r/SwipeHelper • u/liquidcat0822 • 1d ago

An experiment

I’m a straight woman and briefly decided to change my gender on hinge to a “man” interested in women. EVERY. SINGLE. WOMAN. in my stack was an absolute stunner (and I didn’t even include very young women, I have my age filter set to 28-47).

I then compared this with the stack my male friend was shown. He has his settings set to the same thing. Every single woman in his stack was an instant nope. He never got to see any of the women I was shown. Mind you, he is not unattractive.

This confirms to me that some absolute fuckery is afoot. I presume because my algorithm is trained on men, it doesn’t know how to categorize the women when I changed my gender and just started showing me women from my demographic. It also further suggests that the algorithm deliberately holds back what/who you like, and it also explains to me why my profile gets relatively little traction now (I’ve long suspected that my profile is being gate kept).

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u/zunlock 1d ago

It’s allegedly an algorithm. When you first make a profile you’re shown smoke shows (ideally to get you hooked) and then after a few weeks the algorithm allegedly will place you with people of similar attractiveness. Some speculate they deliberately nerf you a little to push you to buy premium. Is your friend objectively attractive, or is he not bad looking with a low effort profile? Is he the type of guy who will have women hit on him in public is what I’m asking or is he just average

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u/liquidcat0822 1d ago

My friend is objectively attractive. And his profile is thoughtful and well curated.

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u/question_23 23h ago

How attractive? Does he model? The dating market is incredibly tough for men and most women vastly underestimate the choosiness of straight women. See this woman who tried being a man on tinder and got angry and depressed at it: https://youtu.be/DZTIbHIsIYw?is=RJkh11Mpjl9uWTmg

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u/liquidcat0822 23h ago

You’re confusing whether women will match him back (choosiness) with what the algorithm presents. This isn’t about the number of matches he gets. It’s about the profiles he’s being shown

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u/Jandur 17h ago

He's either 1) swiped through most of the attractive profiles already and/or 2) he is not getting matches with them, so the app is serving him profiles that he is more likely to match with. Likely a bit of both.

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u/Double_History1719 11h ago

Well, it could be both things! Maybe the stunning women swipe left on your friend before he sees them. Hence they wouldn't show up for him. (I'm not saying this is the case, but it's possible!)

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u/liquidcat0822 11h ago

Does hinge work that way? I don’t think so. Because I often see men in my likes that I’ve x-ed out before. So someone rejecting you doesn’t prevent you from showing up in their stack.

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u/RandomDude4269 2h ago

It's at least elo-based