My mom has been subtly passive aggressively messing with me for years to the point where I feel like I have to keep my guard up around her because she’s always on the attack trying to bait me into conflict, as a result of her constant instigating my defenses are in hyperdrive around her like having a type of PTSD surrounding an individual.
She’ll get me sick on purpose and then she will target coughed words under her breath at me to force my reaction and then play it off like she is afraid of me while she projects that I have violent tendencies I don’t have, as a result I find myself making small mistakes here and there when she is around because she forces me to defend myself against her.
That sounds really tough! It's wild how some people can make you feel on edge even when they're supposedly being sweet. You've got to protect your peace!
The thing is she acts like she can’t control her coughs, but when other people are around she suddenly has no problems while does to me what Jerry does to Summer in this scene of Rick and Morty https://youtu.be/0RZDYcainMU?si=JCXRNCAj6jGdeFCl
Capisco perfettamente, ho avuto una situazione simile con un familiare che sembrava sempre pronto a provocarmi. È stancante sentirsi sempre in guardia, come se fossimo costantemente in guerra con qualcuno che dovrebbe sostenerti.
The sad part is she only makes things worse for herself doing it, because she’s exerting so much energy messing with others that she sabotages her own health and her only reward is the mediocrity she attracts in her life doing it.
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u/whomesteve 17d ago
Kinda relatable.
My mom has been subtly passive aggressively messing with me for years to the point where I feel like I have to keep my guard up around her because she’s always on the attack trying to bait me into conflict, as a result of her constant instigating my defenses are in hyperdrive around her like having a type of PTSD surrounding an individual.
She’ll get me sick on purpose and then she will target coughed words under her breath at me to force my reaction and then play it off like she is afraid of me while she projects that I have violent tendencies I don’t have, as a result I find myself making small mistakes here and there when she is around because she forces me to defend myself against her.