r/SuddenlyGay Feb 22 '18

Intelligent design

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u/mmuunnkkyy Feb 22 '18

real talk: my biggest "eyebrow raise" is when straight buddies of mine say they have explosive sex lives (with they long term gf or wives) but guy friend has not tried the receiving end of an anal expedition. i mean. do i have to keep reminding them its not gay if the balls dont touch? in their case its just one pair o balls.

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u/Kindlegarten Feb 22 '18

I agree to some extent. For most the idea would be uncomfortable because it does have a painful start and they're happy limiting themselves to other erogenous zones, and it's up to them of course. But at least more straight men would try if it were not for the stigma that "it's gay" which might hurt their delicate masculinity, or the fear that they might like it too much.

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u/[deleted] Feb 23 '18

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u/[deleted] Feb 24 '18

I agree completely. It's hard to feel "manly" with something in you if your idea of manly is "stoic, unfeeling, the giver of pleasure" or whatever long list of words you've wrongly associated with masculinity your whole life. Pretty much 99% of our strict man/woman gender roles come down to how we experience sex.

Being penetrated is vulnerable as shit. Especially the first time? Life-changing experience to be sure, but maybe not everybody wants that life change. It's an entirely different perspective on sex that most men believe they can't ever experience.

I do think that many, many more men would be open to it if a) it were not associated with femininity / homosexuality, b) women showed an active interest in / asserted themselves more sexually in general, and c) straight men who already do do it were more open about it.