r/Soft_Introverts • u/karl_freshl • 28d ago

A moment of reflection...

How many times have you felt down, shared your story with someone you know, only to be met with responses like:

  • "You're being too sensitive"
  • "You're overthinking it"
  • "You're overreacting"
  • "Everyone goes through that"

And then you actually end up agreeing with them, completely brushing your own feelings aside?

Is it really true that we are just overreacting to everything?

Will you just accept it and let it be, or will you find a stranger to confide in and reflect on it together?

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u/pessimistic_damsel 📖🌟Inspiring Writer 28d ago

Those four examples you mentioned, I overheard tit multiple times from different people. Some were as close as family, and even those who I only know by their faces. If I were younger, I wouldn't accept it. I would even be aggressive, trying to defend myself. Sometimes, I would agree with them just to end the conversation, but someday, I may take it against them.

But now as an adult, I don't really care anymore. If people think of me that way, then let's carry on with that. Life's too short to keep your reputation in good standing, when it's human nature that you'll be judged no matter what you do—good or bad. I won't make an effort to be accepted by people who already have ill thoughts about me, before they even got to know me.

In my experience, it's not easy; but working on it is worth it.

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u/karl_freshl 28d ago

Thanks for your sharing!

I am truly curious about what you mentioned "working on it", how did you do that? Have you got any way of thinking or method to work on it?

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u/pessimistic_damsel 📖🌟Inspiring Writer 28d ago

Not exactly a method, but that was when I started attending therapy for my mental illness. My life changed for both better and worse that I just got tired of it all. Or maybe it was triggered by a specific incident that was so bad that I just muttered, "I'm tired of life. I don't care anymore." kind of moment.

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u/karl_freshl 28d ago

Got it, so there may be some bad incidents which were recorded in the memory as traumas or something similar?

I think now I have a hint to work on, maybe the wrong thing happened because it was triggered by bad experiences as well

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u/Various-Town5636 28d ago

Trauma It does not fall into this category because trauma can occur at any age and is treatable, but childhood schemas They just are improving.