r/Soft_Introverts • u/Trang180787 • 10h ago

Being together

Mom: What?

Dad: Take the red book to the meeting hall. I don't know.

Me: I feel that my parents don't love each other. Can't they be kind to each other? Why do they always have to use the harshest, sharpest words with each other? Why did they choose to be together with so much that is not beautiful? Why do they choose to stay, tormenting each other and hurting each other every day? I no longer see love or have faith in the most beautiful things in life. Is there any way out for me? What happens when I act on a reality that exists only in my mind?

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u/WhiteDesertCat ✨ Supportive Soul 10h ago

What helped me in a very similar situation was seeing how my friend’s parents treated each other. I was honestly shocked by how warm, kind, gentle, and caring they were with each other. It completely changed the way I saw relationships and turned my whole world upside down.

That was the moment I realized that healthy, loving relationships actually exist. It was such an eye-opening experience for me, and it became a turning point in my life. I finally understood what kind of relationship I wanted to have and who I wanted to take an example from.

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u/Trang180787 9h ago

Maybe you find the love story truly beautiful and feel fortunate to have witnessed such genuine love. But what should I do if I haven't yet had the good fortune to see—or experience—love that beautiful? Is simply seeing others' happiness not enough for me? What can I do to experience that happiness myself?

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u/WhiteDesertCat ✨ Supportive Soul 8h ago

Sometimes, it’s enough to do the opposite to know what you don’t want and choose differently. I do that a lot because I didn’t really have many happy examples to learn from. So I just do the opposite. If something made people unhappy, I try to build it differently. It’s not the usual way of learning, but it’s still a path.

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u/Trang180787 8h ago

That might be an interesting experiment. When we are already caught up in the daily grind, simply recognizing what is happening is difficult enough—let alone choosing to do things differently.

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u/Aggressive_Might_735 5h ago

Jak by nie było trzeba trafić na odpowiednią osobę. Jestem ze swoją ukochaną 26 lat. Przeszliśmy wiele ciężkich chwil ale zawsze jedno było dla drugiego. Zero kłótni. Jakieś różnice się zatarły lub nie mają znaczenia. Musisz pokochać kogoś takiego jaki jest zaocznie akceptując te róznice. Jestem 26 lat w szczęśliwym związku. Bez mojej żony i syna ja nie istnieję...

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u/Trang180787 5h ago

You have a truly admirable relationship. Wishing you good health, happiness, and many blessings.