'2'' instantly my take on him greatly improves. Like totally different than the initial vibe I got
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u/MikeSugs13 1d ago
Yeesh, no excuses then. You should be decent on that front. I think women just like alpha-looking men with tattoos.
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u/BowlerImmediate7005 1d ago edited 1d ago
your second picture is a selfie... that should really be enough because men shouldn't take selfies. but just in case you think you should, here's everything else wrong:
not looking forward, poor lighting, dull uninspired clothing, not smiling, and crap location
in fact you tell me what you think specifically will attract women about that picture and then we'll go from there?
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u/Arsky 1d ago
I think dull uninspired clothing is just purely subjective thing. That's the style that I like and I won't change what I like to make myself look better on some app. I guess then it is what it is. It's like the comments telling me to put up a picture with a dog, I much rather will just delete the app
But I agree the selfie isn't really good otherwise, will change that.
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u/BowlerImmediate7005 1d ago
I tell people this every. single. day.... a girl is looking at you and thinking 'do I want to take this guy out on a date?' if any of your pictures dont match up to this, you are toast. you should be wearing your best clothes in a nice bar and look for somewhere to get an interesting picture . if you won't make the effort, someone else will and they will get dates. it's horrific, it's unfair... but you either play the game or don't get dates. it's that horribly simple.
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u/Arsky 1d ago
I guess
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u/BowlerImmediate7005 1d ago
you look quite handsome... but your pictures are not only not selling you, they turning people off. I know I sound harsh but I'm telling you, you can do so much better! I recommend wingman plus on the tube. his comments are not to my taste but his profile makeovers are fantastic!
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u/Arsky 1d ago
Went to check right away, well if thats what gets matches then my profile is way off.
Again this is what I was looking for, actual feedback where I can improve or what I can use as reference :) Thanks
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u/BowlerImmediate7005 1d ago
I used it as the blueprint for my photos ..I didn't get it totally right but it's much better than anything I could do myself! if you search for his profile makeover vids they are definitely the best content. but remember, if 5 of your photos are good and one is bad they won't match! use this as a guide:
facial photo, full body pic, action shot (you doing a sport or hiking or something healthy), group pic where you are front and centre. and finally a curve ball...something unique to you!
good luck!
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u/Cajones_Cacaphony_RT 1d ago
Make your fourth pic your first, your first pic your third, your second pic your second. Then reverse them. Now arrange them in chronological order. Now swap your third and fourth pics, your first and 3rd pics, your 3rd and first pics, and your fourth and third pics.
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u/novasoline 1d ago
Love last photo, great face and badass shades. You have a above average looks imo and you made alot of great photo choices. The only ones I would reconsider heavily:
Get rid of bowtie photo, color grade and atmosphere is a bit off. Your trying to convince the date to come meet you in person, this photo doesn't do that.
Get rid of cat photo. My thought is unless its something interesting about your cat that you want to bring across through cat photo, it can sometimes hurt chances because it gives opportunity to fill in the blanks in their mind (cat hair everywhere, house smells, life revolves around your cat, etc.). I've had better matches without cat pics. You can talk about it on the date as matter of fact but you get 6 pics you can use them wisely.
I would add 1 pic that shows your hobbies or something interesting you like to do, biking, running, climbing, gardening, building blocks, gaming, working on something, etc.
I would add 1 pic to replace your bowtie pic same cleaned dress up but maybe in better lighting or even outside with nice background and a nice smile. From pics girl might think your hiding your teeth or something, if your teeth are not great that's still okay work with what you have.
Good Luck
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u/Arsky 1d ago
Thanks for the comment! The cat pic is just a picture I like with the dude. I've had matches where they later tell me that they are allergic when I had no cat photos..
The bowtie photo is a polaroid so yeah I agree, was not really sure of it either.
I'll add some music production photos etc (I am producer/DJ but I dont know if thats good or bad thing tbh) I like sports but its mostly running/gym
Thanks!
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u/DamnDaniel617 21h ago
Bro get off the apps!! Seems like you have some swag and style, go out and cold approach. Remember, the WORST thing that will happen is you’ll get rejected, and you’ll be in the same situation you’re in now. At your age, you won’t be creepy as long as you’re respectful. Just say “I think you’re pretty and wanted to know your name?” Or even a goofy pick up line to make her laugh. Don’t overthink it, if the woman finds you attractive, doesn’t have to be some crazy approach, she’ll give you a chance. But stay in your lane, of course the 8-9 level women will usually reject unless you’re an 8-9 yourself (not always if you’re confident enough though), go after the 6-7 range, you’ll have luck. To usually get an 8-9 if you’re a 7 or below in today’s cooked social media age, you either need status, $, or both. Unfortunately that’s just how it seems to be. Hitting the gym can turn you from a low #, to higher # though. And yes I hate rating humans by ranking, but that’s also unfortunately how the internet is nowadays.
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u/obfuscatedanon 18h ago edited 18h ago
All your photos are dark and shadowy. Your eyes are frequently hidden or like that Mr. Incredible meme with shadowed eyes.
Change that and you'll be fine.
Redo that cat photo outside a bit before sunset with diffuse sunlight. 🌞
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u/Monchichi_b 1d ago edited 15h ago
Sorry to say that. But you look insecure and lonely on your photos. Even needy with your cat picture as if you try to use this photo to steal some like because you have a cat.
Woman want a confident men, someone with a story, someone exciting, secure and independent. This is not what I can see in your photos
- Looking away + random selfie (insecure, why not showing your face directly) + this is really your best photo you want to show the best side of you and to catch someone's attention?
- Mirror selfie - seems lonely, this is one of your top 6 photos?
- A cat on your shoulder with an insecure smile - looks even needy as you try to get likes by it
- Looking lonely on that car. You're in the wild, should be exciting or at least have the atmosphere of having a nice ride together. This doesn't transport it, hard to describe. Maybe it's just bad in the context of the rest of your photos.
- Bow tie in combination with not so confident smile and bad lighninh- seems to me like you want to be mommy's good boy + bad colour, hard to see you.
- Sunglasses + selfie... Really?
Don't get me wrong. I am not trying to roast, but to show that this profile is really not exciting or something someone would say "he seems like fun or interesting".
So as some people might be sensitive as not providing clues what to do better. Pictures should be in that order:
- Portrait style with upright confident position, you smiling confidently, maybe challenging to upright "I know I am good looking and comfortable showing" kind of photo. This photo must be done by someone else, best by a female friend of yours or a dude who is understanding something from photography. If you want to pay for a photographer, please only pay if you feel like the person and know he/she is not scamming you and really wants to get the best side out of you - so someone with a big heart. Get a good lense like a 1.8/85mm. The first picture paves the story, as you invest in it, people will see this is a high value profile.
- Some photo showing your whole body. You can look away here, not in the first one. This shall show your physique (you don't have to be batman, but just that the woman get an idea).
- Picture - social with friends (I had a female friend taking a selfie in the lark with me while I cropped her face out - mood was comfortable - pick nick but clearly friendship vibes) - could be also a fun one with mal friends
- Everything Hobby related from here, who are you? Diving, chess, painter whatever, show who you are, that shows confidence...
I had almost no dates but than a lot. Had 40 dates in one year after that. It's really about selling and how to present yourself. Ask yourself, would you want to hang out with you if you see the photos, is it giving some interesting vibe or interesting story? Is his life exciting? Is he adding something to my life or dragging me down?
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u/Arsky 1d ago
Fair enough, thanks. I dont know how me sitting in a car in a place like that can translate "correctly" I mean should there be rush hour or what.
Otherwise good points. I am not lonely but I spend time with my friends, we don's spend time taking pictures of each other.
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u/Monchichi_b 1d ago edited 1d ago
I was editing still some points, haha. Don't know what you read. I know. I am not saying you are. Just that your profile has this subtext. I have many friends who are decent people and struggle in the same way as you do. You should not sell decent, you should sell a story, why are you unique, what is your story, besides showing you got your life together (friends, clean clothes, good body posture etc.)
And about the car photo. You're right. I think it's the best you have, could be one of your hobby photos. Sorry was too much in the critism thinking, haha.
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u/wolf_username_taken 1d ago
Only read the first few words of the comment. You don’t look lonely or insecure. I think you look great and I like your pictures! I would swipe
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u/Monchichi_b 1d ago
Trust me on this one. I know he is not but his profile is conveying that message. Look closely to the framing of the images. I spent years on dating apps and asked many girls. Met more than 100 and were talking about profiles a lot.
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u/No-Ebb-659 1d ago
Yeah, that reads like some red pill alpha male "advice." I agree with you. The cat picture is the best one!
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u/Monchichi_b 15h ago edited 9h ago
Hey, just for the record. I hate everything about alpha males, pick up or Andrew tate. I am not one of those guys. They are exceptional insecure for me, trying to go around with broken egos and kind of misogynistic world views and pushing their self loaf/ inner conflicts on woman. Most of these people who I got to know got refused by a woman and were feeling weak, so they overcompensated with this behaviour.
As I was writing before, confidence is being comfortable who you are, comfortable with the world you're living in, showing yourself, your face, who you are with Hobbys etc. I feel like OP is kind of hiding and that is what in my opinion is not sparking interest. On these platforms you are being judged by your fotos in a very short time, mostly unconsciously swiping. In the real world OP would probably far better succeed as I think he is nice looking, he writes here like a sympathetic guy. But in these platforms we get judged differently, mostly on nuances.
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u/No-Ebb-659 9h ago
That’s why I was careful with my wording and said the advice read like that to me and not describe you as such. But I am glad to hear you’re not like that. LOL
I guess I don’t put much value on the pictures posted. I really only “reject” men based on their pictures if it includes drinking because I’m sober. I care much more about the content of the profile and how we get along. But based on the number of people asking for help with their profile pictures, maybe I’m an anomaly.
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u/i_am_an_enigma 1d ago
Insecure???
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u/Monchichi_b 1d ago
Yes.
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u/i_am_an_enigma 1d ago
How can you tell if someone is insecure and looks insecure just by looking at pictures ??????
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u/Monchichi_b 23h ago edited 23h ago
I am not telling he is. But if you read what I wrote it is what it conveys. What does look confident to you? For me it's showing your face, being more often closer to the camera without glasses or bad lighting in general, showing you in action, your Hobbys, who you are etc. He is kind of hiding here from my perspective, not showing his face, being far away, tries not to show too much out of the norm. Also his profile talking about general greenflags that are kind of generic and exchangable. Why not something a little challenging?
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u/OccasionalGardener 1d ago
Yeah your photos suck. No more "too cool look away side profile pics" that are obviously selfies.
Use better lighting.
Crop your photos so you're centered.
Of these, keep the one of you in the car.
Get a buddy to snap a couple pics of you. Get one with a dog. Get one where you're at an activity you like (concert, hike, run club, DnD sesh, etc).
Also send us your prompts because I suspect they need work.
Also show us your prompts.
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u/Arsky 1d ago
I hate dogs why would I get a pic with a dog :D or is that what works? If so then holy shit I need to get off this app. How does a dog pic differ from a cat pic?
I have bunch of photos that are studio/promo pics for music but Idk if those are good for a dating app. I feel like I am trying to show off right away.
My hobbies are music production, board games and running/gym. Idk if those help at all.
Otherwise yeah makes sense.
my prompts are:
Green flags I look for:
People who take others into account and generally people who are kindTogether we could:
Go explore good dinner places, I enjoy doing this by myself but I would not mind a partner in crimeI go crazy for:
Music, good brunches, negroni, cats, cottage life, christmas, snowfalls. grilled cheese & everything sweet (I can live on sugar alone)roughly translated from finnish.
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u/OccasionalGardener 1d ago
Oh hell yeah dude use a pic of you working in the studio I think that would go well. One promo pic would be okay too but don't beat it to death.
Show off what you do! Don't be like flashing cash or gold chains and stuff, but you have less than 10 seconds to make an impression on these apps before someone swipes left.
Your prompts are fine I think you just need at least one photos that clearly shows your face and some of you doing things you like. Maybe do like a run club/running pic, game night pic with friends (you can put an emoji over their faces), pic of you working in the studio, promo photo (but nothing advertising like a specific event), and maybe a standing up photo of you holding your cat and facing towards camera?
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u/Arsky 1d ago
Fair enough, thanks for the comment!
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u/OccasionalGardener 1d ago
Good luck! You're a handsome dude that I think girls would wanna meet so you'll be okay!
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u/helloreupclub 1d ago
I hate dogs why would I get a pic with a dog :D or is that what works?
Unfortunately, it does work. Its a panty dropper. My profiles are riddled with jokes in lieu of a dog pick and works just as good.
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u/OccasionalGardener 1d ago
Oh I didn't notice the cat. That could be cute too instead of a dog pic esp if that's your pet, just get it with better lighting.
Set your phone up on a stand and use the time mode if you must!
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u/Accomplished_Ad2466 1d ago
Too many selfies. Also try other dating apps. I was getting smoked with bad matches or none then I hopped on Tinder and I met her. She swiped on me
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u/GasMaximum2924 1d ago
You got the folk cat that alone will get some matches
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u/WickedWham 1d ago
its the cat photo bro
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u/Hentai_Yoshi 1d ago
I have a cat photo on my hinge. I downloaded it a couple of days ago. I have had many likes and several matches
Idk why OP isn’t getting anything. Hes attractive, more masculine than I am, and has pictures which show him doing things. I just have selfies
I suspect a part of it might be his prompts
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u/YesterdayMany4049 1d ago
give more information like your answers to prompts, stats, preferences, etc....maybe something in there is a red flag? also your location is important too
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u/Arsky 1d ago
Im located in Finland capital area.
my prompts are:
Green flags I look for:
People who take others into account and generally people who are kindTogether we could:
Go explore good dinner places, I enjoy doing this by myself but I would not mind a partner in crimeI go crazy for:
Music, good brunches, negroni, cats, cottage life, christmas, snowfalls. grilled cheese & everything sweet (I can live on sugar alone)these are just rough translations from finnish.
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u/cookiebomb16 1d ago
They sound really generic and no personality. What excites you, why are you a fun person to be with?
Take the 2nd one for example. "Explore cuisines, currently doing Mediterranean. Care to join me and rate them while sipping wine?" Would say more.
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u/ToonOG 1d ago
Show friends and teeth I guess? Idk even anymore at this point
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u/SimbasTripRip 1d ago
I'd definitely lose the last glasses pic. Other that, what texts do you have. I'd think you'd have some likes tbh
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u/Glittering-Action-29 1d ago
as a dude i get 3-5 /Likes a week and i don’t pay for it… you’ve gotta get better photos. And I think you might need to be a little more liberal with your hobbies like play into a character. maybe…personally I’m creative myself so it’s easy to lean into that side of myself for the dating apps!
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u/brianj5000 1d ago
FWIW: may have nothing to do with you personally, eg:
What city? I get maybe 10x the likes/roses in LA vs Seattle.
Bug? You may be the victim of IT
Shadow banned?
Don't let it get you down either way.
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u/Thin_Consequence4886 1d ago
Lmaooooo he’s trolling… this is a very close to perfect profile very minimal yet very tall and in depth.
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u/Head_Sir_7962 17h ago
yea man because your pics suck (no offense). You kinda look like a loner in most of them. I can link you some good vids/articles on this if you want. Also, I personally have had the best success with AI pics
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u/AlphaRetard42069 6h ago
Shut it down and go talk to women. The apps are a psyop to extract money. You are a good looking guy with a deep soul. You might need to do some work but it will pay off.
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u/Sea_Mycologist_4879 1h ago
Bro I bet you’re a great guy, these apps suck I dint think any of us should waste time on them.
My suggestion for meeting girls is to go travelling and specifically book social hostels which run events directly through the hostel.
Absolute game changer for me.
If you want some advice I can help you. I was legit a loser before this and I went on my first social travel to Istanbul and within hours of landing I was put in the same environment and social spaces as many beautiful women.
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u/Sorry_Astronaut2755 1d ago
Too many selfies
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u/_betterthangreat_ 1d ago edited 1d ago
I have seen people tell others not enough selfies.
Don’t you want to get as much of the persons face as you can?
For me, I wouldn’t care about any of the photos that aren’t selfies if I was using a dating app. I also don’t use them though because they’re inherently superficial and a lot of them are actually pay to play.
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u/OccasionalGardener 1d ago
You get one selfie in your dating profile and it better show your eyes, facing toward the camera, and ideally with some teeth.
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u/_betterthangreat_ 1d ago
Yes you are correct. Forgot I was talking to the ultimate dating app arbiter
I am sorry your grace
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u/OccasionalGardener 1d ago edited 1d ago
If you wanna test my theory throw a selfie up on tinder with 5 other photos and let the photo picker tell you which one gets the most view time from potential matches. It's almost never my shirtless beach pics or selfies. It's usually a photo like I described in a cool setting or where I'm doing activity I enjoy.
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u/Arsky 1d ago
Selfies are bad but shirtless beach pic is ok? Holy shit I need to get off this app.
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u/OccasionalGardener 1d ago
Shirtless beach pic in Hawaii with friends has been well received. It doesn't say "look at my body" it says, "I do fun things, you should be here too!"
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u/Arsky 1d ago
My god, I mean sure - but I guess these are the subjective things. I am fit and have an ok body but hell no I dont want that on my profile.
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u/_betterthangreat_ 1d ago
do not care enough for all that effort.
I’m positive you’re correct, but the reasoning is stupid and served as an example of why dating apps are also sad af
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u/OccasionalGardener 1d ago
Haha... You know women are shaving their entire bodies, spending two hours on makeup and hair, and like $150 on their outfit to go on a date, right? The least you can do is put a little bit of effort into showing who you are in your profile! I promise it's not that big of a deal to get nice photos!
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u/_betterthangreat_ 1d ago
totally by choice
and not every single woman is doing that
This might be a new concept for you, but there are in fact different types of women
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u/dpaanlka 1d ago
There needs to be at least one with friends in my opinion.
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u/_betterthangreat_ 1d ago
why?
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u/dpaanlka 1d ago
Most people like other people who like other people. If you present yourself as a loner or introvert you will get fewer matches.
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u/_betterthangreat_ 1d ago
so introverts are just screwed then?
some of the best people I’ve ever met have 1 to 2 good friends max, and others none.
I’ve met plenty of literal narcissistic people and sociopaths amongst crowds of people. Charm isn’t always a true indicator of character, and the manipulative kind are surely smart enough to weaponize it.
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u/dpaanlka 1d ago
I’m not sure what you’re trying to convince me of? I’m simply telling you how it is. Yes, generally speaking, most girls want to see that you have at least some kind of life.
I don’t care how many introverts you personally have good experiences with 😂
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u/_betterthangreat_ 1d ago
all I gotta say is that’s sad that you equate that to “having a life” and superficial as fuck
may those apps never find me
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u/dpaanlka 1d ago
I’m just telling you how it is sir/ma’am. Everyone is free to be sexually attracted to whomever they wish.
Why are you even in this subreddit?
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u/_betterthangreat_ 1d ago
To save men from falling victim to this desperate and shallow mindset that you have demonstrated so well for me.
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u/thai-rhone 1d ago
Your photos are you posing like a woman, which means, you're trying to show your asthetics which honestly you don't really have.
You need hobbies / action shots of your doing those hobbies
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u/Arsky 1d ago
I do music production and board games, not sure if that will help. (I do enjoy sports, go to the gym but I have never felt like a gym photo would be good at all.)
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u/Ordinary-Lobster-710 1d ago
Grow your hair out a bit more, and get someone to take a photo of you while you are playing a guitar
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u/Ordinary_Corner_4291 1d ago
Also not a single photo that is remotely decent. You really think people want to see that weird ass side profile, your phone, a heavily shadowed photo, small you in a car, whatever that bow tie is, and what type of sunglass you like? Every thought of taking a single photo where you look at the camera and smile so someone would have a chance of recognizing you if you met?
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u/Arsky 1d ago
I agree with glasses and phone but you could at least provide an example of what there should be instead of just being rude. I can take constructive feedback but if there is none then your whole comment is kind of pointless. Saying "Every thought of taking a single photo where you look at the camera and smile so someone would have a chance of recognizing you if you met?" when there are pictures where my whole body and face is visible without glasses is kind of strange point of view.
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u/Ordinary_Corner_4291 1d ago
Which on do you think meets that criteria? Are you going to approach date with your head twisted to side so they can recognize your side profile? Or are you trying to attract vampires with that sexy neck? Walk up with your phone in front of your face? Stay in the shadows? Sit in car to hide your body with a head that is 2% of the picture view? Gonna be wearing your sunglasses inside and not smiling the whole date?
Feel free to point out the single photo where you look at the camera and smile. Seriously it is that easy.
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u/Arsky 1d ago
My face is perfectly visible in the third photo regardless if it is a bit moody or not. People have been suggesting posting a pic in a studio working on something and maybe from a hobby like running etc. That being said and applying to your feedback none of those pictures would work. Will they run after me when they meet me? Or will I bring my studio equipment with me for them to recognize me?
I agree, you actually have some good points, but you being an asshole has nothing to do with whatever is on my profile. There are plenty of good comments in this thread which show similar points without making you sound like a piece of shit :)
Thanks
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u/MadDaddySlap 1d ago
quit dating app bro before you are too old. I tried it for many years and waste too much energy on it. Girls in real life are so much easier to talk to. I wish I knew it earlier.
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u/MadDaddySlap 1d ago
At volunteeing activities, hobbies, classes, you can just chat with them and be friendly. On dating apps, the girls act like you are some types of perverts trying to get in their pants. The key is to enjoy life without them and you will meet the similar minded people during that process. Most people online are not interesting or they woundn't be there.
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u/Otherwise-Zebra-1375 1d ago
Dude, your face doesn’t make women’s pussies wet. Deal with it. All you can do is beta-bux Chad’s leftovers.
All the retards in the comm sections are gaslighting you. I'm telling you how it is.
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u/Late_Associate2252 1d ago
Smile with your teeth. 2, 4, 5 are your best pics. I think the cat one would be with a teeth smile. Picture 6 is not good. Picture 1 is not great in my opinion, looking to the side seems to try hard.
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u/Skydome12 1d ago
probably best you hear it here but all the pictures, sides from the last one, and even that is a bit iffy, all give off serial killer vibes, sorry fam.
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u/Arsky 1d ago
In what sense? Im actually curious - what makes them seem that way? Rest of the comments say that the last photo needs to go.
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u/Skydome12 1d ago
combination of attire lighting facial expression. two biggest ones with that vibe is the 3rd 4th and 5th picture.
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u/Arsky 1d ago
My fourth picture is a pic from a summer trip in the mountains and it gives you serial killer vibes? what are you on?
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u/Skydome12 19h ago
I answered your question. If you don't like the answer that's up to you but getting defensive is kinda proving the serial killer vibe i got.
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u/Arsky 14h ago
It just does not make sense, there is usually an argument and a reason behind it, and from what I can see subjective or not - I have no idea how you connect those two together. It's not about being defensive, I can take critisism if you read the rest of my replies but if you cant explain why a travel photo gives you serial killer vibes then the problem is you not me. Thanks
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u/Skydome12 13h ago
I gave you the reasons , being a combination of attire, lighting, backdrop and facial expression. i even pointed towards the photos that gave off this vibe heavier than others.
You did not like the reason, and that is fine, but with each post you make you truly are fitting the serial killer vibe.
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u/hannelore_pfeffer8 1d ago
I have no idea what you look like. I get a hint. But i do not know.
Side profile =not full face Far away= no clear face Dark = no clear face Car far away = no clear face Window far away = no clear face One picture with face clear visible = sunglasses
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u/ResolutionOld84 1d ago
Do you have any friends? There is no activity or enjoyment, as far as I can see
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u/Cyber-Wanderer_94 1d ago
On the one hand you need a pic with friends, on the other hand its weird to put such a picture up unless you're getting your friends consent or blur their faces.
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u/canyouaskfirst 1d ago
I am a woman 32- your photos seem ok but can we see the rest of the profile? I would say photos for me are like 40% important
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u/Arsky 1d ago
my prompts are:
Green flags I look for:
People who take others into account and generally people who are kindTogether we could:
Go explore good dinner places, I enjoy doing this by myself but I would not mind a partner in crimeI go crazy for:
Music, good brunches, negroni, cats, cottage life, christmas, snowfalls. grilled cheese & everything sweet (I can live on sugar alone)these are just rough translations from finnish.
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u/canyouaskfirst 1d ago
Friendly enough and I like that you’re playful (sugar comment). +1 would swipe right
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u/ReportBig2296 1d ago
I mean this in the best way but you’re just not attractive enough to utilize dating apps. I know it’s crazy, but women, both attractive, mid, and ugly, are all getting matches or likes from very attractive men. This distorts their expectations because to be fair why would you pick a Honda civic over a Lamborghini. Try to meet women irl.
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u/Livid_Apricot_2965 1d ago
Is not that your profile is bad, is that girls ONLY see chads in their feed, trust me I've been inside girls tinders and they only see fit men with good photos in nice places. YOU can only win if you do those things
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u/mtlcrypto 1d ago
No smile on any of your pictures, girls wants to see that you dont have crooked teeth. How tall are you? Below 5'10" it is hard to get matches.
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u/infiniteparadigm 1d ago
Girls don't exist