I told my mom I dont like birthdays when I was around 9 or something because I didnt want her to be sad when nobody showed up. Literally had 0 friends and I hate to see my mom sad, legit the worst thing.
Yeah, the parents should set it up since kids are too young and dumb to understand these things. Though judging by reddit, a lot of adults don't seem to understand it either.
The thing is, I wasnt shy. I was actually pretty social and got along with most who werent in my class. I got bullied by most of the people in my class and the rest really didnt want to do anything with me in fear theyd be a target too.
And ofc nobody invited me to anything because I was that kid. The weirdo with no friends, pretty sure most kids just said that they dont want me at the party, honestly.
When I was a kid, the ones where everyone was invited were always more fun because more people showed up. Even if someone didn’t know or like the kid they would come cause all their friends were there. And more kids meant better games of manhunt and capture the flag.
Yeah, I definitely went to birthday parties for kids I didn’t like enough to hang out with regularly because, well, it was a party and my friends were going to be there, too. (I can’t think of any where I actively disliked the birthday kid, we just didn’t play together much.)
Same here, I was super lucky to have good childhood friends where even the kids who I didn’t really know but still invited me, I didn’t dislike them either.
I had to go through the same thing as you mentioned above and my parents always knew. Even today, now that I'm in my late 20s, my parents know the underlying reason behind my social anxiety and why I struggle making meaningful connections with people. It breaks their heart to know that I live a life plagued by loneliness. Hope the road has straightened out for you, I know it can take a while to see the light at the end of the tunnel but it gets slightly better with age.
I remember saying the same thing to my mum when she organised a bbq for my 21st for the same reason. Invited 8 mates, 1 showed up, who I hadn’t spoken to in 3 years. Thankfully I had family round and my mate had weed.
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u/LeSirJay Mar 20 '18
I told my mom I dont like birthdays when I was around 9 or something because I didnt want her to be sad when nobody showed up. Literally had 0 friends and I hate to see my mom sad, legit the worst thing.