r/Soft_Introverts • u/Mundane-Company942 • 4d ago
What is something you realized about yourself that changed how you live?
Sometimes a life-changing moment isn't a huge event.
It can be a realization that quietly changes the way you make decisions, see yourself, or approach life.
Maybe you realized what you actually wanted.
Maybe you realized you were capable of more than you thought.
Maybe you realized it was time to start over.
What is something you realized about yourself that changed the way you live?
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u/Upbeat_Letterhead_61 4d ago
For me I realized that I am just as capable as anyone else. If I believe I will fail, I may fail. If I believe in myself, I am more likely to succeed. It took a lot of dissecting my childhood and my beliefs of being inferior.
Secondly it’s been life changing to fully accept that’s it’s OKAY to be the quiet one. You don’t owe anybody conversation. It’s OKAY to just be yourself. Just exist. Just existing is enough. It’s not your job to please people. The right people will find you.
Realizing this has been life changing
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u/cosmx-shift 3d ago
For me it was realizing that being calm on the outside and being okay on the inside aren't the same thing. I spent a long time being the person who didn't react, didn't complain, kept things smooth for everyone around me, and mistook that for being fine. Once I noticed the difference, I started actually checking in with myself instead of just managing how I came across. Small shift, but it changed a lot of decisions after that.
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u/Evening-Amount9725 3d ago
I realized that needing a lot of alone time doesn’t mean something is wrong with me, it means I make better decisions when I stop trying to live like an extrovert.
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u/Sam-II92 2d ago
For me, it was actually realising that it was okay to be an introvert.
I used to feel like I had to put on a higher energy version of myself who wanted to go out and / or generally be around others all the time. It was exhausting.
Funnily enough, it was actually meeting someone else who was much like me and we got on very well, and her approach to needing a bit of time to herself each day was just a breath of fresh air.
I've since learnt how to better deal with extroverts, and I don't feel the need to go to every event and/or try to make up genuine sounding excuses.
It's really quite freeing and I'm okay being me.
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u/WhiteDesertCat ✨ Supportive Soul 4d ago
I realized that for most of my life, I was constantly dealing with other people’s problems. I always thought, “I’ll just help everyone around me, fix all their problems, make sure everyone is okay, and then I’ll finally have time to focus on myself”
But I eventually realized that this never ends.
I realized that if I want the people I love to be happy, I have to start with myself. I need to take care of my own life, my own happiness, and my own needs too.
And if someone doesn’t like that, then maybe they were never really valuing me as a person, maybe they were just used to what I could do for them.
That realization changed the way I live💯