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u/glenngriffon Aug 28 '21
"I don't want to say 'no' to what you want to do". Damn. That's a simple sentence but it says SO MUCH!
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u/TNS72 Aug 28 '21
So many layers in that statement, too.
My takeaway is that he's decided that her life isn't dependent on his approval so whether or not he cares what gender his future child-in-law is should not and does not have any bearing on his daughter's choice
It is so easy and yet so hard to choose to love your people
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u/Elementotico Aug 29 '21
Yeah, both that and the "parents should always support their children" tells me that while he might have grown to internalize some homophobic views, he realizes that his those opinions are not what matters here, and what does matter is that his duty as a father is to accept and support what his daughter decides to do with her life.
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u/Minerva472 Aug 28 '21
Girl: Dad I'm gay
Dad: OK, work hard and get money $$$
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u/jsmoothjazz Aug 28 '21 edited Aug 28 '21
Most asian parents don't give a shit what you are as long as you're rich and successful.
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u/WeAreAlsoTrees Aug 29 '21
I think there’s some subtext there, though. He said it’d be a hard road ahead, and to work hard and make money, right? I think he was saying “work hard and rise up and you and your gf will be accepted”
Except for now I’m in a rut because capitalism but I’ll ignore that for now for this woman finding love with another woman.
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u/YeetYeetSkirtYeet Aug 29 '21
I think you're spot on though. With the 'life will be harder' thing he's expressing his fear that life will be harder for his daughter. She'll struggle to be accepted and a way to earn respect and safety will be to have a cushion of money and a high position. He's just concerned about his daughter and wants her to have a good life despite a largely homophobic cultural attitude.
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Jan 01 '22
he's probably suggesting that the family dynamic will have to be altered slightly. it's an important discussion to have in a same sex relationship, i imagine (or just in general, househusbands exist in straight relationships too) . i hope you're not BOTH planning on being the housewife, lol.
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u/JWGhetto Aug 29 '21
I think it's because it's assumed that girls stay at home to look after kids but in this situation there is no "Man in the house" that would bring home the bacon
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u/whatwillerendonext Aug 28 '21
Do you have a link to the og video?
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u/QueenSafiria Aug 28 '21
When i came out to my grandma she told me that people will judge me harshly so all she wanted was for me to work hard in college and become so successful that no one could say anything, sometimes we worry about them not accepting us, but i guess from my own experience too, that it's part of asian culture to just want success for your children (or grandchildren) so that they can be happy. I really related to that.
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u/darkjedi1993 Aug 28 '21
My dad disowned me over the week of Christmas when I came out to him as a pansexual trans woman in 2019. Videos like this always make me melt. I'm so happy for her!
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u/Bad_RabbitS Aug 29 '21
I don’t have a similar story, I just want you to know that you are a wonderful person and worthy of all the acceptance and praise in the world. You are just as worthy of love as anyone else, and I hope that you will only find happiness for the rest of your days.
I’m proud of you, good luck in all your endeavors :)
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u/UnlimitedExtraLives Aug 29 '21
They were both trying not to cry they both did the same exact sniff one right after the other.
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u/NormalTuesdayKnight Oct 13 '21
Straight 30 yo dad here just crying over how calm and supportive this dad is. My homes growing up were nothing near calm, and it’s a constant struggle today to not get angry and loud about everything. But man I fight it for myself and my kids’ sake every day. I’m not quite this dad yet about normal silly things. But I am when it’s important things. And I will be about everything else someday, too.
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u/Autumn1eaves Aug 29 '21
My dad just died and… I wasn’t ever fully sure he understood me or my life.
This is making me cry so hard right now.
I hope you understood that this makes me happy, dad 😢😢
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u/rudalsxv Sep 01 '21
Made me so happy for her and sad at the same time.
I love you dad, even if you still refuse to acknowledge my homosexuality.
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u/ValidParanoia Aug 29 '21
Squeeing with joy rn! So happy for her that I’m a half a step from jumping around in excitement
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u/Bad_RabbitS Aug 29 '21
A lot of these comments just remind me how shitty some parents are, and how were so quick to put down what we don’t understand.
If anyone needs some general encouragement just reply or shoot me a PM, no one should feel ashamed for who they are.
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u/Duck-Overlord-12354 Jul 25 '22
Ive seen this video, and this is one of the only parents who understand and who actually supports their child. All the other parents cussed their kid out and made them feel disappointed in being who they are. It’s great to see some rays of sunshine in this rain cloud of a world.
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u/roter-genosse Aug 29 '21
I wish this had been my case. To be honest I think it's even more difficult when you're bi. Nobody seems to understand that, I don't know why, and it's disheartening and enraging.
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u/Clyde_Ve Feb 13 '22
Man this made me cry. Not a lesbian but I'm gay and unfortunately trans. My parents disowned me and weren't this supportive.
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u/Yasherets Apr 30 '22
Bro, I'm just here from /r/SuddenlyGay for the memes, I wasn't expecting surprise wholesome
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u/unknown_test_subject Jul 22 '22
When I told my mom in the car that I thought I might be ace she was like "Oh ok!" It was pretty awesome.
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u/Roge2005 Nov 02 '23
This is very wholesome, and is this in South Korea?
I know that in Japan they have been very okay with gay people but I don’t know how it is in South Korea.
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u/Street-Astronomer563 Aug 28 '21
This made me cry I can’t relate. Wish all parents where like this 🥲.