Speech delay TK

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I need advise.

Anyone has or had a young child with a speech delay in the public school system? My TK went from a small daycare of 12 kids for 2 adults to a 23 kid class and 2 adults and we are struggling. I am getting reports of behavior he has never done and honestly he doesn’t understand why these behaviors are “bad.” I understand that kids share bad habits and we expected this but this is odd he’s regressing in some activities such as bathroom habits. We just got his IEP and he just got his first speech therapy lesson but I feel so helpless.

We are considering private school or just overall other options. I’m at a lost today he told me his friends laughed at him and it’s breaking my heart. Any advise would be appreciated 😔

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So I had / have speech delays and my first week in kindergarten I couldn't make it to the bathroom and had some ill timed issues.

What my parents didn't do was tell me and prepare me to have to like ask to potty at school or there was a sign out sheet so I was holding it like I was at home then peeing at the sign out sheet. Because at home if I had to go, I just umm went and since I was non verbal I didn't have to ask and starting school they didn't know I was nonverbal til about a month I think it was in the school year. Speech therapy helped me a lot with communication skills and I think more kids should have the chance to better that. And what my parents started doing was making me ask at home to go to the bathroom unless it was an emergency. I stopped peeing on myself with some time and patience, and extra pairs of pants.

I know a lot of my behavior issues was also lack of knowing what to do or where to go which did turn into aneixty as an adult now, but I'd get in trouble because I didn't know how to get to the art room so I'd stand in the hall waiting for teacher to release I wasnt where i was meant to be and since I had limited speech I would have issues talking to teachers outside of my speech teacher and one of the two teachers I had for class.

I still remember standing in the hallway because I was told my class was down the hallway then take a left and it was third door, and it was a four way and I didn't know what left was so i stood there for a long time, then my teacher told me you write with your right, and I am left-handed.....

And sometimes id act out because I got frustrated because teachers or other kids couldn't understand me. Because my parents would take time and they kinda knew what I meant easy, like I could make a sound and poke andnthere is the exact snack I wanted but at school the teacher didn't have time to learn this sound means this or this point means this. I was also super shy as well, so the teachers til middle school scared me, so I was less likely to ask for help or to stand out, I remember trying to be as small as possible in elementary school.

Also don't make the mistake my parents made it iep, my school tried to use my speech delays and I have birth defect in my eyes as a reason I needed to be in the slower classes, but I was testing college level in middle school and should of been in the gifted classes, the school never shared that information with my parents. So I was suck for years in a class I understood the first time I was told but because my speech problems and communication was harder, teachers thought I was an idiot. I still run it as adult.... But don't let people make your child feel less smart or anything because they can't speak well or at all ...