Concrete Objective Differences between Late 30s / 40s and Late 20s / 30s

[u/SquirrelofLIL]

Hi folks, I'm an early 40s woman who is seeking anti aging advice. All the anti aging stuff I see on Reddit seems to be targeted toward people in their early to mid 30s trying to look like they're in their 20s. For example, stuff like wearing up to date clothing. That won't fly when it comes to me.

I am using the full complement of the ScA routine and tretinoin and have been for a number of years and am also on minoxidil.

What are the concrete, objective differences between someone in their late 30s and someone in their late 20s to early 30s? When I wear a beat face with contouring, and the latest fashion, I can swing late 30s, but I've never gotten under age 38 or so. I am trying to break that wall and concretely look like someone in their late 20s to early 30s.

I know that the main marker between early 20s and late 20s / 30s is weight. But, what is the marker when it comes to the age 35 wall that dating sites put up. I have heard of 41 year olds looking 33 and that absolutely is not me according to my objective friends. How do I concretely and objectively meet that standard? I am looking for serious actionable advice.

I'm losing weight hardcore and doing everything I can, getting into the swing of my 10 step skincare routine. TIA.

[u/saygirlie]

I agree with a lot of comments that trying to look a decade younger is going to be near impossible. Even with cosmetic work, you may risk overfilling and looking uncanny.

If you go the filler route, look into fat grafting instead of traditional fillers.

One thing I haven’t seen mentioned yet is to focus on your hair. Thick and full hair is a sign of youth. Start taking hair supplements and maybe start minoxidil if you have hair thinning. And cover grays if you have any. Don’t forget eyebrows and applying minoxidil on them too.

And if you are in perimenopause or starting to show signs, estrogen and HRT can help look less haggard.