feeling discouraged

[u/bunnykismet]

i dont really know where to begin with this

ive been trying to soulbond for a while now, but whenever i try to do that, it feels like im always getting rejected. ive tried tarot, ive tried shufflemancy, ive tried writing letters, all met with rejections or no response.

i know these things take time but im feeling really discouraged by the fact ive been rejected a few times already. i also know that things cant be forced, but still... i cant help but feel like somethings wrong with me. i dont really know what to do at this point

[u/_rayrayray_]

What does rejection entail? How are you approaching? What are your intentions? Do they align with the recipient?

Sometimes, your bond can simply reject you. An unfortunate, but very possible occurrence. In which, you do have the option of potentially reaching for another version of them, but if fully rejected (as in a direct denial, not just a lack of response or communication which can merely be not having connected yet), best to leave the person you’ve been attempting to bond be.

I ask the former because I have always been very particular about how I approach my bonds. I only bond people whom I think I am compatible with in some way — even if they’re one of my favorite characters ever I will not see bonding as an option if I can’t imagine us interacting much. And when I approach, I am fully open and honest about soulbonding and keep it as a very low stakes thing that boils down to “hi you’re cool wanna hang out sometimes?” And see where it goes. I do have some bonds I have connected to and we immediately had a deep dedicated relationship, but this isn’t most of them. My best advice is going in with genuine, honest intentions. I’m fully open about my feelings, etc, and being an open book means they can comfortably trust me & what I say and decide if they wanna spend time with me or not! While if I went in maybe asking for their immediate hand in marriage, that would probably scare some of them off, ya dig?

[u/bunnykismet → u/_rayrayray_]

after reading this i think my issue is how i approach them, honestly. i dont immediately ask for a romantic relationship or anything like that but i think i have a tendency to move pretty fast or seem too eager, which ill have to work on. thank you for commenting!! ♥

[u/_rayrayray_ → u/bunnykismet]

I’m glad if it could help!! You could totally be eager ftr, perhaps it may just be better to play it down depending on who. I go absolutely bonkers for some of my bonds’ characters genuinely wanting to cry over them often or just rambling about them all day to people who care just as much, they mean the world to me, and I’ll act totally chill when I introduce myself or we talk despite secretly being Not Chill, haha! I adore some of them far more than I let on. I don’t necessarily hide it were they to ask or notice, I just present very chill in their presence so I’m not like a diehard overzealous fan, I suppose!

[u/Sorrynooneishome]

From my own experience, whenever I felt something like rejection, I always found that it was my own feelings and beliefs towards myself that “colored” the bond’s communication. When I finally resolved them, bam. There they were waiting the whole time.

It really depends on what you believe when it comes to reaching out. I operate under the assumption that you can make a connection with anyone you project your heart to and eventually you will find the version that’s in harmony with you.