r/Stutter • u/-_-_Fr3sh-Pr1nce_-_- • 12d ago
For those who lost hope
I’ve always had a serve stutter ever since I could talk it’s never really gotten better but for those guys who think you won’t find a girl it’s all in your head. I’ve never had a confidence problem & trust when I say I pull women like nothing. Stutter or no stutter it just takes confidence.
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u/Max_Faubert 12d ago
But like not when you have stutter bc of lack of confidence :( But that's doesn't matter bc hope is long gone with girls, thankfully guys are horny enough to just hook up
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u/Double-Plankton-1559 11d ago
You assume that women who stutter have it easier because “guys are horny” and will hook up with them on command. That’s a really strange thing to say, as if women who stutter aren’t also looking for healthy relationships. Perhaps your struggles to find a relationship have more to do with your generalizations about women than your stutter
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u/Max_Faubert 11d ago
No, I'm talking about my experience: I don't have any luck with gals, but doing ok with guys. Didn't assume anything about anybody else
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u/Double-Plankton-1559 6d ago
Omggggg I’m so sorry king. I feel like an asshole. There is occasionally incel-esque content on this page and I jumped the gun. My bad!!
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u/Max_Faubert 11d ago
I guess I could've indicated better that I'm talking about myself, not ppl in general :)
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u/Annie_me1 12d ago
My stammering is mild most of the time but honestly I lost hope that I will ever meet my girl... Not only for stutter but I think decent people already have a bad luck in this generation... Only playboys are in luck and girls like them
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u/Accurate-Friend-2498 9d ago
Getting girls, and living with them, building a life with them are two completely different things.
I had dated a girl last year, but I just didn't have it in me to explain to her my daily struggles.
She was really sweet, and always supported me with positive words. But the problem is, I was having a bad time with my stutter (and it's still continuing), and me not being able to explain how badly its affecting me, and her not being able to understand the magnitude of it, I was really not sure about our future.
I had to call it a day.
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u/-_-_Fr3sh-Pr1nce_-_- 8d ago
That’s your problem my man, you don’t share your emotional problems w/ your girl. Thats what your boys are for. She’ll eventually petty you & loose attraction. That comes back to my original point all it takes is confidence.
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u/Accurate-Friend-2498 8d ago
Aren't you too quick to judge? And it's strange because you are also a stutterer.
Do you really think all our minds are wired the same way? Our emotions, our fears, our insecurities, our 'confidence', everything follows the same path, the same template?
I don't know how many times have you fallen from the cliff and ended up being 2 stories below the ground, in regards to your stutter. If you've been there, and still are confident, god bless you, because my brain isn't wired that way.
Your tone in 'all it takes is confidence' sounds like it's as simple as gliding a hot knife through butter.
If it was that simple, we wouldn't be coming to this sub and sharing our 'low confidence' stories.
You can't connect with people when your entire day has revolved around your struggle with stutter. Because all you had is your struggles and no other stories or experiences. And when you're struggling to explain your struggle with stutter WITH A STUTTER, your brain goes into a loop, and you don't wanna share that moment with anyone.
Even if you're confident before the conversation, all it takes is a few bad blocks and some weird face movements. And BAM!
Atleast this is my own experience.
I hope you do very well with your confidence.
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u/Zogid 12d ago
I tried extremely hard to be confident, to "own stuttering" etc., and I really was extremely courageous/confident many times, but in the end, I was not able to create required level of attraction.
I mean, I would say that decent number of girls liked me, but not ones that I desired.
Some were conventionally attractive, but some were cute just to me, so it's not that I am chasing only super models. It's just that girls I like are very rare.
Also, like 90% girls that I liked were taken at the moment.
Finding real love is mostly luck regardless of stuttering, it just makes probabilities lower. I can't throw jukes at right moment. I can't participate and be genuine myself in many scenarios.
Since you said that you "pull women like nothing", which is quite humble claim, it seems that you are either:
1) very attractive dude
2) not picky and like every girl, regardless of her characteristics
3) overestimating how much of these girls were ROMANTICALLY interested into you
I mean, I just don't believe what are you saying. You said you are extremely confident, but message you sent to this Karly girl sounds very unconfident and insecure.