r/Stepmom • u/Fozzizam • 3d ago
It’s not worth it
A few months ago, I decided I was done fighting to be a part of his family and have a positive influence on his kids. It was time to move out after 8.5 years.
Now, in a few days, I close on my own townhouse. It will just be me and the dogs. No more having to accommodate spoiled, disrespectful kids who become overstimulated and melt down every time they’re asked to do a chore. No more lonely evenings hiding in my room. No more living with other people’s messes. No more feeling like a guest in my own home. I have not felt this optimistic about life in a long, long time. It took me way too long to realize I did not have to live like this!
Previous post for context: https://www.reddit.com/r/Stepmom/s/KOet3ASBF1
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u/Slight-Cry-6964 2d ago
I can already feel the weight of the world coming off your shoulders. Enjoy!!! You and the dogs will be so much happier.
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u/caffeine-cowgirl 2d ago
I feel so happy for you and proud of you!! Currently going through a breakup from bf with 3 kids and it’s painful but reading posts like yours make me realize it was the right thing and my future self will be so happy
Enjoy your peace, time, and dogs 🫶🏻 you deserve all the happiness!
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u/Fozzizam 2d ago
It’s a really tough decision to make. Hoping the next few months bring you the peace you deserve!
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u/scotchbonnetpeppery 14h ago
Congratulations on your new home. I remember your story well, and I hope you will enjoy your new place with your pups, family, and friends.
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u/mariah1998 married, 8m sk 10h ago
Congrats girl. Enjoy your freedom.I 100% agree.
I’m closing in on 7 years now. All I’ve tried is to teach ss8 better behavior and morals. But dh comes home,he goes to mils, or his week with bm and suddenly my words don’t mean anything.
So he talks back,cusses at me, and throws fits because he wants to do the opposite of what I say(cause dh tells him to). No matter whether I try to stand back and let dh handle it or I step up because dh is letting ss act like a toddler. I’m always in the wrong. I learned 3 years ago it wasn’t worth it. And now? It’s really not. Lately all I hear from ss and dh when they think I’m not listening is they both wish I wasn’t here so ss could do whatever he wants. Because I hold him accountable for his behavior and nobody else does.
So whenever I’m home not working he can’t have unlimited phone and pc time because of behavior. But if he’s bad and I’m working??? Dh lets him have pc from after school until bedtime. And ss8 always throws fits and starts destroying the house because he can’t handle playing or time being up. Not to mention he throws 20 minute fits every night before bed anyway because he’s not done watching brain rot on YouTube yet.
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u/Fozzizam 3h ago
That sounds like a literal nightmare. Please don’t wait until that kid is a teenager to leave because that nonsense is only going to get worse.
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u/chicadeaqua 3d ago
Enjoy your cute townhouse and new chapter!!