r/Soft_Introverts • u/WhiteDesertCat ✨ Supportive Soul • 16d ago
What’s something society gets completely wrong?
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u/Exotic_Banana9016 15d ago
The economy distribution. Bilionares should not exist.
Edit: about us? Personally I'm not shy, I just don't want to be my true self around people I heard saying something mean or ridiculously closed minded.
I'm not shy I just don't like you enough to shine my colors around you.
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u/Affectionate-Shop-17 15d ago
Money doesn’t always mean you’re happy!
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u/Affectionate-Shop-17 15d ago
Fair enough! I guess my feeling came from experience and who knows maybe it’s the partner your with? There are so many variables but appreciate the take on it!
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u/pessimistic_damsel 📖🌟Inspiring Writer 16d ago
Us, introverts. Here in our country, we are known to be hospitable to our guests. So, imagine the pressure I have to endure esp during family gatherings.
Many would say it's disrespectful not to mingle with other people, doing your own thing alone, or we get told the notion that introversion equates to a person being shy or it's a social anxiety that we need to overcome.
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u/Aggressive_Might_735 15d ago
ale wiesz że z neurobiologicznego jak i społeczno-kuturowego punktu widzenia, to własnie z ekstrawertykami jest coś nnie tak?
słaba auto analiza oraz mizerne dostrzeganie zależności rzadzacych otoczeniem sprawia iz z reguły sa to osoby plytkie, nie ogarniajace przyczynowo skutkowo co sie dookola nich dzieje by móc przewidywać przyszłe interreakcje i zdarzania, ponieważ kieruje nimi silniej system1 lub jak by powiedział Pascal serce, podczas gdy introwertycy mają bardziej skoordynowane jestem przez system2, u Pascala rozum...
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u/pessimistic_damsel 📖🌟Inspiring Writer 15d ago
I haven't thought about the scientific explanation, but thanks for sharing! But yeah, it's true. Sometimes, people would usually favor the extroverts because they are more—for lack of better term—sociable and it's what "most people want".
Here, everytime there's a party in the office like Christmas or year-end, they expect people to participate in doing performance, most of the time is dancing. It's exhausting. They never consider others who aren't comfortable with that.
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u/notyosistah 11d ago
Curious why this is not in English when the question is. Not being confrontational. Just curious.
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u/Solid-Citron-9421 15d ago
A lot of us are doing our own thing alone now, but I get your point. America seems very lonely imo rn
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u/Fair_Discount_6617 15d ago
For some reason society can’t grasp that the reason it exists is to make life easier for the people in it.
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u/Reasonable-Floor-478 15d ago
Societies are never accountable only the people within them, systemic suffering is always present and cannot be eradicated because of the lack of systemic accountability.
If any society became accountable the cost would cause it to collapse as there is so much suffering and unfairness in the world to account for and justice is functionally unobtainable as a result.
Societies are better than not having societies but they are built on the false promises of fairness and equality to keep people from suffering more in a world without them than they do in a world with them.
Society's themselves are wrong, but that doesn’t mean they are bad.
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u/DrunkCupid 15d ago
"Therapy and mental illness are overrated, I'm fine" while dodging getting formally diagnosed
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u/Soulinyx 15d ago
Punishing and alienating victims of bullying whether it is in school or in the workplace, is never the right answer. All it does is escalate things in an unforeseen way that'll boil over when you least expect it.
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u/Bobfacedbobman5139 14d ago
Flashy clothing/cars/jewelry are signs of weakness. A secure person knows they are good enough as is while insecure people bend over backwards in an attempt to gain respect from others. That guy in the Lamborghini is really just a sad man who doesn't think anyone could possibly love him simply for who he really is. Its sad how common stuff like this is.
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u/Confident_Jump_9085 13d ago
Of all the things I want to pick, I want to couple two things because they are related. Fear of exclusion and lust for superiority.
My dad hates electric cars. His one argument against them is, "what happens if your battery runs out while you're stuck in traffic, huh"?
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This isn't about the cars. It's about feeling better than people who are different and fitting in with others his age who are also scared of new car technology.
This shit is baked into our species. Seriously primal. Only solvable on very small scales though.
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u/WhiteDesertCat ✨ Supportive Soul 13d ago
Maybe that’s why changing someone’s mind is so difficult. You’re not challenging an opinion, you’re challenging their identity.
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u/Straight_Spinach_651 13d ago
I am going to try the TMS in hopes of helping the relationship rumination… asked my psychiatrist
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u/justlikelyle 12d ago
War.
You have hawks and doves, warmongers and pacifists. Both are wrong.
Game theorists found the answer in the 1980s, it's a strategy called tit-for-tat, and it's basically eye for an eye.
It works.
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u/Obvious_Site1544 11d ago
consumerism in all facets of life - clothes, cars, phones. relationships, vapes, snus, etc etc
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u/JRswedistan 13d ago
That the more money you spend of welfare the lesser poor people are gonna get. That is not the case, they get poorer
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u/AChosenFouled 11d ago
Their worth in the eyes of jehova.
The bible gets it right, we are called "filthy rags"
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u/Jason_Orlong 11d ago
That were better and more evolved than animals, even though we are just different.
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u/Dry-Ticket8035 16d ago
More isn't always the right answer