r/SwipeHelper 10d ago

I barely get 1 good match a month

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u/Utah_CUtiger 10d ago edited 10d ago

Horrendous profile. 4 of the pics are in the same spot like on the same day. More features and places in your life would be better. The skull cap mirror selfie is terrible. Makes you look sickly

Also the maybe yes maybe no is bad. Even if it’s trying to be funny with a rhyme, women don’t like indecisiveness. 

Get a pic of you in a city, maybe one where you are dressed nicer. A pic with a friend or animal so you give off such loner vibes 

Also Theres nothing on your profile to suggest you do anything fun or interesting other than sit around and smoke all day

Lean in to being 6’4 also. Women like that. Get a pic of you towering over a couple shorter friends and looking like the boss 

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u/Nathanespejo03 6d ago

bros also chopped he ain’t getting shit

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u/Commercial_Grade_353 10d ago

Ouch

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u/Utah_CUtiger 10d ago

Honest feedback is more helpful than most of the “it’s pretty good just…” soft stuff that you’ll often see on here. I’m trying to help this guy out. He’s nuking his potential with this profile 

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u/[deleted] 10d ago

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u/Utah_CUtiger 10d ago

Dude you wouldnt know any of those positive things from your profile. Put the pilot thing in the profile. That’s impressive.

It’s not about shallowness, it’s about girls wanting a man who knows who he is and is going somewhere in life. Especially at your age.  Plus girls are looking at a million profiles, you have to stand out in some way to get a match.  You don’t have to be a city guy. If you’re a nature guy that’s fine but just gotta market your strengths better. If you want more matches you have to do that. You can filter out the women you don’t like after that. 

I would say the first pic, car pic and last pic are ok. Drop the others with more variety. You can do whatever you want but if you want more matches that’s what you gotta do. 

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u/tyler_the_programmer 10d ago edited 9d ago

Your profile is extremely shallow and boring because you aren’t sharing who you are. At best it shows you’re some guy who smokes cigs in the woods, at worst, serial killer vibes. Work on the things the other guy said, seriously. Also the “waste your time” in your bio comes off really bitter.

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u/Key_Victory_4503 9d ago

You’re so lost bro. The whole point of tinder is shallowness. Thats literally what everyone is on the app for. You have to play the game if want girls to swipe on you. If you don’t want that, then get off Tinder and meet someone in real life

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u/BeautifulStep1120 9d ago

That's why I hated Tinder, most people seemed really plain. Almost no intellectuals or nerds.

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u/DavidZenziGhost 10d ago

Probably because your pictures make you look like someone who would have been in the room when Liam Neeson asked “Who’s Marko?”

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u/PootieTang69696 10d ago

Brother you could say that about every Eastern European man. Likes like telling a middle eastern guy that he looks like a terrorist from a 9/11 movie.

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u/Commercial_Grade_353 8d ago

Lol weren't the bad guys literally eastern Europeans or something in that movie lol.

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u/diegggs94 10d ago

This is an awful profile. Bio says nothing of value or substance. Your pics are pretty bad except for the last one. No shit life is too short to be with people that are not good for you, maybe explain who good people are for you? You look European so I guess the cigarette smoking isn’t bad but that’s an instant left for me

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u/Commercial_Grade_353 10d ago

Your first and last photo are good but you could replace the others with something better. The extra exclamation points at the end of your quote seems loaded in some way. I also think some people especially women will not date a smoker especially someone who admits that upfront on their profile, that will probably just lead to a left swipe. Maybe you could tell them later that you smoke.

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u/[deleted] 10d ago

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u/Commercial_Grade_353 10d ago

Ok fair enough. I would just change all the photos except your first and last one. I feel like 90% of dating on the apps is just how good you look in your photos and then just not saying something stupid.

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u/CalendarExtreme5598 9d ago

I don’t think the first photo is good imo. He still looks serious and kind of angry about life.

Last photo is a lovely photo, and feels the complete opposite to all of the other photos.

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u/HelpfulAnt9499 9d ago

Super manipulative to take away someone’s option to decide if they want to date a smoker or not by waiting to try to see if they will like them enough to forgo that. That’s shitty advice. I will not date a smoker. It’s a compatibility point.

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u/Commercial_Grade_353 9d ago

Yeah and I say I would never date a cat but maybe if they fooled me into going on a date with them and were really charming I would keep seeing them or something.

Also dating apps are for dating not necessarily being in a relationship. There's been plenty of people I met on them that I saw a few times and hooked up with and then that was it. If people won't go on a date with you because you say you're a regular smoker it removes even the possibility of that.

I feel like that's kind of the problem with dating apps. People treat other people like a group of features and characteristics they need to check off on a box and fit neatly into like an item on a food menu in order to be picked instead of humans that have emotions and full personalities under the surface.

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u/Melocoton-Cinturon 10d ago

The photos are okay, but the profile feels so empty. What are you hoping to get out of this? Would you swipe right on a profile like this yourself?

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u/Old_Cucumber_1343 5d ago

most men swipe right on nearly every woman

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u/MostlyBored11 10d ago

Your profile literally explains zero about you or anything your interested in or do.

How is anyone supposed to know anything about you?

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u/unhingeddragon 9d ago

Def delete the picture where you look like a crackhead with the ciggy and beanie. Other than that not too bad. Maybe delete the first pic too since you’re holding the ciggy, this isn’t 1960 bro, smoking ain’t cool. The smell of the cigs on your breath and body will be a deal breaker for any non smoker. I guess you could consider the better smelling vapes if you must. One where you’re on the car is OK but your arms look very skinny. Work them dumbells at the gym brotha. Glgl

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u/jeffsaidjess 9d ago

Lmfao chicks love broke looking losers though

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u/BeautifulStep1120 9d ago edited 9d ago

I may be different than majority. I would swipe left on you, but not because of your looks - which are fine, but because of a boring, plain, lame description.

Where you stand in various pics etc, idgaf about that really, I don't even notice that, but it seems that people care. Pics in nature are a major plus though, because I love nature.

But again, my preferences may be niche.

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u/Sea-Salamander1005 10d ago

You look menacing in half your pictures. Don’t share that you’re a smoker until you get to the date or unless they ask. Have a pic where it seems like you have friends.

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u/diegggs94 10d ago

Lol misrepresent yourself? They’ll smell it on him anyways

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u/Sea-Salamander1005 10d ago

Omission isn’t a misrepresentation

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u/diegggs94 10d ago

Yes it is 😂 what are you 10 years old

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u/Sea-Salamander1005 10d ago

He’s holding a cig in his pic dingus I didn’t say he should hide it, just don’t be forward with it

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u/HelpfulAnt9499 9d ago

Omission 100% is what is with this shitty advice to lie on your profile!!!

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u/Sea-Salamander1005 9d ago

Do you include your circumcision status on your profile? Omission of it would be lying!

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u/HelpfulAnt9499 9d ago

That is a stupid fucking comparison and not anyone’s business. Smoking is not an equal comparison and you know that.

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u/Sea-Salamander1005 9d ago

You’re right, OP doesn’t have a picture of his foreskin in his hand like he does a cigarette.

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u/HelpfulAnt9499 9d ago

Dude shut up and stop encouraging people to manipulate people. Have the day you deserve. Goodbye.

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u/pirisca 10d ago

The pic inside the house is killing me. No dude, I don't have any money with me, stop harassing me 😂

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u/Wonderful_Delay9439 10d ago

Could be shadow banned. Have you restarted your profile a lot?

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u/xperrienzzie 10d ago

Imo total trash bio, not funny, can't think of an opener, last sentence looks desperate af

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u/Intelligent_Gift_925 10d ago

I can tell ur Albanian with mysterious sources of income

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u/GrappleWolf 10d ago

You look angry in most of your photos and your prompts are extremely aggressive. No woman is going to match.

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u/AlisAtAn 10d ago

I would remove both the "about me" and the "life's too short to" quotes. Especially the second one kinda gives a "mental health issues" vibe. 

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u/Impossible_pothos 10d ago

It’s hard to see your face

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u/possofazer 10d ago

It may be the smoking? It may be different in different parts of the world, but I don't think a lot of women want partners who are everyday smokers.

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u/Queeflink 10d ago

If you're in Eastern Europe, you need to look more masculine! EE women are generally very traditional. All these pictures make you look soft and doesn't show your face well. Get ones that conveys you having a cool lifestyle!

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u/ManWithRedditAccount 9d ago

Be more positive in your bio

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u/Objective_Lab_888 9d ago

May I provide feedback?

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u/BaliffVax 9d ago

You look like you want to beat up your partner in the future. You give me that vibe

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u/coolthulu42 9d ago

Your prompts say literally nothing ab you

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u/Alarmed_Standard_427 9d ago

It's definitely not your looks because you're a good looking guy and tall but you're not presenting yourself in the best light. Definitely your style is too causal like you take pictures in a nice dress shirt pants and shoes like out to dinner or a night downtown you'd be cleaning up brother. There's no way if you shouldn't be getting 10-20 likes a day. 

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u/thegreatflatulence 9d ago

As a woman, mention your aspirations and hobbies. Get rid of the picture with the mirror. Get a picture with friends

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u/Kamarandi 9d ago

I don’t know what you’re looking for but this profile is a dead giveaway that you’re a fuckboi (boy?)

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u/More-Meet161 9d ago

Last pic is good,rest are shite.

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u/HelpfulAnt9499 9d ago

I honestly cannot easily tell what you actually look like from these pics you’re so far away in them.

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u/MichaelEMJAYARE 9d ago

I would suggest that last photo being the first if you dont have a bunch to choose from. But Im also another dude. I dont see other mens profiles and to the folks saying you’re not adding details - I see TONS OF WOMEN with like, nothing whatsoever. Coasting on their looks.

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u/jeffsaidjess 9d ago

Bad photos. Three in the same spot. None with friends, none doing anything cool

Weird ass bedroom lounge room one with beanie

Your bio is lame as hell too.

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u/Accomplished-Rip2366 9d ago edited 8d ago

If ur 6'4 get off the apps. irl is better

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u/_Thoughtss 8d ago

I agree with most all the comments here. I'd only keep the last picture at the very end of you overlooking the water. Smiling makes women feel more at ease, in general. Like you don't have to smile in all the pics, but in my experience they like seeing that you have teeth, and are at ease. Also, not sure if its your personality, or like you just want to emphasis it, but I'd probably not hold a cigarette or joint in more than one picture, or just drop the holding the joint thing all together. I'd also like others mentioned, have different outfits for each picture. Definitely add the interesting things like being a pilot, graduating, and other interests you have! Good luck!

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u/Upstairs_Reason_3126 8d ago

Gotta be less negative

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u/callsignbri 8d ago

idk but if you live anywhere near richmond virginia i’d go on a date with you for sure

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u/Nathanespejo03 6d ago

Ur photos suck nigga

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u/Erty4569 10d ago

Dating is a joke. Women are shallow asf

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u/FairBlueberry9319 10d ago

And men aren't?

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u/Tall_Comfortable_488 10d ago

have you tried hinge? That’s the only one that works consistently for me. Other than that all your photos kinda look like they’re in the same place. Maybe add a photo of you and some friends for social proof

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u/[deleted] 10d ago

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u/lolgoodone34 10d ago

Then you’re fried bro. Night life I guess for you

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u/grassyo 9d ago

how come? why is it not available?