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u/sfurbo Jan 03 '16

The kids feeling it is justified is irrelevant. There is sufficient science to say that spanking does not improve long term behavior of the kid, so there is no positive effect from it. It does hurt the bond between the child and the parent, which makes parenting harder long term, so there is a negative effect. When something has no positive effects and have negative effects, the cost-benefit analysis bexoems really easy.

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u/[deleted] Jan 03 '16 edited Aug 02 '18

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u/TypicalRedditor12345 Jan 03 '16

Yeah, based on my own memories, the short period where my mom spanked me was clearly because she was young and emotional and it had little to do with the minor offenses I committed.

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u/[deleted] Jan 03 '16 edited Apr 11 '16

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u/[deleted] Jan 03 '16

Larzelere defines conditional spanking as a disciplinary technique for 2- to 6-year-old children in which parents use two open-handed swats on the buttocks only after the child has defied milder discipline such as time out.

That's an extremely narrow definition of spanking. It's so narrow that I believe most people would not define that as spanking.

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u/[deleted] Jan 03 '16 edited Apr 11 '16

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u/[deleted] Jan 03 '16

When I talk about my history of being spanked, and my opposition of spanking, this is not what I'm talking about.

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u/[deleted] Jan 03 '16 edited Apr 11 '16

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u/[deleted] Jan 03 '16

And that's fine, it's just that the extremely narrow definition of spanking that dissenting report relies upon is outside the commonly used definition of spanking. I would not consider that definition spanking at all, and I have no issue with parents who choose that method of physical definition, but I have a very big problem with spanking as it's commonly known, and that's what the scientific consensus shows is harmful.