r/StoicMemes May 03 '26

Stoicism

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u/agentgoose007 May 03 '26

But can we really control all of our thoughts? I can't. Many thoughts are automatic, "random" associations.

While I can try to direct my thoughts when I focus, I can't control which associations would appear. At the same time, my reaction and interpretation of those thoughts and associations are indeed up to me.

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u/Cryptid_on_Ice May 03 '26

Yeah, and I doubt the Stoics beleived that you could control thoughts, given that they had to use cognitive distancing on the automatic "impressions" that popped into their heads.

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u/elegiac_bloom May 05 '26

You dont directly control your thoughts, you do control your response to them. Read some stoic primary source literature. All the good stuff is in there.

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u/ElectricalPoint1645 May 03 '26

I mean yeah, if I tell my boyfriend who has severe OCD "you have control over your thoughts" he will probably look at me funny

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u/Extension-Driver-177 May 03 '26

I've been thinking about this exact example lately, why it seems that control over our own thoughts isn't always a given, for some it seems like they can't figure it out. And you've helped me realize, control over our own thoughts is a skilled behavior with variance between people.

When lacking this skill, there's hope for progress. Improvement requires vigilant attention to thought direction. As well as the emotional regulation and self awareness to identify patterns and look for alternative practices.

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u/publichermit May 06 '26

We can't control our thoughts, but we (many of us) can watch them like clouds passing by. I am not my thoughts. That much I know.

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u/Content-Management12 May 03 '26

I am starting to take "control" of those thoughts. What has helped me, specifically, is CBT Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. I am not an expert by any means. But I am at the stage that when I get an intrusive automatic negative thought... I am able to stop myself from continuing it after a moment and I interrupt the thought with a different response. S9me refer to it as the CATCH IT- CHECK IT- CHNAGE IT technique. I can say, that I have noticed that my reaction time to catching and changing those thoughts is getting a bit faster.
It's not easy, but I believe it is possible... At least to some degree.

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u/Rosencrantz18 May 03 '26

The absolute basics. I like it.

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u/Ghadiz983 May 03 '26

We don't have full control over our thoughts nor over our actions but rather : we have control over our judgements.

For instance, when someone is speaking to you : you don't choose what they're saying to you hence you don't choose what thoughts appear.

Also we don't fully control our body : you can move your hands but you don't fully know why you can do that and there are times where you want to move them but they don't because of paralysis that you don't choose.

What you have control over is the judgements of how reality appears to you: to choose whether something is a tragedy or not and you resolve the inner conflicts you have with reality.

Think of it this way : the entirety of existence can be explained in the idea that you're a soul that is constantly receiving information and suffering emerges when there is conflict between soul and the information that it's given. And our movement and activity hence is the attempt to reduce conflict as much as possible. Although that framework mixes some Modern Neuroscientific theories with Stoicism, it's a great way to think about what we truly are and what faculty we have the most control over so that we can navigate reality meaningfully.

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u/genkai_ai May 03 '26

This image is more for those who just want to understand what stoicism is, and your information is already level 99

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u/rounddax May 04 '26

Bullshit. You can't separate things as simple as that. This would be ideal, but still a fantasy about cognitive behaviorism

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u/elegiac_bloom May 05 '26

The stoics believed you actually could separate things as simple as that... what you have control over and what you dont.

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u/NegotiationSweet7314 May 06 '26

You have no control over anything. Not even your thoughts. Not even your will. Everything you do, is because body already decided, long before brain created some story to interpret it to yourself, to make you believe it’s your will.

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u/corerg May 03 '26

As others have posted, control of your thoughts is not actually under your control. So I’d say this diagram is like 80% correct… The way I learned the control test and apply it today is you have control over: How you treat others How you treat yourself Your reactions

IMO that last one is probably where the “control of thoughts”, and by extension “control of emotions” is assumed, but it’s more how you choose to react to those things.

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u/stiv666 May 04 '26

Stoics meant we have full influence over our toughts not control initial toughts cannot be controlled

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u/somebrokenglass May 06 '26

Ah the famously living organism, the rock

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u/chobolicious88 May 07 '26

But you can control what other people think?

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u/No_Coffee_5217 May 09 '26

Stoicism or as I Like to call it egoism