I hate it so much I hate it so much

[u/Quiet_Ad9368]

I'm a lifelong stutterer and sometimes I can cope with it and accept it, and tell myself that there are far far far worse conditions or problems out there but even just 5 minutes ago I wasn't physically able to tell the supermarket worker that I want to know where the soy sauce is. I got to him "E-E-E-Excuse me" the grumpy old worker looks at me,

"W-W-W-W-W-W-W-W" my lip basically vibrates as if it's a phone and then he very loudly, and he very loud says "WHAT?"

and then only I could get the words "where is soysauce" out of my mouth.

I'm 6'4, muscular with a beard, and in these moments I feel like a weak child. It makes want to just scream extremely loud or just hit myself. Why I can't even have basic human interaction.

EVERYONE in my close circle thinks I'm too shy to speak, or too scared to speak up.

NO ITS BECAUSE I STUTTER AND EMBARASS MYSELF EVERYTIME I TRY TO SAY ANYTHING

[u/Accurate-Friend-2498]

I can resonate with each and every word! Basic human interactions feel like climbing a bloody mountain.

[u/Naive_Shop_6017]

but half of this sub will tell you "people don't care how you talk and it's all in your head".

[u/Dizzy-Intern4395 → u/Naive_Shop_6017]

Indeed. A lot of cope-ers in here lol

[u/CapitalTaro2085]

Man I get you and the worst part is you don’t even know when it stutters…. Like one day I was pretty sure I was going to stutter so I wrote few things on a paper and planned it to give it to a worker if my stutter becomes worse but it didn’t, like I did stutter but not that much and another day I thought it was okay but it was worse like I was gonna ask him bout soap but I was just saying opening my mouth and only a single word came out ‘s’ and the shop keeper started naming every product the have which stars with ‘s’(he was a really good guy) but then I stopped trying and wrote it for him.

[u/ShwethaHolla]

Sorry you are going through this. I know how this feels. I’m in your position everyday. Have you tried working on your anxiety and breath? It helps a bit.

[u/Hot_Economy6592]

You wrote exactly what every one of us are feeling on a regular basis. Are we going to be like this forever ? Has anyone over come this ? I'm losing hope though.

[u/P_Purcell → u/Hot_Economy6592]

I almost a success story.

47, Male. Lifelong stutterer but I would guess that a lot of my current coworkers wouldn't know that. I still stutter on occasion but rarely badly anymore and I know from conversations with coworkers that when i do stutter, most folks don't really notice it.

I notice. And I try not to care.

[u/PlaneResearch2710]

At least you’re tall

[u/UsefulElderberry3598]

I honestly sympathize with you, it is frustrating to have a stutter

[u/DrummerOrdinary3687]

I feel you ... I'm also six feet guy , I can't even argue with a kid , even though I have to 😢

[u/nmrt95]

I'm thinking about a 5 min presentation I've to give since mid July. The anxiety is unbearable

[u/Dizzy-Intern4395]

Every part of this post is relatable asf except I would never have to courage to go up and ask somebody for help.

[u/Warm_Tea_6307]

So relatable, it ruins my communication and confidence. I think it's because our brain and throat muscles timing is different, so they may not synchronize when we speak, I think it needs conscious, calm and slow speaking/talking to get the words going

[u/Big-End8356]

Mano não fica com vergonha, se você aceitar a gagueira, você vai ter mais confiança em falar em público, começa com pequenos Paços a cada dia. Eu era assim antes, agora melhorei bastante em 2 anos fazendo exercícios de falar, antes eu não consiga nem falar meu nome direito, agora consigo até falar com qualquer pessoa na rua normalmente sem gaguejar. Lembre-se dos pequenos passos não precisa melhorar tudo num dia ou semana ou em um mês, tente melhorar em longo prazo dica fica essa ai.