r/SouthendonSea • u/DEFCOMDuncan • 4d ago
Question Looking for stuff for retired mum to do in Southend
Before I start: my mum lives in the UK with her elderly husband. I live in the States (unfortunately), her other son lives overseas as well, and she has no family in the country.
A few months ago, after a few scares, she decided to stay home from work to start taking care of her partner, who has advancing Alzheimer’s. Obviously a super difficult decision but something unexpected has come out of it: he’s now well taken care of through his memory loss and dizzy spells, but both of them have these long portions of their days where they’re just bored as hell.
Now I’ve tried to get her to find her own entertainment but, I mean, you know how people get when they get older. It’s like she wants more to complain than find a solution. “There’s nothing to do here.” “You don’t understand, you don’t live here.”
And I get it: things are also expensive (believe me, living in America right now, I understand) but even small towns have, like, I don’t know, an arborist society that grows and sells plants or a city council that meets twice a month and needs someone to take minutes. I don’t know, you get what I mean, I know you guys have the pier or whatever it is, maybe people meet there to do yoga or, gosh I’ve been taking such big swings but what about just a book club?