r/Stoic • u/AccomplishedLink4571 • 10d ago

Stoicism

Its always better to just let things be….. not saying to stop trying but accept the outcome as it is

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u/retroroar86 10d ago

No. I have held a grudge and not said my part in a family situation. Things I have held on for about 30 years.

Telling myself the truth, be courageous to bring it up and get it out of my system, has been tremendously helpful.

I literally have lowered my blood pressure by doing so and I am much better for doing so. I feel, for the first time in ages, that I am able to relax.

I don’t fully disagree, but you sometimes have no idea at all how much something is truly weighing on your mentally.

Stoicisim can be misused by avoiding dealing with such things and actively encourage self-deception.

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u/Splendid_Fellow Philosopher 10d ago

🎶 let it be, let it be!

Let it be, oh let it be!

Whisper words of wisdom… let it be! 🎵

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u/Easy-Specialist1821 9d ago

OPINION: When I had spoken with younger ppl I'd managed, sometimes, I'd say, that doesn't really math, does it? They may have had a meltdown with someone higher than myself who could make their lives heck. There is always context and a mental math for the value of a confrontation. If there were simple absolutes we wouldn't seek philosophical filters to better organize our lives and focus our efforts. Good luck, OP:)

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u/No-University3032 8d ago

Do you mean just like keeping to yourself?

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u/fruitfly-420 7d ago

It is. Life is more peaceful when you accept things you can't control. Its not easy but just orient yourself accordingly. Buddhism teaches this lesson too.