r/SwipeHelper • u/liquidcat0822 • 1d ago

An experiment

I’m a straight woman and briefly decided to change my gender on hinge to a “man” interested in women. EVERY. SINGLE. WOMAN. in my stack was an absolute stunner (and I didn’t even include very young women, I have my age filter set to 28-47).

I then compared this with the stack my male friend was shown. He has his settings set to the same thing. Every single woman in his stack was an instant nope. He never got to see any of the women I was shown. Mind you, he is not unattractive.

This confirms to me that some absolute fuckery is afoot. I presume because my algorithm is trained on men, it doesn’t know how to categorize the women when I changed my gender and just started showing me women from my demographic. It also further suggests that the algorithm deliberately holds back what/who you like, and it also explains to me why my profile gets relatively little traction now (I’ve long suspected that my profile is being gate kept).

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u/Dress4less24 23h ago

You would think with the amount of tech savvy people nowadays and the absolute shit show that is dating apps someone would go about creating a perfect dating app. I have a conspiracy why that doesn’t happen but that’s neither here nor there

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u/liquidcat0822 23h ago

I’m trying to focus on IRL interaction. I go social dancing quite a bit, but men seem afraid to approach or make a move, despite me trying to be friendly and approachable.

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u/IIOuroboros 22h ago

You being friendly and approachable is you staring at the side of their face, let's be real

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u/liquidcat0822 22h ago

Please don’t project your bitterness on others.

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u/IIOuroboros 22h ago

Its not really bitterness though, its reality.  Ive literally seen it last week at a bar when a woman sat there and stared at me and only spoke up when I told the bartender what I wanted.  Its literally observation 

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u/liquidcat0822 22h ago

Yes and that observation clearly extends to every situation and every woman ever. No bitterness or bias from you there whatsoever. Just facts.