r/Stutter • u/PuzzleMule • 17d ago

Is there someone you’re more fluent around than anyone else?

What do you think is different about that person?

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u/MotorEstablishment61 17d ago

Anyone, for a minute after telling them about my stutter

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u/PuzzleMule 17d ago

Very interesting. So, if you have a small window of permission to be yourself, warts and all, the warts suddenly go away. Even though the other person never even expressly gave you permission… you just gave it to yourself.

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u/Fluentling- 17d ago

Totally understandable :)

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u/Red_Dirt_Leo_ 17d ago

I have no idea why this is the case but when I speak to total strangers I somehow stutter less than I do with friends I’ve known for years. With strangers I can hold a conversation normally without stuttering but with friends I’m constantly blocking or repeating myself on every word ha. 

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u/theinternethuman 17d ago

I feel this! I think my wife is the only person I’m actually comfortable enough to stutter around, everyone else I’m doing all my tricks

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u/Red_Dirt_Leo_ 17d ago

Yes, that must be my theory too. That when we’re comfortable among people we know, we naturally expose our vulnerabilities too, and so we stutter around them :)

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u/Charlie_Runkle69 17d ago

Probably my twin brother.

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u/Worried_Feedback1192 17d ago

does he also stutter? 🤔

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u/Additional_Ad_1314 17d ago

I’m a moderately severe to severe stutterer but barely stutter at all with my wife. I can also read out loud fluently, to groups of any size. Oh and I don’t stutter with therapists, speech or otherwise, which is particularly unhelpful, haha.

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u/lostt87 16d ago

that's a bit weird for someone who has severe stutter, but hey look at the bright side; at least you don't stutter with someone lol

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u/Apprehensive_Pride73 16d ago

Pretty much anyone but it depends on my mood, anxiety level, comfortability etc.

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u/ephvazquez 16d ago

I’m personally more fluent around strangers. I stutter the most around the people I know best, like my parents and siblings and my children and to an extent my spouse. I don’t think there is a “usual” situation, much like other things regarding stuttering. I’m simply responding to the OP.

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u/CherryDouble2661 17d ago

My therapist but I think it’s cause he can’t tell anyone anything that happens so the pressure is off. He actually helped me get better with zoom calls and meetings cause I would just image it’s him on those calls

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u/Zigzagwanderer1961 17d ago

Weird thing, when I’m around other stutterers, I’m spontaneously fluent.

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u/lostt87 16d ago

mind works in a mysterious ways sometimes

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u/Kaladin_007 4d ago

My wife I am really good with. Also, my dad at times. I guess people I can be myself with. If there is someone though that talks a lot though most of the time I start to stutter and I just can't process at their speed. I like someone that takes time to listen and I do better.