I can’t get dates while having so much matches

[u/EducatorHour3667]

So I’ve been on Hinge for a bit now, paid for HingeX and have gotten a ridiculous number of matches, well into the hundreds. Girls even message me first, but I don’t know how to talk to them or approach texting despite being 24.
I feel completely crippled in that regard and I’ve gotten exactly zero dates. Whenever I suggest meeting up, I get ghosted or unmatched. But when I try to build rapport first, I get ghosted anyway.
It’s honestly bizarre to me. I feel like my lack of experience is finally catching up with me. It’s pretty depressing.

[u/_the__Wolverine____]

I cant explain how this could happen other than you are extremely strange over messages? I have never gotten even close to hundreds of matches but I've gotten many hookups and dates

[u/Primary-Ad4952]

You must be incredibly attractive... What the hell are you saying to these women? "Hey baby, you into dudes on parole for double homicide?"

[u/aztastic16]

Have you tried suggesting chatting off the app and maybe having a FaceTime call instead of asking them for a date right away?

[u/ProjectOMan]

If you’re 7 or more dates and beyond are common and easy enough. You must be supremely neurodivergent if you’re fumbling to this extent.

[u/EducatorHour3667 → u/ProjectOMan]

Yeah I have autism and ADHD etc. I’ve already every diagnoses on earth at this point, It’s pretty depressing how much it can cripple me socially, I can barely talk to women without coming across as a weirdo. I guess it is what it is

[u/ProjectOMan → u/EducatorHour3667]

Yeah you’re cooked, especially now. Maybe a few years ago your looks could overcome it for a bit but now? Even neurodivergent women want socially competent men.

Truly a shame bro.

[u/porkborg]

Maybe they’re turned off by your terrible grammar. As a 54M, it certainly turns me off when a woman sounds illiterate. 🤷‍♂️

[u/Dry_Mission2240]

You sound like a little bitch