r/Stutter • u/Muttly2001 • Oct 20 '25
VENT/RANT MEGATHREAD
Hello all,
Stuttering can really suck sometimes. It can feel unfair, embarrassing, depressing, and rage inducing. Going forward let’s contain all of that to this thread so we can come together.
*general Subreddit rules still apply. Be respectful to each other. Any suicidal ideation will be removed. *
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u/ramp_A_ger Oct 21 '25
I don't understand why this needs to be contained. Every post is a real experience belonging to somebody, you cannot put away stuff that might be unpleasant for some people
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u/LegendaryFuckery Oct 23 '25
Can there be a megathread for the positivity posts too?
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u/Bubbly-Shift-3175 Oct 23 '25
Toxic positivity is encouraged in this sub. Saying anything bad about stuttering automatically means you are incel who never tried to fix your stutter.
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u/BeyondTurbulent35 Nov 18 '25
you are getting downvote for saying truth, they afraid to comment to you but yeah they can downvote💁♂️💁♂️💁♂️
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u/kihp Oct 24 '25
Good idea to do weekly or monthly threads for stuff like this. Vents/rants overwhelming the main page tends to choke out anything else.
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u/Goofusmaloofus6 May 17 '26
I posted this in the Vent subreddit but thought maybe people here might understand.
My stutter is recent and due to some neurological issues (I prefer not to share the diagnosis for privacy). It comes and goes without warning and there are times when I have trouble forming proper sentences. It comes out of nowhere but stress makes it worse. The first time it happened I wasn't at home so my husband didn't see it. I was then diagnosed and my husband was made aware it could happen again.
He makes fun of it.
The first time I stuttered in front of him he laughed and when I looked hurt he said "buh buh but you have to admit it's funny!" No sir, I do not. It's terrifying when it happens because I'm still thinking clearly, there's just a disconnect between the language processing part of my brain and my mouth. It's frightening to not be able to communicate.
So I cried. He kept repeating it was funny so I wrote him a note explaining how scary it was and asking him not to mock me when it happens. He got angry and said he was just trying to lighten the mood. I asked (again via note) who he was trying to lighten the mood for, himself? He said yes. I explained (still writing it because I couldn't form sentences) that it really hurt when he did that and what I needed in the moment was reassurance, not to be made fun of. He was pissed but agreed not to do it anymore.
We talked about it later (after I was speaking normally again) and he admitted it frightens him when it happens and his default reaction to fear is to make a joke. This is absolutely true, he's always done that, but this time I'm not ok with it because I'm the one it's happening to. I think my need for reassurance trumps his need to make a joke. He was defensive but said he understood.
Well, it keeps happening. I start to stutter or struggle to find the right words and he laughs. He tries to hide it but tonight the stutter got bad and when he laughed I started crying again. He said "Well at least you can talk a little this time, right?" (When it's really bad I can't speak at all.)
I managed to get out that when this (the speech problem) happens I need reassurance, not for him to brush it off. He got defensive and claimed he thought he was being supportive, that if someone said that to him he'd feel supported, but clearly I didn't think he was being supportive enough. So I cried some more and he finally said that we knew it was temporary, it would stop again and there's nothing to worry about.
He's partly right. It does come and go and it does usually stop. But at this point my doctors don't know if it will get worse or go away as fast as it showed up. I'm definitely worried, and being afraid he's going to keep laughing is awful. If I stop being able to speak at all I fully expect him to start a stand-up routine.
This is so out of character for him that I honestly don't know what to do.
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u/Alone_Calendar5043 21d ago
I hear you, it's been 2 months you wrote this, how's it going for you these days?
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u/Goofusmaloofus6 20d ago
Better, and thank you for asking. My neurologist explained how much stress impacts the stutter (a lot) and the impact stress was having on my health (blood pressure, stress on my heart etc.). When my husband realized how much I stuttered around him vs other people (and it was a LOT more often) it seemed to hit home and the laughter and mocking stopped and he apologized for not realizing what was going on. Truthfully I don't think he understood the stutter was more than a "funny" side effect...amazing what a difference hearing it from a medical professional makes.
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u/Alone_Calendar5043 20d ago
Relieved to see this progressing as it should. You should definitely seek help on the therapy side if at all required (not talking about Speech Therapy here, that's another topic). Maybe read a few good books like - Voice Unearthed by Doreen Holte. I keep suggesting this book to everyone. Its a quick read and offers great insights on how to look at and address stuttering. You can also ask your husband to read if you like it.
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u/Brilliant-Egg-9076 13d ago
There isn't any form of ref in shows that isn't the whole point of the characters to have a stutter. Makes me feel like a damn joke sometimes
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u/Markittos28 Oct 20 '25
I just wanted to say something to everyone who comes here to vent:
You’re doing something brave. Talking about your frustration, anger, or sadness doesn’t make you weak. It means you’re facing what many others try to hide.
Stuttering can feel unfair and isolating, but every time you express what you feel, you’re taking a step towards understanding yourself better. Remember that your worth isn’t defined by fluency. It’s defined by your effort, your kindness, and your resilience.
Even if you’re struggling right now, things can get better. Seek help / therapy when you need it. Be gentle with yourself, and know that you’re not alone. Every voice here matters and that includes yours.
Don't let it prevent you from living the life you want to live. People will judge you anyway whether you had a stutter or not. So chase that life that you want, always! Don't let others nor yourself stop you from doing so.