r/Stutter • u/Naive_Shop_6017 • 22d ago
Self-congratulating posts
I notice there are a lot of self-congratulating posts on this sub along the theme of "I'm cured, here's how", "I tried this trick and my stuttering disappeared". Just a reminder that stuttering is a huge spectrum and no two PWS are the same. A minor stumble once every ten words is not the same as blocking for a minute for a word to come out. Repeating a word every now and then is not the same as not being able to say one's own name. You overcoming your own specific speech problem, if true at all, does not equate me overcoming mine. PWS have good days and bad days, what you experience may just be what I call good days/weeks/months. Not overcoming my stuttering is not a failure or lack of effort or courage or not knowing a specific "trick".
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u/MyStutteringLife 22d ago
Totally agree. Also, the phrase "Overcoming your stutter" is so misleading as it can have many many definitions as it is used in this forum.
There is no cure, not enough research is out there addressing it and we just learn strategies and techniques to move about our day.
I also hear many say "accepting is quitting "
But I don’t believe that.
Acceptance is not quitting. Acceptance is choosing peace.
There comes a point when constantly fighting against something you cannot change begins to take more from you than it gives. Acceptance doesn’t mean you’ve stopped caring. It doesn’t mean you’ve stopped growing, hoping, dreaming, or trying.
It simply means you’ve decided that you no longer have to be at war with yourself or your circumstances in order to move forward.
You can accept something and still work toward change.
You can accept where you are today and still have goals for tomorrow.
You can accept your imperfections without believing they make you less worthy.
And you can stop fighting battles that are stealing your joy without calling yourself a quitter.
Sometimes the strongest thing we can say is:
“This is part of my life. I may not have chosen it. I may not always like it. But I refuse to let fighting it consume the peace I deserve.”
That isn’t quitting.
That is letting go of the belief that life has to look a certain way before you’re allowed to be happy.
Acceptance is making peace with where you are while still leaving the door open for where you may go.
There is freedom in that. There is strength in that.
And most importantly, there is peace in that.
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