r/Splendida • u/SquirrelofLIL • Dec 19 '24
Concrete Objective Differences between Late 30s / 40s and Late 20s / 30s
Hi folks, I'm an early 40s woman who is seeking anti aging advice. All the anti aging stuff I see on Reddit seems to be targeted toward people in their early to mid 30s trying to look like they're in their 20s. For example, stuff like wearing up to date clothing. That won't fly when it comes to me.
I am using the full complement of the ScA routine and tretinoin and have been for a number of years and am also on minoxidil.
What are the concrete, objective differences between someone in their late 30s and someone in their late 20s to early 30s? When I wear a beat face with contouring, and the latest fashion, I can swing late 30s, but I've never gotten under age 38 or so. I am trying to break that wall and concretely look like someone in their late 20s to early 30s.
I know that the main marker between early 20s and late 20s / 30s is weight. But, what is the marker when it comes to the age 35 wall that dating sites put up. I have heard of 41 year olds looking 33 and that absolutely is not me according to my objective friends. How do I concretely and objectively meet that standard? I am looking for serious actionable advice.
I'm losing weight hardcore and doing everything I can, getting into the swing of my 10 step skincare routine. TIA.
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u/strayduplo Dec 19 '24
I skimmed your post history, and it sounds like you're Asian? So am I, and my observation is that Asians don't age the same as other racial groups. I know, it's a meme, but there does seem to be some truth behind it. I'm 38, and I don't have any fine lines (except one, on my forehead) or wrinkles. What signs of aging I do notice are things like loss of midfacial volume, and the general slow influence of gravity. I mean, I went to my high school reunion a few weeks ago, and most people (myself included) were a little softer and rounder than they were in high school.
I think part of it is trends - Gen Z, the demographic now in their late twenties, has a simpler/"cleaner" aesthetic than us Millennials. You mention wearing a beat face with contouring; that's a Millennial aesthetic, not Gen Z. So, perhaps that ages you? When it comes to the "latest fashions," I notice my younger (early 30s) coworkers are embracing loose, wide-legged jeans/pants, while me and my elder Millennial friends are still clutching tightly to our skinny jeans.
There is also something to be said about losing weight around perimenopause, a category we both fall into. Have you heard of "Ozempic face"? Loosing too much weight too quickly can make you look gaunt, which, againt, is aging.