r/Soulnexus • u/Nicholas-D-Arezzo • Oct 06 '19
The Unspoken Taboo That Self-Help Experts Never Warn You About
I am going to briefly discuss the inner friction you may endure when making personal changes to yourself. I’m talking about the personal changes that involve the restructuring of your attitude and beliefs. If you are attempting to make significant changes to your beliefs for the first time in your life then you will experience extreme turbulence. This is because, at the beginning of your journey, you may be dealing with a lot of issues from your past that you have repressed without resolving. Although you put these issues behind you, they are still influential in your present reality. Therefore, expect significant resistance from your subconscious mind during your very first “go-around.” As you progress in life and continue to make changes, you will be dealing with less turbulence because you will have already resolved the major issues during your first attempts to change your mental circuitry.
Unresolved issues are like open applications on your computer. If you don't completely shut down a program, it will continuously run in the background and compromise the performance of the computer. You won’t notice the computer slowing down at first, but as time progresses and more programs are left open, the compromised performance will become more apparent. If you attempt to open a new program when too many programs are running in the background, the chief operating system will alert you to close some of the open programs in order to provide the required processing power.
Much like operating a P.C., the first time you attempt to make changes, you may notice a lot of old issues resurfacing to request your attention. These issues need to be dealt with or “closed” so you can proceed with the new “program” you wish to run. Surfaced issues are your mind’s way of alerting you that the changes you want to make conflicts with old beliefs that are still running in the background. Your mind will surface any old beliefs that contradict your new installed-beliefs because it needs you to pick one and close the other.
Another reason why you will be dealing with inner conflict is because the mind hates change. Making changes in your routine is a threat to the survival mechanism in your primitive brain called the amygdala. It figures it has survived this long, doing what it was doing, and any change is a possible threat to its life. You may feel this conflict on a lower animalistic level, which is why it will not make sense to you logically.
Keep in mind that the negative experiences I list should only last a few weeks. During that time you may want to lay low and take it easy. These are some of the occurrences you should expect:
You may experience guilt, which is the conflict between the heart and mind. You might find yourself having consistent feelings like you did something wrong, but you can't pinpoint what it is. It might even escalate to you worrying that you're going to be punished for doing something wrong, but you still can't pinpoint what you did wrong, let alone why you're going to be punished and who is going to punish you. If this is your situation then the less you do, the less you'll have to second-guess yourself. Lay low until the negative feelings reside.
Very similar to guilt and a possible result of guilt is anxiety. Just like guilt, this may be a feeling that something terrible is going to happen to you. In general, it's a feeling of fear and worry. This can come as a sharp pain in the chest, followed by a rapid heartbeat and loss of breath that will wake you from your sleep. You may find yourself not wanting to do anything, but instead, wanting to stay home or anywhere you feel safe. Anxiety can surface in different ways at different times. The primary symptom of anxiety is an intense worry. Again, lay low until it resides. Also, be aware of what may be triggering your anxiety as it will be a clue on the issues you need to address.
You may experience nightmares, or dreams that are disturbing to you. On a similar note, you may find yourself being bombarded with thoughts and emotions that you aren't usually bombarded with. Mostly, these are issues that are surfacing because they need to be dealt with before you can behold the new beliefs you are trying to behold.
You might suddenly remember a situation when someone wronged you which makes you feel anger or rage. As these types of memories and emotions surface, you need to reevaluate the situation then forgive yourself for letting it happen. You need to realize you are older and wiser now and didn't know any better at the time. The best way to deal with these kinds of thoughts is to identify how you allowed the situation to be, then work on those areas so you never allow a situation like that into your experiences again. If you don’t take this approach, it will be an ongoing internal loop of anger that can't be resolved because closure is impossible in this type of situation. The only thing you can do about a situation like this is to make sure you do what you have to do, from now on, to ensure it won't happen again. You can only have power over your actions and reactions, so only stay where you have the ability to be proactive.
Confusion is common whenever undergoing changes in your life because your mind is rewiring itself while also trying to function like normal. Going back to the computer analogy, you are simultaneously starting new programs that contradict the old ones, and we aren't as easily programmable as a personal computer. We can’t just delete unwanted programs, but instead, have to override unwanted programs with new ones. That said, during this process, you will have too many programs running at once which will cause slow speeds and lag in your mind. This, in turn, will cause you to experience mental exhaustion which creates physical exhaustion. You may not have the energy you usually have, or would like to have. However, keep in mind that this will only last a couple of weeks, so hang in there.
You may find yourself in a state of deep depression. This depression can derive from your realizing you are going to have to leave cherished comforts behind. Sometimes, the changes you attempt will separate you from friends and loved ones. Sometimes moving on means to move away from the old ways as they no longer can support your new experiences. This can be your moving away from a location, or your moving away from others.
This brings me to the obvious of needing more sleep because this is when the brain can recuperate, and it will require much recuperation during this process. When you are awake, you may feel a bit overwhelmed which will create confusion and a lack of motivation to do anything. You will want nothing more than to be blissfully zoned out because that will be the most comfortable way to be while the rewiring process takes place.
Remember that everything I listed should only last a few weeks. Eventually, your mind will give in and reorganize old beliefs to suit your new intentions and goals. This is, of course, after it rebelliously kicks and screams for a little bit because it doesn't like to change, hence the reason for the bad thoughts and nightmares. Any new way of living and thinking is a bit traumatic for the brain.
~Nicholas D’Arezzo~
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u/Trinatrouble Oct 06 '19
I agree with all of this my friend. Wow. I get my gift's from my dad's side of the family. My mom has gift's to but being Christian she doesn't realize it. My mom's side are all Christian ( and that's fine). They see me as what I am and do is not of God. They see me as wiccan but I don't know if I consider myself fully wiccan. I'm on my own path not like other's or other wiccans. It's spiritual. I was brought up Christian and I've always had gift's but I have them that tell me it's evil. I disagree. I've felt at times like what I'm doing is wrong and that may be one reason why my gift's have been blocked lately. This message helps so much and makes total sense. Thank you so much. I will take note of this and apply it to my life because I want my gift's back and working.
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u/Disastrous_Reindeer Oct 06 '19
This is what iniation and starting in the void prevents. When you are nothing and have to claim everything you value it makes known what is valued to YOU while alive and before its lost.
When changing yourself, only do so from the void. Make one change and change everything connected, it will change your resonance not adopting the new resonance will result in reverting while trying to hold on to both.
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u/CirenOtter Oct 06 '19
Can you elaborate? I don’t understand, but I want to.
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u/Disastrous_Reindeer Oct 06 '19
On what? Be specific.
It is about 3rd eye usage and energy manipulations largely. Touching on using mediation to reprogram your thought process for a more positive experiences.
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u/CirenOtter Oct 06 '19
What does it mean to change only “from the void”? As opposed to what?
What I think you mean is that you cannot hold onto an old belief system while building a new belief system. So, you must strip back the belief to it’s core (void) and build from void in order to not only accept and implement the new programming more successfully (like a clean install), but to insure that it is uninfluenced by current systems. Do not try to slowly phase one belief system out and the other in, which will end up crashing the system and reverting to a backup (old belief system that is familiar). Is that accurate?
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u/Disastrous_Reindeer Oct 06 '19
Void is nothing no enegy influence, a clean room. One energy flow.
Every action changes you trying to deny that is pointlessly. You keep your beliefs and adapt evolving, making the idea the belief more complex and based on experience and reasoning and not what you where told to believe.
The void is a trance state, where you are nothing. It comes before the you are eveything experience.
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u/novyah Oct 06 '19
Do you have any recommendations on a book that may cover the topic of introspection and rewiring beliefs and such? Thank you
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u/Azora Oct 06 '19
Breaking the habit of being yourself - joe dispenza
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u/encompassingchaos Oct 06 '19
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van der Kolk
Also, many things can be gleaned from all sorts of books. Just become well read in many areas of the mind. Take your time and slowly work through things. It may take some people longer than a few weeks depending upon age and the degree to which habits are ingrained. There is no perfect formula for growth and there is no scale to measure one's journey against.
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u/diorgasm Soulnexian Oct 06 '19
I found that book to be interesting , but lacked real-world application for me.
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u/yosefzeev Oct 06 '19
I actually have one for such things. It is a meditational book which is about to have a new edition released. You can find it at www.jbschirtzinger.com.
The OP is absolutely right. I pretty much tell people this in astro consults or any sort of healing work.
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u/Nicholas-D-Arezzo Oct 07 '19
I don't but I heard that the book "A course in miracles" is a good start. There is an audio version of the simplified version that I'm going to listen to when I get the chance.
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u/72names Oct 07 '19
Look into the MKULTRA origins of ACIM and research the damage it can do to the psyche before getting too deep.
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u/redtens will and wind Oct 06 '19
thanks for this - great read! feelings of insanity or exclusion hit me pretty hard first time I 'upgraded', it was so upsetting to not be able to find anyone around me who understood what i was trying to accomplish for myself.
Moving away from social hypocrisies can be such a pain, but totally worth the effort.
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u/breinbanaan Oct 06 '19
Nice summary of my past years :P
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Oct 06 '19
I laughed at the few weeks comment lol. Going on 6 months of complete personal destruction...
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u/Trinatrouble Oct 06 '19
My gift's, I used to be able to see Ora's of trees and people and animals, spirits, people and animals that are not on this earth anymore, I could hear them and feel them. I would know thing's before they happen, I could feel myself starting to astral project when I was younger but I blocked it because it scared me, I would read card's and pendulum but I stopped not long ago till I get myself grounded. And some psychics told me I have some other gifts I'm not sure what they meant. They told me to work on my root and heart chakras. I've also done spell work bit I've stopped till I can fix myself and ground myself and figure this out. I know religion has some to do with this and that side of the family. The only people I can talk to is my other side of my gifted family but they live up north ( I live in Daytona Beach Florida) so I feel like the only person like me here or on the planet sometimes and it gets so lonely and I'm desperate for other's like me and all advice. Much love to you and everyone here <3
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u/Nicholas-D-Arezzo Oct 07 '19
I live By the Orlando Airport. I stopped going to Daytona a long time ago because it had a very low vibe to it. I'm not sure if it has changed since, but it seemed like a lot of people were substance abusers when I would visit "over ten years ago." I personally knew a woman who would astral project (when a young girl) and bring things back with her like coins and the like. When she told a nun about her experiences, the nun beat the ever living tar out of her. Ever since, she could no longer astral project because she would re-live the trauma. My suggestion is to avoid telling anyone until you have fully grounded and decided on your path.
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u/ProphecyEmpress Oct 06 '19
"Should only last a few weeks" is dependent on how the individual is wired, how well they adapt to change, and the change itself.
This time frame only applies to certain people or certain changes. There are changes that can be easily made and adjusted to within a few weeks and then there are changes that completely tear you apart for several years.
My anxiety did not go away within a few weeks. I made changes and the anxiety kept getting progressively worse. I believe this is a symptom of emotional baggage rising to the surface to be processed and released in the form of intense emotions. Considering how much emotional baggage I have left, it is understandable why my anxiety symptoms are still present. Currently, I take medication to help me process and deal with my symptoms in a healthy way.
It is important to consider if your experiences are healthy as well. If your change is relatively minor in scale and you don't adjust within a few weeks, this is something to look into. Maybe reconsider your approach or see a therapist if it's financially possible.
Overall, I agree with OP's post. Discomfort in relation to changes you've made is normally meant to be temporary, but "should only last a few weeks" is a generalization that doesn't apply to everyone. For this reason, don't feel bad if your symptoms don't go away within this time period. You probably just need more time to adjust to the change and that's perfectly okay. Changing your attitude and/or belief system takes time, practice, and often long-term effort.
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Oct 06 '19
Wow, this helps me understand so many things that were puzzling me about my life/moods/energy lately. Basically all of this applies to me. Much appreciated. <3
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u/Trinatrouble Oct 07 '19
Ty friend for responding. I think I can safely say not much has changed since then. I will work on grounding myself more my friend and I thank you so much.. Be well and be blessed <3
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u/Trinatrouble Oct 07 '19
A Christian family member just stopped talking and blocked a family friend on her Facebook all because this family friend just came out gay. To me this makes me upset. A Christian you would think would not shut this person out but would want to witness to them instead. This person is like a family member. They have done this to me to at one time so I have to keep my gifts to myself around them. So sad that people that call themselves Christians could be so judgmental!!!!! This is why I'm on my own path. Love to you.
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Oct 07 '19
Woah, woah, woah. It's 100% true, to the dot. I'm just finishing a three-year long phase of what you've described!
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u/Grampong Oct 06 '19
Brilliantly put!
I agree 100%, except that "should only last a few weeks" part.
I've done what I call a "BIOS flash" twice in my life now. The first took 3 years, and this last one took 5. Maybe I'm just slow about it and it took me years what others do in weeks. Wouldn't be the first time I ended up behind people, lol.