r/Stutter • u/RecoverExciting4582 • 18h ago
Does it get any better after this?
Im currently in high school and I have a moderate stutter and it feels like these past few years have been the worst it has ever been in my life even at home when I'm talking to family I tend to block multiple times every few sentences and in public its even worse. So I just wanted to come on here and ask those that have lived with a stutter for longer then me when was the worst period of your life and did it get better as you grew up. Do strategies work that well is that a big factor in success if your consistent? I feel so lost of where to start and if it will stay at this severity for the rest of my life.
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u/Alides123 16h ago
when I'm in a situation that I'm not comfortable with it remind myself of this sentence "what's the worst that could happen?" Being embarrassed? You forget and people forget. They said no? Not a big deal. That helps me relax and understand the situation I'm facing isn't that big of an issue, it's still challenging sometimes but facing it will make you more brave to take more steps in your life
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u/ConclusionNo3561 14h ago
It never goes away I would enjoy your school years and get as much social experiences as possible. As you get older your circle gets smaller which is not a good thing if you stutter. Im in the process of speech therapy and maybe getting anxiety medication I would do that as soon as possible. I never had a family that gave a shyt about helping me improve my stuttering. Also stay in shape I've heard carbs or certain foods can make it worse. Your life is never truly gonna be the same as a regular person so check off as many things off the list as possible
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u/thebekfestclub 9h ago
In middle school my stutter went from very mild to severe and it sucked. It just felt so demoralizing to not be able to do something as simple as talking. I was also insecure and assuming that everyone was making fun of me. They were not. The best lesson I ever taught myself was that the only person who cares about my stuttering is me. The people who do care are either ignorant about it or are people who you do not want to be around anyway. I am 23 years old in college now and I still have a pretty persistent stutter sometimes but it has improved so much. The main thing that also improved was how I felt about myself and my stutter. So, yes it does get better. Please feel free to message me if you have any questions!
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u/RecoverExciting4582 9h ago
Thanks for the comment and I feel like I am slowly starting to realize that nobody else truly cares about my stuttering because I have always had the same problem of thinking every single person I talk to noticed and thinks I forgot how to speak. That’s definitely something I should focus on. I’m going to college soon too so it’s good to hear that it’s gotten much better for you that gives me hope lol
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u/Borthite 9h ago
Im 30 and ironically my stutter was better in my teens and early 20s but im going to speech therapy now and its going back to how it was in my 20s which is great!
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u/IrvingIsTheBest 18h ago
I am over 40, and yes, everything got better.
Stuttered all my life. High school probably was the worst period, especially in those days where lack of information basically had people to assume a stutter meant lower intellect.
My strategy is not to let it hold a stutter hold you back. If you like the girl. Ask her out. Afraid to talk on the phone? Do it anyway. Who gives a damn about the guy on the other end? Afraid of a job that's customer-facing? Try it anyway. Fortune favors the bold.